My girlfriend said she has never orgasmed with a partner. She is able to orgasm by herself, though. With a partner she gets close to orgasm but will stop you at that point. Her explanation is that it gets too intense, and if the partner persisted she ended up really angry or even crying. Secondary anorgasmia is common, however I would like to know what I could do and if it is possible to overcome this block. There are a number of psychological factors involved: (1) she was raised in an extremely religious family where sex was always portrayed as negative, (2) she was molested at 8 years of age and never believed, (3) her first sexual experience was almost forced, while she just wanted foreplay, the man penetrated her without her expecting it, (4) she has had several other partners that seem to have been clumsy and unknowing about sexual technique. There maybe other things leading to this block. Orgasm is largely about relaxing as far as I have read... I suggested that perhaps we masturbate together to see if she would get comfortable with me in a supporting role. Also we could get drunk or perhaps try marijuana (I have never tried it before) to relax her and minimize inhibitions. An option would be to see a counselor, however I am not sure she would consider such an option. What other suggestions would you have for us and specifically for me in this situation? Most of my other partners were able to orgasm. I am largely a giver during sexual play, and like to explore all possible erogenous areas over the entire body. I am also usually able to make many women come just through extensive oral stimulation without penetration. Now, though, I am frustrated and even though I get her pre-orgasmic, she stops me abruptly, and pushes me away, which really makes me upset. She does get highly aroused and lubricated. I don't want to push as that would put presure and make it even harder for her to orgasm, but I am frustrated and unsatisfied. What do I do?