Erectile dysfunction - how can I help?

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  1. Vanja

    Vanja New Member

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    Hi all

    I'm new here and glad to have found you guys :)

    My boyfriend is suffering from PTSD and as a result he's having this problem. He IS getting help about the syndrome but we don't know exactly what to do about this particular problem.

    From what we have read we're supposed to take things slow, without pressure, focus on the intimacy and all that. But I'm not sure how to help him other than to not pressure him and let him know that we are in this together.

    Is there anything you can think of that I can do? Any little thing will help - all comments are appreciated.

    All the best,
    V
     
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    A little blue pill might help. I don't usually **need** them, but they certainly help me in getting faster, harder erections, and I don't have to worry about maintaining them. Other than that, what you've read sounds right. If I'm worried that I won't get (or keep) and erection, I won't. Just take it slowly and have fun.

    Also, our testosterone levels seem to be higher after a little sleep. The only time I ever have ED is at night, when I'm tired. More often than not we have sex in the morning and/or afternoon.

    You might also try watching porn videos together. Most are so poorly done that they can be funny to watch but sexy at the same time. Sex scenes on the tube and roving hands under the sheets never fail.
     
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    My ex had that same problem - and also had PTSD. It got to the point where we consulted a doctor, and he prescribed Zoloft of all things.
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    I'm soooo dumb !! What's PTSD?
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    On topic: I think that many men can have short episodes of ED, caused by stress and other external emotional conditions, that pass with time and patience.

    I know from experience that focusing on intimacy and love is the BEST non-medical way to help your partner through a very difficult (and ego-busting) time in his life. YOU are doing everything you should.

    Just wondering - How long has he been having this problem?
     
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    PTSD = Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

    Used to be called shellshock.
     
  6. Vanja

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    Thank you all for the responses.


    He has never had this problem before and it's been going on for a month, maybe a little more. Thankfully we are very open with each other so he told me about it pretty soon.

    Ok, it's good to get confirmation that love and intimacy is the way to go. I have been trying to do that with patience I didn't know I posessed.
    I've heard viagra can be counter-productive but we did think about that option but decided to give it more time first. But it's good to know that mornings are better than nights. I didn't realize that one.

    Thanks again
     
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    It isn't surprising that a man who is stressed will have difficulties with sex. I second the recommendation on trying oral ED medications, if a man is close to getting a good erection, a tablet can get him over the line. My medication of choice is Cialis, especially if it is taken every three days and allowed to build up over a week or two. Also mornings are better for sexual response.

    An exceptionally good treatment for stress or psychological related ED is the injection Caverject. Unlike oral medications, injections require little or no sexual arousal. Probably not something to try in the first instance, but if time drags by keep it in the back of your mind as it is very effective in almost all cases. Start at 5 or probably 10mcg.
     
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    Thorn went through a timeframe of having trouble getting it up and/or keeping it up. We toyed with the idea of going to the doctor, as men of his age frequently seek pharmaceutical help for this.

    However, we gave it a few months, as we got glimmers of hope from time to time. Many times, it was the shear "fear" of the problem - almost to the point of not wanting to start a sexual encounter, for fear of failure. Of course, that just enhances the problem more.

    In the meantime, allow him to bring you sexual fulfilment in other ways, ie. oral or mutual masturbation, etc. Knowing you are being satisfied is a great healing balm, until he gets past this. Good luck!