[Ask a Girl] Feeling down

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  1. jj8989

    jj8989 New Member

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    I have been living with my gf for almost two years now. Our sex is really great. she squirts all the time. But I only have 5in and 4 grith. She has had lots of big dicks like 8 and 9in, and tells me that they hurt her. She tells me I am the best she has ever had in bed. I just find that so so hard to beleave. Because I am that small. I really dont know and I think about it all the time. she never will call my dick small even tho I do all the time. I mean we are thinking about a threesome some time because we are very out going people like that but I am so down all the time about my dick size. I would be so scared of an other girl laughing at me. And I am also scard that she might leave me some day because she wants some one bigger. So ok girls do I really have anything to worry about do you think or want. I mean can you really have the best sex of your like with a 5in,4grith? And should I be scared of other girls laughing at me if we do stuff with other people later on?
     
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    For one you have what you have, and if you are still getting it, it must not be too bad. Do some searches on the forum and you will see answers from women on the subject. At some point I think every guy wishes their junk was bigger but no pill for that yet
     
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    Ditto.

    You need to accept your body for what it is. I think you need to do some deep thinking about what the root of this issue is. She is happy with the sex and your body. You are happy with the sex. As far as that's concerned, I don't see the issue or the reason for the obsession over penis size.

    At the end of the day, a penis is a penis is a penis. It's all about what the person it's attached to can do.
     
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    You should trust and believe what your gf of two years tells you. She tells you that you are the best - so relax and enjoy her. Why look for something to worry about?
     
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    I'm not gonna sugar coat this. Your will never do porn (and i'm a member of hte same club so it's not to be mean) but who fucking cares? She's squirting and have a great sex life, better to have a "small dick" and a great sex life, than a 9 incher that hurts her and makes sex painful when it should be pleasurable. As far as a threesome, if it happens it happens. It makes her a bitch, which is worse than a "small dick." She sounds very happy, emotionally and physically with your dick size, i wouldn't worry about it, it does not impeded on her sex life, in fact you're th best. Means you have skillz a 9 incher cannot provide. So chin up buddy! :) Nothing you can do about your dick size, so make the best of it. You certainly have sexually with your woman (you can't fake squirts, well you can but it's fairly obvious when it happens), now make the best of it emotionally and accept yourself as you are :)
     
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    The first guy I had sex with was 8 inches. It was painful and he didn't know how to use it. The guy I married is 5.5 inches. He's amazing and pleases me better then any other man has.

    Listen to your girl.
     
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    good advice in and out of the bed room
     
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    You have to stop obsessing about this. If she's happy and satisfied you've done it...your awesome. What might backfire on you is the negative light you cast on yourself. My experience is that people (not just women) grow tired of folks who are continually down on themselves. You dont want this lovely girl to move on because she has grown tired of listening to you beat yourself up. Work that thing dude.
     
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    Whatever shes still fucking you, so get over it. So dont have a threesome then. Easy fix.
     
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    JJ8989, Ditto all the above posts.
    You got a good dick, know how to use it well so what is the problem?
    Should you ever get in a threesome situation, same deal........use it how you know.
    If the third party does like it then don't waste your talent on her.
     
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    If you are concerned, then don't do a two woman threesome. I have had a few and they were nice, but it takes a really sexually confident and experienced man to handle two women at the same time. As far as your size goes, there's nothing you can do about it so do the best with what you have.

    I'm a member of the big dick club and I do enjoy it, but it has it's own set of challenges. My thickness means if have to be careful not to take too long or else we both get rubbed raw, oral sex is an issue, anal sex only twice in my life. But I'm not going to sugar coat it either that size for me is part of who I am, and what I have done in the past and what I do in the present. That is my size gave me confidence, and that's really what good sex is all about. But sexual confidence comes from what you achieve with what you have too.
     
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    There was a swinger here at SF for years, I think it was Elvis, look his posts up. He had a 4 inch dick and he and his wife fucked all kinds of people all the time. He said no woman had ever had a complaint, not even a comment about the 4 inches. You keep moping around complaining about your dick and your wonderful woman is going to get sick of your un-masculine behavior and ditch you for a guy who likes himself. FWIW, mine is 5.5 inches, just like a huge portion of the world's dicks. That's pretty much standard equipment. So don't be an idiot and enjoy what you have, which apparently works just fine. Maybe you need to do the opposite of what most guys are told to do; think with your dick head instead of your head head.:lol Just kidding... comic relief.
     
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    so, why are you feeling down?
     
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    Exactly! I had a friend once with whom I spent countless evenings trying to convince him that no he was not ugly, yes he did have things to offer a girl, no he would not remain single all his life, yes he was sexy - or at least he would be if he let himself go and stopped feeling so negative.

    He wasn't a boyfriend, but the point is eventually I gave up because I clearly wasn't helping him and for whatever reason, he just preferred to continue believing that he was a lost case. He was actually good looking and could have had great success with the girls but I was so turned off by his complaining and insecurity that I never even considered dating him.

    My point is, as the others have said, you obviously know what you are doing in bed and your gf is clearly satisfied. There are many reasons to stay with someone and many to leave but I very, very, very much doubt that any woman would leave a man solely because his dick isn't the largest she could find.
     
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    ditto.
     
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    I think you are so so so right I have to stop obsessing over it because I know that if I keep talking about it years down the road she will get tired of it because she is some now. And thank you to every one on here you have made me alot happier you have no idea. I have to just leave it go and have fun witch I do now in bed but you know what I mean. Oh lol and one good thing about my dick size is I am the only guy to do her up the bum lol because of my size. Well thanks again to everyone on here for writing back. This is my first time in doing something like this on the net but I dont think it will be my last. :)
     
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    Well you found the right place here to ask. Some places on the web just give you mean comments from clueless idiots to make you feel worse. Now, after you find something more fun to think about, come back and entertain us with your freshly cleared wits.
     
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    i'm glad we could help :) and we appreciate you not posting pix of it, some go into this story "am i big enough" just as an excuse to show off their dick. I'm glad we could alieve your genuine insecurities, and yes that's one good thing average guys have over huge guys, we get lot more anal sex from our women lol