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  1. Lover4You

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    Had some super fantastic sex the other day. Huge surprise. But right after he said he felt uncomfortable w what we were doing. Said he felt like he was demeaning me. He was a little aggressive but nothing too crazy like calling me names or anything. He spanked, and told me he was gonna fuck me and that I was his dirty girl. Is that really all that demeaning?
     
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    Hell No. Pretty tame stuff around here, Dirty Girl.
     
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    As long as you like what he is doing there should be no questions
     
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    That's true. I thought he was liking it which made me like it sooo, it was kinda sad finding out he wasn't into it. If he wasn't, why would he have kept it up? Hmmm.
     
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    That's what I thought. Its funny cuz the porn he's watched I know is way more than that. So he likes watching it but not doing it?
     
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    He seems very confused
     
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    If you loved it, tell him to keep it going. Tell him it made sex fun, whichever way it made you feel and you look forward for more of it.
     
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    I told him but he doesn't want to do it again cuz its uncomfortable for him. That's what he said anyway.
     
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    tell him to man up, and it makes you happy and more horny.
    tell him it doesnt have to be everytime, but that you want to keep sex fun.
    if he doesnt want to do it then he sounds a bit selfish.
     
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    Sounds like he is checking you enjoyed it to
    Me. I think he loved it
     
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    I suppose. Im not the type to push pple to do things they aren't cool w. Hard.
     
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    That's an interesting take on it. Hmm I guess he put it like this
    - I liked it but I didn't like it because it was demeaning.-

    What does that mean?
     
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    In my opinion, he enjoys talking like that, but respects you and feels kind of guilty about saying that type of thing to someone he has feelings for. Truthfully, he sounds like a pretty good fella to me.
     
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    Well I guess this is a new thing for me because, like I've talked about in previous posts, he hasn't been respectful at all for a very long time. Maybe took me off guard.
     
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    hey lover4you. glad for the great sex you had, cant go wrong there. Im wondering if he actted this way because your pegnant? I know when my wife was pregnant she was so horny and that was the best sex we ever had. Maybe thats why I think pregnant girls are so hot.
     
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    Explain you love it as part of sex even though this is not the way you like it in regukar non sexual activities, that it turns you on IN THE BEDROOM.
    Awe, we're all trying to come up with suggestions for you.
     
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    I agree with the posts that he is concerned you didn't like it. He may be concerned that even if you say you like it that it went too far. You may have to work back up to it. If you like the dirty stuff. Then you can ask for it in the heat of the moment. "Oh baby that's good. Spank like you did before" or if that is too quick for him. "Oh man you make me so hot. I like being your dirty girl. ". Also maybe he wants some of the same treatment from you. It isn't demeanining if it goes both ways. Maybe you can try. "You said you didn't wanna spank me again. How about I spank you?"
     
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    I don't think it's demeaning at all. My BF actually had a similar reaction after I told him I liked the dirty talk... I found that a simple sit-down, reassuring conversation about how I liked it and it made me enjoy the sex a little more seemed to settle his nerves about it. He still doesn't do it much, but now when he does, there's no question that he's doing it for the both of us to get off.