Hi all, I need your perspective on this. I just recently read that 1 out of 4 women (and 1 out of 5 men) in the U.S. has genital herpes. This scared the bageezes out of me. Now every attractive women I see, I think she probably has herpes. And what's more, I don't think I can have sex with a new love interest without getting her tested first, which can really ruin the flow of things. I know herpes itself isn't that harmful, but if I get it, I'm gonna ethically have to tell every future person before things get serious, and 99% of them will probably run away, which means end of sex life. So I'd like to know how you feel about this: 1. If you started a new relationship, would you get both of you tested first before having any sort of sex? (they say genital herpes can be passed to the mouth as well, and transmission can happen without outbreaks, and condoms don't protect the guy because most vaginal herpes happen on the outside where condom doesn't protect) 2. If not, how do you reconcile taking this chance? I'm very worried, and if there's some reasoning out there that can relieve me of this paranoia that'd be great. Thanks!