I have been dating my current gf for two months and have been trying to get her either tell me what to do with her... or take a bit more control. She has had a few other partners that usually never paid attention to her, so she has expressed that she is uncomfortable taking over, unless she is drunk. She told me that the only time she ever has, was when she was drunk, and really wanted sex. I usually ask her what she wants me to do or what she likes best... 9 times out of 10 the answer is anything, yeah it is a good answer to some but I am looking for more participation from her. I am very close to just getting some toys and edibles and using those but I want some input from her... too. Most of the time during sex the only way I get participation from her is when I tell her what to do. I have explained to her that we both really have alot of say in what goes down, not just one of us calling all the shots. Any advice?