Fantasy to watch my wife with another man?

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by haircop, Jan 25, 2011.

  1. haircop

    haircop New Member

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    OK, I have never "posted" to this or ANY other board, so here goes. I'm trying to figure out why I'm so fucked up that I have this secret fantasy to watch my wife fuck another man, most likely in a threesome type situation. Where does this stem from? I have been very happily married to her for 20 years with an awesome sex life, but this has just recently risen to the surface. Thankfully, my wife is very cool and didn't freak out on me when we were talking recently about our sex life and I brought it up. She said that she might be open to it (if it really meant that much to me) but it would need to be SUPER thought out, etc. She mostly says "that sounds like a fantasy that will probably just never come true" based on possible jealousy issues, drama, etc. I am not bi-sexual, I have NO interest in touching another dude, but I want to see the pleasure on my wife's face while getting it on with another man while I am with her....what the fuck is wrong with me? It is my "go-to" fantasy when I am masturbating on my own, especially when I want to finish quickly....HELP!! And please do not reply to this post with things like "well where do you live, I will come help you, HAHA!"...I am serious.
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    A lot of guys (and girls) have this fantasy.......wether it comes to fruition or not depends on those involved and if they both share the same thoughts.

    I'm sure others will be along soon to offer their thoughts as well....:D

    I have moved this thread to the fantasy section ok....

    Welcome to SF haircop....:welcome

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    FlirtyChick Gold Member

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    There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you? Fantasies are a very important part of a sexual being, and the one you are relaying is very common. I think it is super great that you already talked to your wife about it, and that she welcomes the fantasy into your bed. It sounds like the two of you have excellent communication, which is essential for a great sex life. Keep it a fantasy unless you are positive that any ventures in this direction can result in not only sexual pleasure while keeping your marriage strong and intact. I have personal experience with this if you would like to PM me.

    Welcome to SF:eyes
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    nurseharley Gold Member

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    maybe you just like the thought of watching your wife in action?

    ive always wondered why it's not enough to maybe just record yourselves fucking and watch her fuck you but hey, what floats your boat
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    Lots of men have this fantasy, and often it involves a well-hung man as well. I have been there as the well-hung man with the other man's wife, and he did, truly, get off on watching his wife and I have sex. Not get off in a masturbation sense; that would have been too freaky for moi. No, he was at the end of the bed, watching... I'm not sure what happened after we finished and recovered, and after I left. Maybe he fucked her senseless, who knows?

    I have a couple of theories: one is that he is giving the woman he loves something he can't give her himself. The other is along the lines of somewhatlovely, and that is the excitement of watching your wife in action.

    In the scenario I was involved in I felt the fantasy was about both: size and watching.

    In my case it was hot being the centre of attention like that: knowing this guy was watching her and me, watching me and every stroke! But that's another fantasy, I think.
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    Hi haircop, this is actually a very common desire/fantasy and there are many threads on the subject here if you have time to check around.
    Personally I do not understand the motivation(s) involved but as SWL said "whatever rocks your boat".
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    Not my cup of tea. I could not watch or even think of the one I love fucking another guy. But that's my opinion and maybe my Italian jealousy but to each their own and if it works for you and yours then damn have fun and be safe.
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    yes very common indeed. for me it stemed from a desire to share my hot wife with someone else. to have her show some one other than me that she is sexualy atractive and that men really want her.
    we are actualy planning our third outing now.
    take your time and be openminded and I think you will be pleasently suprised at how much fun your missing. your wife will need to have this desire as well and she should pick her partner. sorta like skins and shirts I recomend you all look over a couple of the swinger lifestyle sites to see if your intrest is real or only fantasy . my wife was the one that came to me with the idea and I have had a great time indulging in her wishes.
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    hey there welcome to sf!!!!

