Excuse me..

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by WC1989, Dec 19, 2014.

  1. WC1989

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    Excuse me mother, would you just stop?!

    I've caught my mother checking my bf out several times and more so lately making uncomfortable sexual comments towards him when he's not around. Anyone else have this experience?

    I am not ok with this. I brought this to my bfs attention and he just brushed it off. He's not attracted by her but gets along well with my mom. I'm not worried but him doing anything but her behavior aggravates me to no end.
     
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    Ewwww and no.

    You sound annoyed at mom. Do you have a good relationship with her? Is she jealous? Does she have a bf?
     
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    If she is a good person and morher, she would never want to make you feel uncomfortable. I would tell her how you feel. It might all be a difference in understanding
     
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    my little sis has a thing for my bf
     
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    Wow that's messed up. No I do not recall a time I've been in that situation however your bf probably just blows it off because it's an ego boost and he likes it , not that he would do anything. And I have no idea of your mother's character to tell you if she is " serious" or just lacking " opportunity " to release some flirty stuff that she is lacking .
     
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    We do not have a great relationship. You know that member of your family that you love because they are family but if they were anyone you had met elsewhere you'd despise them as a person... There ya go.
    I don't worry about my bf even going there. She is engaged to be married next month. Her relationship is fine as far as I know.
    I have spoke with her and she simply laughed. Like I said were not close.
    As far as being an ego boost...I'm sure bbw isn't too high on his to-do list. (Not to be rude but she is quite.. Pudgy? There really is no nice way of saying obese :( )
     
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    Would she do it to piss you off?
     
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    I wouldn't worry until you BF comes home with a bag of flour. LOL
     
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    If you've spoken to both and it hasn'tt stopped then I would call this a clear "put your foot down" situation. They are both disrespecting you and you have a right to be annoyed. The BF especially needs to handle up on his business and TELL Mom ENOUGH else you may be right to worry about what if he gets similar attention from someone who is more HWP? IJS
     
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    Ouch. Well I am sorry your relationship is like that with her. But I guess to keep the peace just blow it off and do your best to ignore it and hopefully your bf does not help "feed" it. But draw a line somewhere.
     
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    Then cut her out. She doesn't have to be in your life.
     
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    Maybe you mom is saying things like that to get YOUR attention,Maybe its you that she wants to have a better relationship with?
     
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    WC1989, ignore this behaviour as she is no threat but playing with your head probably is her goal.
    She is spooking you in trying out to see if her wiles still work and loving that it bothers you.
    Laughing it off as ludicrous would have been the better reaction.
     
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    It's not 'she is no threat' and this issue should be confronted. This sort of thing is common enough and it actually happened in my family with my mother's first husband and my grandmother. My grandmother's motive was not for the husband or the sex but rather to humiliate my mother. She isn't the only one with this tale to tell.
     
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    So your mom is engaged. Does he know about this?

    What do you think would happen if you and your mom were close / closer?
    Just wondering about the past and if things would be better.

    When with my ex I knew her sister had a thing for me and things would have happened if I initiated something,
    even if only kissing and touching. I fantasized several times about it during the days but I never dared cross this kind of limit.
    This is something I could have put in the "something no one knows about you"