ED after trauma during sex - now what?

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  1. winkie

    winkie New Member

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    This is my first post here. I am getting desperate. My appologies in advance for the long post.

    Up until December I had never had any erectile issues and could have an erection several times a day as healthy male in their mid to late 30's normally could.

    My girlfriend and I were having sex in December and my penis incurred some trauma while she was on top of me. A few days before that my pubic area was sore from her grinding into me (again she was on top). I immediately lost my erection when the trauma occured and thought I would regain my erection strength within a few days.

    This has not happend and I am not able to achieve my normal firmness during intercourse. On top of that I have lost my erection when we try to change positions or even move to a different room during foreplay.

    I went to the doctor and he assured me I would be fine. Just to avoid sex for a few weeks. He gave me 10mg of Cialis to take. This helped my confidence for two weeks and I was able to perform when we started having sex again, however still not achieving a 'full' erection like I could pre-trauma.

    I figured I would take Cialis for 1 month to ensure I was back to normal however my erection failed a few weeks after that even after I took Cialis. I went back to the doctor and he gave me 20mg of Cialis. Still I am not achieving full erections and having hit or miss episodes with intercourse. I'm not sure what to do now. I am wondering if some blood vessels or nerves could have been damaged and if I will ever regain my firmness.

    I feel a sudden loss of libido due to this and it is beginning to affect my psychologically. My girlfriend told me she likes to have sex almost daily but now I am experiencing performance anxiety I feel that I am starting to avoid intimacy which is very unlike me.

    My girlfriend has stated that she feels responsible for the trauma and has been supportive of me and has said that she is still experiencing orgasms while having intercourse now. She suggested that we could avoid intercourse and just have oral/manual release for a few weeks if it would help with improving blood flow to my erection.

    Is there anyone else who has experienced some penile trauma while the girl was on top? Did your erection go back to normal? I've started researching ED on the internet and I am considering get a blood test to check for low testosterone levels but I find it hard to believe my libido has dried up in 60 days. I still crave being with my girl, it's just that I fear I will not be able to please her like I could before.

    I would like to go back to funtioning normally without the use of medication, however if taking meds will facilitate the process then I'm open to suggestions.

    Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm really worried and it's preventing me from sleeping at night, concentrating during the day and enjoying my relationship with a wonderful woman.

    Thank you.
     
  2. suite91

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    Have you doctor refer you to a Urologist ASAP. 20mg of Cialis gives me a "hard on on demand" for three days so I can't imagine what kind of injury you have. As soon as I started talking about ED my doc sent me to one with much success. Good luck.
     
  3. cbrmale

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    You should see a urologist as soon as you can. It is also possible that you are stressed about your injury, and your worry is causing the lack or loss of erection. Psycholgical ED is not as common as physical, but it happens. Your libido drying up is possibly part of the stress.

    If you see a urologist, he can better check for damage or at least set your mind at rest better than the local GP. There are also other ED medications available, but Cialis is usually effective if taken regularly.

    If that doesn't help, the next step would be counselling with a psychologist for you to recover your performance confidence.