    i too have this fantasy, it is at the top and what i use to cum quickly while jacking alone as well. i know how you feel i want as far to tell her i wouldnt be around while it happened,so abit over a year ago she agreed to give head to an old friend of her's, i was so turned on i couldnt take it and went out there and watched, it was so hott, couple months later she actually wanted to blow us at the same time, and she did. i took a condom hoping to go all the way, but we both came before anything. it was hot hot hot!!!!and is wat i think about when i jack off.unfortunately he wanted more and more and wouldnt leave her alone so we cut him out of our lifes.i dont know what it is, i mean i dont get the same feeling when i watch our own porn,its just the idea that my amazing woman is sharing her greatness with other men, i dont know it just feels great and drive me crazy!!!!
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    Not only is it a common fantasy, there are several couples that actually engage in it. Just look at some of the cuckold websites out there. It is practised in a variety of scenarios encompassing a full range of intensity regarding domination, humiliation, participation, etc.
    I have participated with a few couples at the softer end of the cuck spectrum. Every instance proved to be very enjoyable for all involved.
    Like others have said, "whatever floats your boat".
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    I have enjoyed the experience of seeing my wife being fucked by another man, and its a real epic turn on - well for me it is! Watching my wife's facial expressions as she's being entered by another man is so hot, hearing her moan as she's being fucked by another man increases the pleasure factor also(as I'm writing this I'm getting an erection!). Getting close to the action is inspirational! I adore watching another man's cock enter her sweet pussy and if I can I also participate by licking her pussy as she's being fucked. if the man is OK about I suck him too! Its liberating not to be confined within set limits which society places upon us, we are "conditioned" to behave/conform to a set pattern and for those of us who dare step outside those "accepted" boundaries, the intolerance can be shocking! To finish on a positive note, an ex gf of mine once entertained myself and two friends, now that was something special!

    namaste:)
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    Could also be an outlet for cheating. Many men don't want to cheat, but still want novelty in their relationship. Because they don't allow themselves to cheat it may come out in other ways i.e. the wife becomes the 'cheater' - the man gets off because his sexual feelings are so wrapped up in hers.
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    It's a pretty common fantasy topic on a lot of boards and definately some hot stuff. However, that shouldn't take away from your fantasy at all. It's a special occassion whenever we choose to share anything so personally. I'm not sure we would actually do it, but we do talk about it.
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    I have many fantasies involving my wife and other men and/or couples. Let me say she is 17 yrs. younger than me. I would love to watch her fuck younger men hung bigger than me (not so big it hurts her), preferably black men (black on white is a huge turn on for me). I would be willing to lick her clean and such him clean and hard for a 2nd go-around if she wanted me to. I'd also love to watch her and another girl play and eat each other. We have talked about all this and the idea turns her on but she has not agreed to any of it. To talk about these fantasies does lead to some totally awesome sex sessions for us both.
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    Like others have stated, this is a common fantasy amongst men, and you are not fucked up. It's pretty cool that your wife left the door open a crack saying she might be open to it. I'll tell you I've been involved in a MFM threesome twice in my life. Once with my former wife (of 12+ years); and another with a g/f from several years ago. Although neither lived up to the fantasy, both were fun and non-threatening. Having said that, both women are former relationships, so to what degree the threesome experience played into it is still not something I am sure of. You do have to accept the fact that experimenting with such things can go wrong, but then again, if a relationship is going stale, maybe this hastens the inevitable anyway. I cannot answer for you, but for me there are multiple reasons why the MFM fantasy turns me on. Number One, to make things exciting in a relationship. After being with the same woman for months/years, I'm sorry but whether you have a strong love and commitment or not, things do get stale and boring with just the plain vanilla sex that many out there are content with. Many of the things others do to spice up their sex lives are boring to me, but sex with another person is a bit dangerous, and therefore more exciting. Maybe you too have it in you to want to live life on the edge a bit. Number Two, the evolution of a fetish. I've read that certain fetishes and/or fantasies may be the result of something that occured earlier in a person's life that may have been traumatic; or certain psycho-sexual theory has it that it is replacement for something that was lacking in the early stages of one's development. I am not an expert by any means, however I do recall as a teen, another boy made fun of my penis being small, and calling me names that others heard. Well, truth is, I am actually not small (I am average at 6") and have never had any women in relationships that have ever complained about my size. But the ridicule may have affected me in ways that my logical, rational mind could not compensate for. Thus, for me, there is something within my psyche that wants to have another man with a very large dick pleasing my woman in ways that I cannot. I suppose this borderlines cuckold fantasy, though I am not wanting complete humiliation. And, through the years, this subconscious desire has evolved into a strong fetish, the need to involve large cocks, whether viewing on porn videos, or having large dildos, etc. involved in our sexual play. Most of the women I have been with have indulged me in this, however I am still trying to ascertain whether or not women orgasm more strongly because of larger penises or not. Sometimes I get the feeling they do, but then again, maybe they are getting more turned on because I am getting more turned on. They always tell me the bigger size doesn't matter, but I still wonder. Anyway, to my credit I guess, it does matter to me that they are getting pleasured, and I do want them to have the strongest possible orgasm! Well, these are a few of my thoughts; this is getting longer than I had intended. I'd certainly like to hear more from you or other guys with this proclivity, as it is rather fascinating, don't your think?!?! hahaha
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    Nope your not fucked up and a lot of guys have this fantasy.

