Dropping the bomb...

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by nicelynoosed, Jun 18, 2015.

  1. nicelynoosed

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    So, I really like this one word.

    It rhymes with punt, as in American football, or bunt as in American baseball, or Allen Funt, as in the 1970's TV show 'Candid Camera'.

    I only say it in the presence of ladies who okay its' use, but I prefer to hear them say it.

    I'm not sure why I like the word so much, but it has always seemed to me that hearing women say it in bed suggests a smart, self-possessed person in touch deeply with her own sexuality.

    It is, after all an Anglo-Saxon monosyllable that was rather common until the turn of the century. But in these enlightened times, it is tricky; highly charged and with unpredictable connotations.

    So, ladies, what do you think about this word? Is it sexy for you? Does using it help you to feel empowered, liberated, or otherwise validated?

    Guys, is this term quite the hot hand grenade that it seems like to me?

    Quite curious, thanks for your thoughts!

    NN
     
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    Honey, is that nope, you don't like the word? I personally don't like it.
     
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    Unless you're a very drunk man from Manchester or Liverpool after a football match and you're shouting at your mate across the pub...

    Seriously, though, cunt (yep, I said it) is one of those words that has become so thoroughly inundated with a negative connotation that I can't bring myself to accept it in any way shape or form, really. I mean, I've only ever really heard it in real life in the context of somebody searching for the absolute "nuclear option" when berating a woman. So, for me, it is the "hot hand grenade" of terms pertaining to women.

    Largely, this may be a cultural thing (see: my joking example above), but to me it is a term I wouldn't break out unless I was on the most violent and destructive of warpaths against someone.
     
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    I will say there have been times I may have used the word to describe a girl who has really screwed me over, but generally speaking, I agree it has the same impact as using the 'n' word.
     
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    Can we all be adults here and stop playing the "it rhymes with ____" or the "__ word" game?

    If you mean cunt - say it. If you mean nigger - say it. If you mean fuck - say it. If you mean... uh... rastaquouere - say it.

    I think we're all mature enough here to know this is a discussion and those words (in context here) are not inflammatory or offensive.

    (Not trying to make you feel targeted @Hottie6275 - I just get tired of people trying so hard to be "PC" and obscuring discussion.)
     
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    Fair enough. I just didn't want to use it and then get enundated with negativism for using it.
     
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    I'm so grateful for these responses. I H A T E to be offensive in any way and have had some more-than-niggling doubts as to whether this term could be rehabilitated. I'm strongly inclined to leave it where I found it ... just following the word 'my' and said by ladies, without my prompting.

    Ms. Honey, et. al, I applaud your economy of diction and will think myself better forewarned.

    Sénõr 3XL, I also strongly appreciate your argument for candor and clarity. I think this word has become as charged and polarizing as the others you mention (though I'd point out that you omitted 'mullato', 'quadroon', 'skunt', 'whore', 'cum-bucket', 'twat', 'jizz-dumpster', 'slit', 'blackie', 'coolie', 'hebe', 'spic', 'secular humanist' and all their variants from your otherwise exemplary list of terms offensive).


    This is one of those situations where the words (my total kink, in case I haven't said ten hundred thousand times already) in porn ...and a little in life... have probably skewed my perception of the term as it is now used.

    Again, thanks.

    NN
     
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    LOL, liberated or validated, not at all. Empowered, well, using a word that's supposed to be negative takes some of the power away from the word. I use it sometimes, but quite rarely. I do like "uh" words. Fuck, slut, pump, cum, thrust, and so on. Though with my accent, they're fock, slot, pomp, com, throst.
     
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    I loved the long form interview show "The Actor's Studio" which included a portion when James Lipton would ask the guest a list of questions including "What is your favorite curse word?"

    I always wanted someone to say "Cunt" and after the inevitable gasp from the audience add "because it's the only curse word left"
     
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    Even with your accent I'm sure they still sound incredibly sexy coming from your mouth. I can only imsgine hearing you say:

    Fock me harder!
    Or
    I'm your slot.
    Or
    Pomp your com deep into me!

    Just saying.
     
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    I hadn't thought to go psycholinguistic on the issue. I'd been considering connotation and historical inertia, not the mere sound of the word.


    Of course, Eve Ensler does a bit of this in that one segment of 'The V-word Monologues' (Just kidding, 3XL, The Vagina M-words- happy?), but her analysis is akin more to a slam poetry session than an academic phono-section.


