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  1. loveit247

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    Again. Sigh!
    It is not losing the man that is an issue. I knew it was not a long term thing, he was very moody and I didn't want to deal with that. I am just so sick of the "it's not you, it's me" speach. If I am such an amazing woman and so easy to be with, why do they keep leaving me.

    I don't think I will ever find happiness.

    End of rant.
     
  2. Nettle

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    "You have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your Prince Charming"

    :grouphug

    You will find someone.
     
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    Because many men are emotionally retarded, he will probably regret it later.

    Anyway, I bet there are plenty of men out there for someone as hot as you (I saw your old threads :drool).
     
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    There are tons of guys out there. If you choose to you could probably be out with a different guy tonight.
     
  5. loveit247

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    That is the thing. I am longing to make that elusive connection. I really really liked this guy and given the chance I think it could have grown into something special. BUt hey, not meant to be.
     
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    tbh most of the time it is them and not you lol
     
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    If...

    ...I can pry a bit, why would you be interested in persuing a LTR with someone who had a personality trait you say you didn't want to deal with, moody?

    Send him a thank you card for not making you miserable, long term. In the mean time, note to yourself; try not to get invested in relationships with people who have traits you don't want to deal with. It's a damn site easier to move on now, even if it hurts a bit, than several years in when you're really invested and it hurts alot more.
     
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    Gee, LP, every once in a while you make a lot of sense! ;)

    Loveit, with fear of sounding patronizing, but not really meaning to... you are young, with a whole lot of living to do. Don't fret that "the one" hasn't come your way yet, you have plenty of time before you are an old maid.

    Chin up, girl! :)
     
  9. loveit247

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    Like I said. I am not worried about losing this man, I am just sick of yet another rejection. It is just that I don't seem to be able to make a connection with anyone. I don't feel all that young. I want to have kids one day and get married and all of that. It just feels so crap being alone all the time.
     
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    I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! Happens to me all the time as well :(
     
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    It's cause you're too good for them...
     
  12. Bluesy

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    There's a good possibility. Weak men are scared stiff of strong women, and you are a tough chick, so...

    You might be giving off an air of desperation, too...possibly. Maybe you could devote a little time to making the most of singlehood, and then some really great guy will pick up on your vibes of happiness and fulfillment and he'll be drawn to that. A woman who's enjoying her life and busy pursuing goals is very attractive, you know.
     
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    Have fun being single. It's when you're not looking, things happen.
     
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    You just had answers from two Women that know what they are talking about
    So listen to them.

    My answer, Love does not cum easy. Just hang on, Be you (don't pretend)
    and it will cum to you.

    Hiker
     
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    My oldest daughter is razing 4 boys with no help from either husband. You would think she would learn a little from that but she still picks the same good looking losers. Not a stable hard working man in the lot. Two or three DJ's a male dancer and an advertising man but not a worker in the bunch. I don't know you but what I'm saying is what you are doing wrong may not be AFTER you are in a relationship but BEFORE!!
     
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    You may sir, speak for yourself. *glares* Many of us are not frogs to begin with, just a little lost when it comes to reading women, who on the whole make Aristotle seem simple! But I digress.

    Honestly, maybe you should stop hunting for Mr. Right. A wiser person once said "good things come to those who wait." Ya never know who life will toss at you.
     
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    The thing is, I was perfectly happy before he arrived in my life. I was not looking and was actively chasing men away. It is just that as soon as I relented and let him in, he was no longer interested. I have learned allot about him in the past few weeks, it turns out he has his head rammed so far up his rear end that he can see the backs of his eye balls. No great loss. I am just sick of selfish men.