Esteem Compliments for Women/Wives

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  1. Logger

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    I searched Relationships for "Compliment" and "Compliments'. 0 Hits.

    I looked back over 7 pages of Thread Titles, no Thread Titles similar.

    Here is a thought from one of my recent posts:


    A. Nice Teats

    B. I love to shave your pussy.
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    C. Nicely curved rear end.

    D. Love the bounce in your breasts.

    E. Love the muscles in your legs.

    F. Love the texture of your stomach around your belly button.


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  2. Puss_in_boots

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    Teats!!?? Omg...women don't have teats. Cows have teats. Women have tits, boobs, etc, but not teats.
     
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    Yea, don't tell your wife she has nice teats. That would make me feel bad. But the rest are nice. :)
     
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    Do women moo now? :shrug
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    Just kidding, but seriously, don't ever say that to a woman! :ugh
    ~Bella
     
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    Yeah, except for the utter comment, those work. You might also say that you love the curve in the small of her back, that she has soft lips (either way you want to use that) and you love the way they feel against your skin, and one that always makes my girl blush is moaning "Oh my god you're so fucking sexy" during sex.
     
  6. Logger

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    G. You make me feel good.

    H. That feels so good!

    I. That makes me feel appreciated!

    J. It is nice to feel the Trust you give me.

    K. You are a great mom.

    L. You have really encouraged the children to develop themselves.

    M. I love the scent of your hair.

    N. Many of your ideas are really helpful.

    O. Your efforts to clip coupons to save money are important for the family budget, so we can give more help to the kids for college.

    P. You ideas on saving money help me to keep in mind to look for bargains.



    I was talking to another guy today, about sweet talking his woman, who was in a less loving stage of the relationship. I realized I did not have a list of good compliments readily in mind. I knew I had started a thread on compliments somewhere. I fall into patterns of not mentioning my feelings of compliments.


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  7. Logger

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    Q. "Your energy and presence make me feel so alive."


    COUPLE, from Love and Respect, is probably a good reference to keep in mind for giving a woman increased self-esteem through compliments.

    Closeness
    Openeness
    Understanding
    Peacemaking
    Loyalty
    Esteem


    C. Closeness, the feeling that you are with her.

    O. Openess, the feeling that you are telling her important and small things.

    U. Understanding is forging and overlooking her faults or oversights.

    P. Peacemaking is the assurance that you will be the one to make approaches for resolving disagreements.

    L. Loyalty, the feeling that she can depend on you, from listening to her concerns about jeaolousy.

    E. Esteem, that you will give her a feeling of being valued and appreciated.




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    Now that's more like it! :)
     
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    When going out to dinner- You look lovely Tonight.
    When going to gym-Your in great shape.
    When going to sleep-I love you, have a great night.
    When having sex, Damn your great.
    When waking in the morning- I love you.
    After eating at home, your a great cook.
    At anytime say I love you.
    When talking on the phone. I need you.

    Hiker
     
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    Wow you must get laid a lot talking like that :)
     
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    Great thread! Periodically, when I have a really positive thought about my wife, I will write it down in magic marker on a sheet of paper, fold it up, and go hide it somewhere where I know she will find it. I'm trying to recall some of the "love notes" I've left her over the past year or so...

    - You are a most excellent lover
    - You are a great mom
    - You are kind, even to our flatulent old hound dog
    - You are an awesome cook
    - You give an awesome blow-job
    - Everybody loves you
    - You are my role-model for how to be forgiving
    - You have a nice ass

    There have been quite a few more, I just can't recall everything I've written at the moment.

    I think it's very important to make it real and sincere. My main "love language" is affirming words, but when someone's just blowing smoke up my arse, I detect it immediately and it doesn't have the intended effect. If someone really means what they said, it was spontaneous, and I can tell it was truly sincere, I just melt.

    For instance, several weeks ago, we kept a friend's little boy for the night. He's never gone to sleep by himself and never slept all night. I sat down and talked out a deal with this kid. He went to sleep all by himself and slept all night, and got rewarded for good behavior the next morning. I'm the first person who's ever accomplished that with this little boy, as I understand it. My wife went upstairs to check on him about an hour after I had put him to bed...he was snoring away! As my wife came back downstairs, she said "He's asleep...all by himself...you are one friggin awesome man!" It was so sincere, so spontaneous, and so heart-felt, that one simple little comment just rang in my head for the next week or two.

    Anyway, I *try* to make sure that compliments I give out are just as sincere. If you are insincere, people assume you just want something...if you are sincere, people see that you said it because you simply had to!

    BD
     
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    Thanks for more good ideas for compliments.

    R. I really enjoy celebrating my climax with you.
     
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    LMFAO!!!

    sis, I done like urrr teats. Sorry..I needed to..:D
     
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    Never tell me I have teats!
     
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    Ditto here. :lol
     
  16. espresso

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    Umm, yea.....I could just imagine telling MrsE she had nice teats!! That would go over well!

    I believe these types of comments should truly come from the heart and that should be very noticeable. If she can tell you are sincere then most any compliment will make her feel special. It's got to be real.....and nice teats just won't do it :)
     
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    To this I would add that a good compliment should also have a certain spontaneity to it. The compliments originally posted by the OP seem so..I dunno,..rehearsed. :shrug
     
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    Puss,

    That's exactly what I mean. If you feel it, say it, it will be from the heart. If you don't feel it, don't say it! That might be a little simplistic but you know what I mean.
     
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    So...complimenting your udders is like...totally out of bounds?...:p :eek:utahere
     
  20. loveit247

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    LOL! Tell me I have beautiful tits or breasts, teats or udders will earn you a smack!

    I agree with what was said above. Why should a person have to have a list of compliments at hand. It seems so insincere. I love it when I come out of the room all dressed up for an evening out and my SO literally just stands and stares at me. It is the best compliment ever.

    The other day I got out the shower and was sitting on the bed in panties drying my hair. He was standing in the door way looking at me. He came over and kissed my forehead and said he didn't know what he did to be so lucky. Now that was a compliment. From the heart and totally spontaneous.