    So let's see. We begin with the hard 'k' sound. That velar consonant is reallyquite popular once you begin to see it. Take these iconic names, for example, I'll even stress the k's :Koke, MKDonald's, Xeroks, Martin LutherKing, John F.Kennedy. There can even be a case made for some elocutions of 'g'. Try replacing the 'g's' with 'k''s in words like 'Google', 'Regan', or 'self-aggrandisement'. They're virtually identical. And just try to talk dirty without the 'k's' in words like 'lick', 'suck', 'dick', 'fuck', and 'Milton Keynes'. Impossible. So, the 'K' sound is widely prevalent in popular words, and happily so.


    As Mlle, Meee has already ably pointed out, the labial approximant 'uh' gives a visceral, glandular feeling to a word. Uh words tend to sound as though they are deeply connected to the body, like 'grunt', 'hump', 'spurt', and 'Dutch'. They're not dirty per se, but they are suggestive of the human form that the Victorians sought to repress so completely.


    The nasal palatal 'n' is a bit of a tease. Whereas an 'm' sound expresses approval, enjoyment, or at least intrigue, 'n' sounds can be negative, or merely imply uncertainty, as in 'Negation, Negotiation, 'Mmmmm, Prime Minister, the flowers look lovely, but not necessarily when inserted in that particular locationnnn... wait, no, that's not a problem at all.' Drawing out an 'n' sound just seems to put the whole clause on the edge of a cliff, while the listener waits to hear how the speaker will finish the idea.


    Putting a 't' on the end of a word makes it... I can scarcely say without using 't-terminal-terms'... concrete, definite, and succinct. The alveolar plosive stands out in stark contrast to the nasal 'n' flow. 'Abrupt', 'Interdict', ‘Exit’, ‘Emit’, Evict, and 'Arthur, I'm not sure I'll be able to walk upright this week after the things you and the accompanist did to me with that aubergine. Christ!' all demonstrate the finality of the 't' sound. This is a bigger deal than it may at first seem. Women are like the ocean, the surface is lovely but the depths are what matter. Making the entire word finite, defined, and therefore limited works against...strongly against... the power inherent to the feminine. By truncating the all-consuming, dark and unknowable source of life, the final 't' could be said to be subjugating the very emblem of womanhood. ‘Twat’, ‘Slut’, ‘Slit’, and ‘Bint’ (the last being British slang, not the non-derogatory Arabic term for a girl) have the bad aftertaste of patriarchy to them.


    So, what have we gotten from all this? Something good, highly functional, and attractive becomes primal, earthy, and organic, which then dangles over a precipice of uncertainty before tumbling into a very terminal, authoritarian culmination.


    So, a mixed bag, at best.


    I think, ultimately, I just like smart, sassy, vulgar women using whatever words they damn well please. You know, like they would have regardless.


    NN
     
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    Herr Bother, I agree entirely. Very well put.

    All these comments have reminded me of this article in The Onion, which I share here to lighten what may have become a waaaaaaaaaay too-intellectual mood.

    NN
     
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    Sorry. I deleted my post because I thought it just isn't something I feel like discussing here. I really don't want to offend anyone.
     
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    No worries. Your prerogative. I still appreciate the input.

    NN
     
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    Grunt. Yes, that's another uh word I like. Interestingly (to me, anyway), I even grunt "ah" instead of "uh." My accent even applies to sounds that I'm forced to make from the pleasure of sex. The boyfriend is especially smug about his sexual skills when he makes me groan "uh" instead of "ah." He says I reached an animal level that's beyond accents. I think that's true.

    Anyway, I think each word for a cunt has its own effect. I usually call mine my kiska, the Russian word for kitty (including that kind of kitty). To me, it sounds cute and playful. To the boyfriend, it sounds brash. I also call it minou, the French word that also means kitty. To me, it sound like a little meow that says, "I'm all about pleasure, if you please." To the boyfriend, it sounds like a slutty little purr.
     
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    You are incredibly sexy but im sure you're told that alot. Thanks for sharing!!
     
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    I will use this word in a demeaning way for any gender when pretty pissed off, that's all, but I pronounce it to myself.
     
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    Agreed Meeee is super sexy on so many levels :)
     
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    Good way to put it.
     
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