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Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by pbs, Nov 18, 2011.
Can someone tell me what edging means in terms of sexual response?
Going as close to orgasm then stopping, allowing sensations to subside before recommencing stimulation again to just before the tipping point.
Performed over and over to gain control or prolong the pleasure either to self or both partners as the case may be.
sounds like I might have to try this....could be fun! Are there any drawbacks?
Most people practice this when masturbating. It is quite helpful to continue masturbating when you feel you're about to climax- then altering your train of thought to mitigate libido. As much as we generalize that males are more so visual concerning sex, we are also emotionally in-tuned (usually not as much as females, but it is still present). Ergo, it is completely possible. What is important is to surpass that "hump" that denotes "I don't care about stopping". So many males say "I can't stop."
You, merely, won't stop. This is the MOST important factor to eliminate.
Looking4 there are no drawbacks that I know of except perhaps that excessive self denial can make a man lose his erection for a little time.
I have practiced this technique for many years now mainly to the benefit of my sexual partners. In couple sex it does require cooperation of the other person though.
I don't know about females edging. I tried it a few time with the wife and it seemed to heighten her orgasm, but some females will lose the "moment" and not be able to continue to a successful orgasm, I have been told. Try it and see what happens.
For guys, the more you edge and delay the orgasm, the more powerful the orgasm finally is. It is very hard to control during intercourse but easier when masturbating.
Edging is very hard for me to do. When I feel myself cuming I let go!
DCC that's because you currently have very little control or self discipline.
Work at it and become a better lover.
I've been doing this to my wife for years (didn't know it was called edging), and the only drawback I know of is, if I try to get too close too many times, she may become exhausted and lose her ability to cum without a rest. Usually, when she thinks she won't be able to cum, I give it one more try and I can get her over. One benefit is that, once I start doing this, I can keep her aroused, with a strong desire to cum, for up to 2 hours.
Next time you're having intercourse and get close to orgasm, try slowing things down to where you're just moving the tip in and out VERY SLOWLY, just until you feel her lips close around it, and then move it out again. Keeping things slow allows you to enjoy being at the edge for a long time, and you can even take a break if you want, and when you go back in, you can start the whole process again - great fun
Becoming a better lover is one thing (something that is a composite of many more facets than just performing longer).
The paramount aspect of this is being able to control such a primal... almost instinctual drive toward completion. Imagine the mental blockades that just shatter when one form of self control is obtained. It's also fun and quite interesting to deny females a sexual side of yourself, who completely think you'll simply give in solely because you're a male, and see how they react.
Edging is great fun know that I know what to call it. I guess I am with you pbs. I have been doing it for awhile but have yet to name it. God, I hope naming it doesn't steal something from me.
Been doing it for maybe 6 years. No harm, but things have changed. I ejaculate without orgasm more easily. Not pre-cum, actual semen and copious amount. I can do that maybe 3 to 5 times and then my body gives up. I'm not sexually satisfied, but I am spent.
I have also noticed it's caused me to enjoy the journey, so to speak, and not just the orgasm. I routinely go for several days without orgasm, but I will masturbate, even have sex or receive hand jobs. I don't feel l as much like I'm missing something I don't orgasm. I also last a lot longer. I think I'm better able to sense and control my level of stimulation. I can go for about as long as I want. It's probably part mental and part physical.
From what I've read, the equivalent of orgasm denial and edging for women is forced orgasms. But edging without the eventual denial, isn't quite the same. I edge my wife quite often then slow down and keep her there for a little bit. Seems to really intensify her orgasm. Fun for me too when I am edged, but get to come after too. maybe not more intense, but definitely a lot better ride and a greater sense of satisfaction.
As far as technique wise- this has little to do with edging- masturbating via stimulating the base of the phallus only is a pristine way to prolong experiences while teaching one's self to sustain.
I too have been doing this for years, but never knew it as "edging." Check out my post from the other day http://www.sexualforums.com/34223-forced-masturbation.html about the fun R and I are having with it as a couple. I plan on updating (later today) my experiences of the past few days... they've been awesome! Sometime Sunday I hope to finally blow, but it's been more fun getting there than ever before!
I can do this on occasion as well, just never referred to it as edging. Over the years kegel exercises have given me much more control to where I can "edge", or go over the edge and come back for multiple orgasms with cum, which my wife really enjoys.
Can't wait to give this a try! thanks for the info!
Try this site - Edging Sex Technique - Pleasure Mechanics - it works for females too.
This technique is useful if you want to deny your own orgasm for hers because you start to lose sensation. The second go round never feels as good. If you really are into pleasing her instead of screwing over your own orgasm which is best to just let it rip the first time, may I suggest you get her off orally first. I have never had a woman get mad if you get her off and then enter her and don't last forever. A small amount of women are very uncomfortable about their vaginas and can't get off just knowing you are down there. In this case if you insist on being the nice guy but don't have the ability to last as long as you want, then this technique works. If you have a hard time with (premature ejaculation: a term which means you screwed her out of one, because the term really doesn't exist), then I suggest a lot of masturbation. A few times in the day before intercourse should numb you to real sex. Unfortunately it may also rob your desire to have sex instead of just getting drunk and watching TV. Porn and masturbation can make you real sex lazy, even for me.
I used to do this when I was young and had less control..didn't know there was a name for it.