Alright, this is something I wanted to ask girls about, because well, neither I nor my partner have any real previous experience. For me, this will be my first time, and for her, this will be her first time consensually, so we’re treating this as her first time, please respect that. We’re both 21 years old and are planning to um, do it for the first time in about two weeks. We’ve known each other for years, but because of past trauma that started when she was 6, she has never had a desire for sex up until sometime this year when we began experimenting with hypnosis. Mainly we do orgasm control, but the thing is, because she’s never had an orgasm, or really know what to expect one would feel like, all the hypnosis does is make her aroused and then sexually frustrated because before she can even peak, her body gets too tired from humping air too much, I should clarify, her body has a condition that does tire her out faster than most girls, so she gets too tired after about 10 to 20 minutes of humping air. She’s never masturbated before either, and actually does not really know how either... despite her past experiences, she is also kind of sheltered in a way, and so I just showed her where her clit was a few days ago. What occurred to me during the hypnosis though is that it would never work until she actually knows what an orgasm feels like, because a hypnosis is all in the mind, the hypnotist can implant suggestions but your mind has to make it real for you to feel the effects, and if her mind doesn’t know what an orgasm feels like, then it is impossible from the start to make it real, whereas something like tickling her or making her aroused by snapping my fingers or using some other condition is really really easy because she knows that it feels like to be tickled or aroused. That, and hypnotism is in general less effective, giving a command for her leg to feel tickled and actually tickling her leg are a full order of magnitude different in what she actually feels, she’ll feel like she’s being tickled both times but tickling her directly is something she is still going to feel more, if that makes sense. I offered to buy her a vibrator, um, actual sex has never really been something she would consider before, but she said she wanted to do it with me. This is where it gets complicated, not only are we both inexperienced virgins, but she’s a lesbian, and I’m a trans woman that also likes girls, but I’m pre-operation and still trying to get onto hormones, so I’m not actually feminized, but she wants to go all the way. My body is still male, I know it doesn’t turn her on at all, male bodies just don’t turn her on, and she’s always had an aversion to all forms of touch, even from me and I’m the person she lets touch her the most. I’m not super worried about that part though, I still know how to turn her on and make her aroused without my body, but I don’t want to resort to putting her into a trance just to get her aroused (full disclosure: the methods we use we always remember what is going on and have a way to stop it, it’s the kind of hypnosis that doesn’t take full effect until after the other person wakes up, and hypnosis can’t make you do anything you wouldn’t be willing to anyway). I want to do this with her anyway though, and she wants me to, so that part is already decided on. I want to make this special for her though, this is her real first time, and she’s never had an orgasm before, so I want her to experience one even though I’m also inexperienced. I’m actually seriously considering having a vibrator nearby just in case, one that’s non-penetrative but still effective, but rather than that, I thought to come here and ask this: What is most effective for getting you to orgasm? What spots, techniques, places can I use to show this girl, my best friend and the one I love more than anyone else in the world, her first orgasm?