Feeling guilty about masturbating

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  1. confused_lad

    confused_lad New Member

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    Hey guys, i'm back :p

    So I asked my girlfriend why we don't sleep with eachother more often, and hmm this is hard to translate as we speak german with eachother :p (no it's not a way of turining eachother on ;-) well I said that I would like it if we got intimate more often and she said that she doesnt feel the same way, or that she doesn't "need" to be sexual as much as I do..
    So I masturbate quite regularly.. and then after having my orgasm, I feel guilty for doing it, because I feel like I'm "cheating" on her in a way.. you know what I mean?

    Would just like some of your guys views on it =)
     
  2. heelfetish

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    What you're experiencing is perfectly normal, and there is no need to feel guilty about it. You are not cheating on her in any way. :)
     
  3. igor

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    The only time masturbation is bad is if it takes the place of "real sex" so often that your partner is left wanting.
     
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    missyhuggins New Member

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    You have a need that she's not filling so you're taking care of it yourself. There's nothing wrong with that, it's not anoher woman.
     
  5. Dreama

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    There's nothing wrong with it. It's perfectly natural and extremely healthy
     
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    Your body, your needs, your sexuality.
    You eat when hungry, drink when thirsty and sleep when tired.
    Nobody owns those attributes other than yourself so why the hand up?
     
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    thanks guys and girls ;-)
     
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    yep it's absolutely fine. You're not cheating on her, your just making up for the libido difference which is pretty common between couples. I'm sure you wont, but only if you replace your hand with another woman (or man :p) then it's classed as cheating.

    No need to feel guilty.

    Emm x
     
  9. spaceforme

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    I dont feel that I get sex as often from my girlfriend as I would like it. I probably masturbate 2-4 times per week depending on several other things.. I dont feel guilty, but my girlfriend doesnt approve. I told her It would be less if we have sex more, but sadly that didnt bring on more sex. I think that masturbation in a relationship is perfectly normal and should not be a problem.
     
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    i think it's perfectly normal for boys/ men to masturbate.. don't worry too much about it :)
     
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    It depends who this guilty is you are feeling when masturbating.
     
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    I don't get girls who don't like their boyfriends masturbating?! My guy does, (we call it "being naughty") and I sometimes ask him "when was the last time you were naughty?". He hasn't done at all over the last few days, I've kept him more than satisfied! (see 'my story' in general sex discussions).

    Confused Lad, please don't feel guilty. I have gone through times feeling like your girl does, just not all that interested in sex. I felt incredibly guilty not wanting to do to my man what he deserved. (again, see 'my story'). The best thing you can do for her is be patient, and wank all you like!
     
  13. Hot Wheels

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    Exactly right.....it's your willy....and you can wash it just as fast as you like:brow
     
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    don't be.. this comes natural. in fact, i even read somewhere that we guys need to "unload" every so often. otherwise, we increase our risk of prostate cancer


     
  15. HardRocker

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    The cancer connection is not proven but I believe it to be true, it just makes sense(I'm only an amateur doctor). Like I always say, use it or lose it.
     
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    Masturbation is perfectly normal. Dont worry!
     
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    Re: No wonder you're confused!

    Consider changing your name to "Lusty Lad"! Thank God you've got a good hard-on to whack off! The day will come when may miss it! Look at every orgasm you have as something gained.

    Guilt is definitely not the way to go!

    Ask your gf for help. Ask her to kiss you or caress your belly while you whack yourself off! I do that with my gf when she's on her period. It's fun! Break down those barriers!
     
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    Dude, you are 19, young dumb and full of well....cum...Lol... I remember when I was 19 I wanted it 24-7. So yes i did quite often even though in a relationship. Didn`t feel guilty either.
     
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    ok, i mean.. i do maturbate pretty often, and im in a relationship! i dont feel guilty, thats what i need :)

    but i think it mainly depends on what you think about hey?
    --->do you think about her? or someone else?

    because if i think of someone else, i really do beleive im cheating even if the other person is a random actor!!!

    *** :cool ***
     
  20. HardRocker

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    I think that falls under the fantasy category, and fantasies are generally healthy normal thoughts; even if it is a fantasy about someone you know. I don't consider it cheating, but I can see how you could feel a little weird about it.