Um, a weird observation from one who's just got into his first long-term relationship, and out of his (let's face it) long term masturbation habit. The girl: she's hot, really ideal, lovely and sweet, great figure, everything I could want. She turns me on very well, no problem there. We'll make out, then make love... and make love some more and then some more... but I can't *come* without a fetish in mind. It's beginning to affect us as a couple, because it's like I can't appreciate her. When I'm in the moment with *her* I am aroused, but never come. When we create a new "moment" and she for example wears a skirt that gives it that schoolgirl twist, or when she holds tight my balls like I'm her sex slave - I'm aroused, *and* come. It's like I need a fetish, because just making love to her beautiful body isn't enough. I think I need tips on mental control: how can I be in the moment just with her, and come? When it's vanilla I keep thinking to myself how dull this is, essentially not believing in the power of her body alone to make me come. Am I weird for not coming without a fetish in mind? Thanks for your replies, Delmonte ps. on the plus side this condition means I can carry on for literally hours - she loves it. Maybe men out there who know what it is to come after 5 thrusts could tell me their secrets?!?