Trying to become more slender could be considered a fetish. Maybe a fantasy. There are other forums that encourage weight loss, but discussing sexual aspects, or details of personal anatomy, is usually not well received, on those forums. So I have a stomach that is larger than I desire. Doctors tell me my health could be better, if I lose some weight. Muscles need more exercise, as I get older, to just to keep up my strength. I measure my stomach, by pulling my penis straight out, and measuring how much of my penis I can see, over the top of my stomach. When I was fatter, I could only see the tip of my penis. Now I can see several inches or my penis. So my weight loss goal is to be able to see more of my penis, over my stomach. I remember the first time someone called me "Fatso". I had to laugh, because I had been slender as a teenager, and could not understand how people might be fat. I also made fun of fat people behind their back. So I understand that some people can be less than encouraging for overweight people. I have seen some zingers on this forum, but also some good encouragement. I am trying to cut back eating snacks after dinner. Eating later can become weight gain.