Etiquette Education

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  1. 10_3XL

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    The Purpose Of This Thread:
    There are many unlisted rules and guidelines on top of those already officially established and enforced. I am hoping to get as many of these unlisted and unofficial rules/guidelines as we can think of listed and decided on as our Standard Operating Procedure here on The Forums. In other words - to establish The (Unofficial) Official Rules & Guidelines of Sexual Forums.

    All suggestions welcome. :)

    (Rob_E - delete/discontinue this thread if you think I'm overstepping my bounds here.)
     
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  2. CaramelLady

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    Nice gesture!

    I try to behave and if anyone has taken offense at something I have done, my apologies.
     
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    I was thinking of having stuff listed here to help newbies and even a few of us "old hands" learn the ropes and keep ourselves in line with the community standards.

    Example:
    Don't make your first post a picture of your genitals. At least have the decency to introduce yourself first! :)
     
  4. ilkley

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    Sounds like a good plan. It is easy for tensions to rise very quickly with forums such as this so my number one rule is always do not reply in the heat of the moment, take a moment to reflect first!
     
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    Sorry but I posted my genitals first thing, it was not apropriate and I apologize for the inconvenience I'm lucky they were not conviscated.
     
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    A few more I've got to add:
    • If you have a disagreement with a fellow member try to resolve it ASAP. If that isn't possible in a few responses In Thread then take it to Private Message or exercise the use of the Ignore feature.
    • Avoid cluttering the threads with negativity.
    • Try to stay on topic. Digression now and then is okay, but avoid completely derailing a thread.
    • Do your best to be non-judgmental. SF is all about the open and honest exchange between adults on various topics (mostly sexual).
    • Try to make sure you are not re-posting an existing topic. An exception being if the existing thread on the topic you wish to discuss is outdated/forgotten/"dead."
     
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  7. sparklez

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    I'm going to need a course on this....do you offer any SF forum degree certificate on what I should be posting so I know I'm verified or I may fail.
     
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  8. luvbug

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    Great thread Tuff Guy! :)
     
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    I thought it would be a helpful tool for both newbies and veterans. Sometimes it's good to have a source to reference when it comes to proper protocol. :)
     
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    Don't be a thin skinned little bitch. As soon as someone disagrees you quit. Support your position. Don't run. Treat it like a hockey fight. Throw your punches, then go have a beer.
     
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    Definitely agree with this sentiment - the only amendment I would make would be to try and contain it as I put in my above post. Otherwise - absolutely. :)
     
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  12. Joys

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    Good idea.. Will add as it comes to my mind.
     
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    Another related:
    Read not to contradict and confute; nor to believe and take for granted; nor to find talk and discourse; but to weigh and consider. (Francis Bacon)
     
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    One other thing ı just came across - made me laugh, thought was pathetic:
    One of our female friends has chose to put her Country visible in her profile. She then posts an introduction in the "Member Introductions" section. Everyone welcomes her but one guy pops out asking "what part of that country". She gives a kind response.

    Dudes, people may or may not want to reveal where they are. If they do, it's already in their profile, if not in profile, ask in private. Respect the privacy of others. I give the info I can openly and some more to some, don't ask me for more. I hate those asl questions.

    Wrapping it up, don't ask private questions in public... Respect others privacy concerns.
     
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    The Golden Rules:

    This is an ADULT FORUM. Acting childish generally gets you nowhere fast.

    Do stand up for what you believe, but if there is an irrevocable disagreement, agree to disagree and move on.

    This is not a pick up joint. Don't make one of your first posts a pic of your junk. Don't use a dick pic for your av. no one wants to see it every time you say something.

    There are members from all over the world. Some speak English as a second language. Remember this as you type. Don't type in textspeak or phonetic jibberish. Some can't understand this and mature adults generally don't appreciate it.

    Be yourself. If your story changes because you can't keep who you are and where you're from straight, you will quickly loose credibility. Don't post pics claiming to be of you that aren't. Someone is bound to notice.

    Don't use a female avatar if you are male and vis versa. It's misleading and confusing. Your av represents you. There is no rule about changing it, but you should try and choose something you can live with for a while. Many find it confusing if you are constantly changing your av.

    Have respect for everyone. We come from many nations and walks of life. It's ok to disagree. It's not ok to be an asshole about it. Play nice and have fun.

    xx
     
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    Yes, yes yes.
    And a big yes to the blue. I don't just not appreciate it, I hate it, some of the textspeak & phonetic jibberish is open to various interpretations and can lead to major misunderstandings if not correctly understood.
     
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  17. bettyisback

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    Yes it can lead to the regulars getting their panties in a wad and chucking their toys out of the pram.

    Golden Rule #1 - Engage sense of humour.

    Golden Rule #2 - Oh never mind, it's only a porn site.
     
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    If you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all.

    Don't send pics of your " junk" in messages without knowing first the other person wants to see it

    Be nice!!
     
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    So much this!
     
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  20. Rosa_g

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    well girls it should be half expected its a sex site think of it as a occupational hazard LOL
     
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