    what gets me though is you say

    If your wife isn't keen on the idea and is doing it for you, you may not get the reaction from her that you are wanting
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    Missie: I think you're mixing quotes from two different guys here. I am not now married and generally don't use the term "dude", however, I do share the same overall desire as the other poster where my primary sexual driver is my woman getting it from another guy(s), instead of myself being physically involved with the other man. The nuance in this for me though is that due to my fetish, I have a level of curiosity about pleasing a penis, if only it weren't for the fact that it was also attached to another living, breathing, thinking, feeling human being! From sports and working out, I've been in shower areas in men's locker rooms all my life, and I can honestly say I've never become erect/excited from looking at another naked man and thinking about being with them myself. Where I HAVE felt a rise, is when I've seen a good looking guy in great shape with a huge cock, and I visualize my girl sucking on him, or getting pounded. I do my best to distract myself in this situation! haha :eyes
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    JTS,
    I posted before I've had quite a few heterosexual threesomes of this type, and I"m the man with the big cock. In all cases the husband of the woman expressed a desire for a threesome including a large penis and let her choose the man, or actually contacted me first before telling his wife. The other ingredients had to be there as well, and my cock size wasn't ever going to get me across the line on it's own.

    I do enjoy these threesomes from a number of perspectives. I like the ultimate pleasure a woman gets from being ravished by two men! I like to watch a couple fucking on the same bed after I've had my turn and before I have my next turn. I like it when I'm being watched while a fuck a hot woman who's having a great time. The first one, the pleasure women get from this, is what does it most for me, but the husbands obviously have a thing about large penises and, to an extent, talk their wives into a threesome in order to resolve this fantasy.

    All of the threesomes have been wonderful, all of the women had great times (sounds like a fantasy, but it's true), and I don't think any of the relationships would have suffered as a result of once-off sex with me. They had their fantasy, and I had the feeling that if things were going to go any further, it would have been two-couple swinging as the next step.
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    Thanks for the reply. It's interesting getting feedback from the other guy! Can you elaborate a bit more on the conversation you had or may have had with the other couples? In particular, did the wives say anything after the fact like, "oh honey, you were right, his cock was huge and I loved it, can't wait to do this again"? Or, did they talk about what eventually led to the threesome happening (ie. what persuaded the wife or g/f to go through with it)? My current g/f gets into the fantasy talk and orgasms strongly as a result, but she still clings to the keeping it a fantasy posture. We've been together three years. I know other ladies on this site have said alchohol could push them over the line, but not sure how much of that is just kidding. Appreciate your input!
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    The pre-sex conversations have been, from the wife's perspective, he wanted us to and I agreed, and sometimes he said it had to be with a guy with a big cock. I have a profile on a swingers Internet site and it has both pictures of my body and my cock, and some words about me including my dimensions. It's well-written, as I'm a published author so I know how to build a nice, flowing paragraph or three.

    I also emphasise that I'm mature and professional.

    No woman has ever mentioned sex being better because of my size, and the most recent said, when asked by her husband when we were in the spa afterwards, that it didn't make any difference (it may or it may not, but it was very mature for thing for her to say).

    EVERY SINGLE WOMAN WAS UNBELIEVABLY HOT FOR THREESOME SEX BY THE TIME WE MET. It didn't matter if it was his fantasy, by the time it was really close to actually DOING IT, they self-professed being 'wet with excitement' and more. They were lovely women, every single one, and if you knew them you'd never know that group sex would turn them on so much! As for me, of course, I'm much more nervous than those women, as you can imagine.

    Another common thread was these women were HOT, not in a beauty sense but in totally being into great sex sense. Not like my wife, not like women I used to date, to be true not like any women I've ever known. Their husbands may have had the fantasy, but they also knew their wives were up to it, and more (much more as I posted before, and I'm almost certain that multiple couple swinging would have been the next step for those lucky couples).

    So, in short, it takes a certain type of woman.
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