Eye Contact During a BJ

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  1. Flame

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    In another thread, it was mentioned that making eye contact with the man while giving him a blow job is really sexy. I do it because I know that guys find it sexy and I also like to see his face and expressions. But I was just wondering why exactly men find this such a turn on.

    Is it because the girl is showing that she is really enjoying what she is doing? (When I see the girl looking up at the guy in porn, she is usually smiling too.)

    Is it because she looks confident when she looks up at him and that gives the message that she is experienced and that he'll have a good time with her?

    Or something else?

    And are there any men who don't find this sexy?
     
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    I think it's definitely the knowing she's enjoying it, but I think it's also that making eye contact makes it more personal, more intimate.
     
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    Eye contact puts it over the top...it's a confidence thing I think. She's enjoying herself and making the guy feel good and knows it. It's like, "This is what I can do to you, and I like it>"
     
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    For me it is all the reasons you mention Flame buts most of all it is the implied wickedness or naughtiness of the act and the merriment reflecting in the eyes that is the most powerful signal.
     
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    i don't like it at all. i hate it when she looks at me while sucking me.
     
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    however, here of late, i like her to hum "The yellow rose of Texas" and beat me across the balls with a hairbrush while sucking my dick. Is that weird? :p
     
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    Why is that 33Stack are you thinking it demeaning she giving you head?
    Not being judgemental just trying to understand.
    Different folks & different strokes but all ok.
     
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    Its a massive turn on for me because it shows me that the woman is confident. A confident lover is a great lover. The eye contact basically says, " I wanna eat you up and I'm loving it". Its so sexy when a woman that wants to suck cock does it. She is doing it because she wants it and she is letting you know she wants it.

    I have had blowjobs from girls that don't really like doing it. And it never feels as great as the ones that love sucking. Their hearts are just not in it. Are maybe they are grossed out by the Idea.
     
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    no, not at all. i think im just self conscious.
     
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    This is an interesting question...

    I've always loved the eye contact - but this question had me trying to figure out why.

    Near as I can figure out, it's because, when she looks at me, it creates the impression that she's trying to gauge my reactions, or see for herself that she's having a profound affect on me at the moment. I guess that makes her look more interested in me, and not merely focused robotically on the task at hand.

    Plus, twinkling eyes are just way sexier than the top of someone's head...
     
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    Seeing a pair of lustful eyes looking up at me while her mouth is wrapped around me. It could pretty easily push me over the edge. I love gorgeous eyes as is, so when ours meet, it only enhances what is already an extremely intimate moment.

    It also makes it seem like she's enjoying performing the act, which is huge for me. I don't want a woman who just goes through the motions. I want all parties to enjoy it. I want her to look up with that lustful, mischievous gaze, seeing the effect each bob of her head has on me.
     
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    Maybe it's the angle I'm using when I give the boyfriend oral, but when I look up to his eyes I have to look way up with my eyebrows up and so on. It makes my eyes look very big and he likes it when my eyes are big.

    However, he's also said that he likes it when I don't look up at him, but stay focused on what I'm doing. He says it's a bigger turn-on to see me working away than to have me look up at him.

    I think I agree with him. When he's giving me oral, he glances up at me every little while. I feel like saying, "Yes yes, everything's fine up here, concentrate on what you're doing."
     
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    That's a point, Meee, what about the other way around? Is it also a turn on for women if the man looks us in the eye while he's giving oral? I actually prefer him not to; I prefer that he be so into what he's doing that he almost forgets that the rest of me exists at all. Is that odd?
     
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    I really don't care one way or another if she is looking at me. I do, however, want to be able to see what see is doing. Watching her is more of a turn-on.
     
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    Always been a huge turn on for me too.. I think it also has something to do with confidence. You're looking at a sexy woman who wants to please and she knows she is doing just that.
     
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    I don't know why, but eye contact is a critical component to a great BJ. If the eyes are the window to the soul, it's good to see the soul you love gettin' sloppy!
     
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    BINGO!!! Mee 2 !! Thanx 4 giving me the words! :)
     
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    It's a must for me. My girl has the sexiest eyes. Drives me wild. They are green with a little orange ring inside that is very noticeable when she's turned on. The "fire" in her eyes gets me red hot