Erection Issue lol

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by r2k, Oct 15, 2009.

  1. r2k

    r2k New Member

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    Hi everyone. This is my first post. This problem has followed me around through several relationships / one night stands and I'm hoping someone here might be able to shed some light on the issue.

    Basically, I have trouble getting turned on by a person and I often lose my hard on for no apparent reason during sex. It sucks because it's really embarrassing and takes a shot to my manhood. Of course the thought of it in the back of my mind during sex probably contributes to the problem too, almost like a vicious cycle.

    I have a couple of theories as to what could be the issue. The first, I'm a porn/masturbation addict through and through lol. I've watched porn since I was about 13 and masturbate frequently, like at least once a day, but sometimes 3+ times a day. One theory I have is that I'm "desensitized" from watching so much porn, with beautiful women, elaborate fantasies, etc so it's hard to enjoy a real life average-looking person. Whenever I watch porn/masturbate I never have any issues getting an erection. Could it be that my brain is just wired to be turned on by porn now and not a person? Also, when I masturbate WITHOUT porn, it's harder for me to get turned on and maintain an erection and I have to resort to playing out fantasies and such in my mind to get off.

    The second theory would be health issues. i.e. blood circulation issue, low testosterone, or something else. It's mere speculation though. I'm 23 years old, exercise frequently (3-4 days a week, plus my job is very physically demanding), eat reasonably healthy, etc. So, it shouldn't be a health issue. I do have trouble sleeping at night though and usually wake up tired and feeling unrefreshed. I also started smoking at a young age (12) and quit about a year ago, but I still smoke occasionally when I'm drinking or around my gf (she smokes). Still, at my age the smoking shouldn't be causing problems.

    I'd really like some help with this issue if anyone is up to it. Maybe it's health reasons, maybe it's all in my head, I'm not sure. All I know is it's been causing me grief for years and it really sucks. Thanks..
     
  2. Barbwire

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    Well, why don't you try to give up watching porn and jerking off for a while? *shrugs*

    Why are you "lol"-ing about your erection issue?
     
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  3. r2k

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    I have a good sense of humour ;) lol.

    And ya, that's probably an idea!
     
  4. Barbwire

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    Please keep us up to date on how things go for you. It's always nice interesting to see how people work things out.

    I hope more people reply to this thread and give you pointers.
     
  5. Atlantico

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    Yes, quit the porn first thing to do.
    Second: Decrease masturbation rate.
    Third: Get a stable girl friend for awhile. Gain her confidence and trust. Ask her to help you out in the sex sessions, in case the hard on fade, relax try again later , ask her to try again, no pressure. You have to trust her like you trust your mother, and be confortable alike.

    You will be OK in no time...
     
  6. igor

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    I won't comment on everything you brought up. It seems, at least, that you are not super stressed oiut over it and realize that you possibly have a form of performance anxiety.

    Fortunately I never had that issue and I have seen a lot of porn but it never affected one-on-one performance. But we are all wired differently. Like someone else said - I would slack off on the masturbation though and see what happens.
     
  7. HardRocker

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    I agree with slacking off the jerking off. I think your testosterone drops as you re-manufacture sperm, so it you're draining the lizard every time you think about sex, there are not enough hormones left for the real life adventures which take more physical exertion.
     
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    All are good pointers, but I would stress the decrease in masturbatory activities. Also, you might want to sit down with your gf and talk out some fantasies that you have. What is the worst that she can say? NO!!?? Well, maybe might break up with you if they are too extreme for her.
     
  9. r2k

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    Thanks everyone! :)