Erection problems

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  1. uglessness

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    Hey all. I'm 19 and recently started having sex (crowd cheers). I just have a couple of questions...Can having sex make it harder to get an erection while masturbating? Ever since having sex for the first couple of times, I can't get an erection unless I'm stroking my dick pretty hard and contracting those PC muscles. I used to get rock-hard by just watching porn, and now it's tough. Is that normal? Also, it seems hard to keep an erection before I actually am inside the girl. Is this a psychological thing? Thanks for the advice :)
     
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    Update:

    I noticed that I woke up the other morning with a hard erection: the rock-hard kind I would like to be getting. However, I'm still not turned on by watching porn.
     
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    Ugless,
    I'm not a guy,but still,in my experience,it's all a matter of getting used to(getting hard for sex rather than masturbation).Although all guys are different.However,what I've been told by guys is when you do masturabate a lot(or have become accustomed to it) it is hard or harder to get an errection....or to keep one.Just keep practicing:) And porn doesn't always "do it" for everyone,although it can be helpful.Also,of course errections are largely psychological...as well as orgasms.Have fun practicing...and congats!
     
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    Yeah. I think you were definitely right about the psychological part. I think I've just been getting myself down (pun sort-of intended) about my less than par first experience. I seem to be fine now...all in the head. And oh, by the way, since I was talking about my less-than-par first experience with sex, maybe I'll offer my new found magic tip to those who don't know:

    Want to last longer? Do 2 things. 1) Masturbate (preferably with a realistic toy) and learn to recognize when you're about 10-15 seconds away from ejaculation. Just stop all movement when you feel it coming on. When you can learn to recognize the signs of an impending orgasm: 2) Play around with the different muscles in your pelvic area. Do NOT squeeze the PC. It only leads to premature ejaculation which explains why guy-on-top positions are hard since you are contracting most of the muscles in your legs and stuff. When I feel like I'm going to cum, I pretend I'm trying to pee. This relaxes another muscle in your pelvic area. When the feeling passes, resume normal stimulation :brow This can go on indefinitely (or until your patience/viagra runs out).

    So, don't go wasting too much money on tips. There is the secret. Am I going to get mobbed by some secret guy association now?
     
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    Good for you!;)
     
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