Fantasies of Wife's Cooperation

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Logger, Aug 31, 2006.

  1. Logger

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    There are things that I have not asked my wife for. There are sexual pleasures that I occasionally receive from my wife, but hesitate to ask for those positons as often as the desire might occur to me.

    One thing I would like more frequently is for my wife to lie beside me, with my thigh between her legs, and her breasts against my chest. I sometimes ask her, and mostly she avoids my request. Sometimes she goes along with me.

    I started this thread as a permission to express ideas that that I would like, so as to remind myself of what I could work toward in my realtionship with my wife. Being faithful should be easier if I do more to please my wife, so she might be more willing to do more to please me.

    Escort services advertize the fulfillment of fantasies. A wife is kind of like a resident escort service. I could probably do more toward living my dreams.
     
  2. Bluesy

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    Fidelity can be very challenging sometimes, eh? I'm sure most people would agree with that.

    I think you're right on about having to give to get. Especially where women are concerned because sex is largely psychological for us. If we're not in a good place mentally or dissatisfied with the way things are going in the relationship, it isn't going to happen. Or at least it isn't going to happen the way the guy would like for it to happen. The female libido is very sensitive to emotional stress.

    Maybe you could approach this from a woman's perspective. Besides pleasing her in bed, is there anything you can do outside of the bedroom that would make her happy? Women love it when their man offers to do housework. Really, it can be that simple. Little gestures that make her feel loved and appreciated can go a long, long way. Off the top of my head, you could buy her a sexy negligee or teddy and tell her that you saw it and couldn't help thinking about how incredibly hot she would look in it. That would say "you're beautiful to me." A romantic dinner is always nice, a present, flowers, etc.

    Just my little opinion, I think it's also important to recognize that some fantasies are going to remain fantasies because husbands and wives will have their boundaries that they don't feel comfortable exceeding. Fantasy is good, though. It adds a flavor of mystery to life. And oftentimes fantasy fulfillment doesn't live up to expectations, so it can be more fun to think about it than do it. But perhaps you'll get to explore some of these fantasies with your wife. (I hope you do!) Then you can tell us all about it. (You'd better! :D )