Double Penetration - Techniques and Encouragement

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  1. gg33

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    Mainstream porn is awash in double penetration, yet few people I've known have actually done it. Regular porn consumers are constantly bombarded with the image of two hung studs rhythmically double stuffing a willing starlet, yet such an experience becoming a reality is laughable for most of us.

    Though the fantasy of it, for most men (and some women), is that it's some penultimate and elusive sex act, yet the reality is that it can be just that - a reality.

    I'll be honest: double penetration is probably the most difficult sexual position I've ever done, but being difficult should not dissuade any of us if it's truly one of our great desires.

    Double penetration has taken more sexual determination than I knew I even had, and that's for a number of reasons.

    1) Determination. I had to be extremely resolved to make it happen. Tenacity is key in finding the right people with whom to attempt it. Chemistry is paramount so it's very important to find the right partners. Plus, there were several near misses the closer I came to actually achieving DP. I had to shrug them off and move on. Scheduling conflicts. People being all talk and no action. People getting cold feet and backing out. Actually, that last one bears exploring a little bit. If any party is not totally into it then it should not be pursued. The chemistry will be off, and if the woman is not totally into it then she will tighten up, and it will be a struggle to get anywhere. And no one should ever be pressured into something this serious. But if you really want it then don't give up.

    2) Agility. That's right, it takes a certain athleticism to pull it off properly. Leg strength and core strength are very helpful. This isn't some cozy little spooning screw. This approaches expert level fucking. Especially if you're the man on top (depending on final positioning) you're going to have to hold yourself strongly in a potentially awkward position and still deliver the goods. Sometimes it feels like you're doing squats and lunges. But don't get me wrong, its not solely like a trip to the gym. Its intensely erotic, but I just want to stress its physicality.

    3) Coordination. There will be some bending and reaching and positioning that can be awkward. Balance and physical coordination are important, and one reason chemistry is key. Anticipating each other's moves by coordinated counteracting can be key. Additionally, this is one area where reality diverges from porn fantasy. In porn we have three professionals who do this for a living. They make it look easy. They have muscle tone and zero body fat, and that makes their job that much easier. She's usually 5' 2" and 95 lbs, right? She puts it in the air and its all pussy and ass - nothing to get in the way. It makes access that much easier. Plus, the men have foot long cocks that can still penetrate from across the room. Again, their length makes it that much easier. Reality might be two men with average cocks, and a woman (or men also) with a few extra pounds. It may not look or act exactly like what we see in porn, but its not the end of the world. It just takes more coordination.

    4) Focus. Athletic ability is one thing, but mental focus is so supremely important, but can feel so abstract in these situations. Focus is key. In doing standard cowgirl DP the man on bottom can feel smothered and out of sync. Really easy for his cock to fall out if the other two push too far forward, and it can definitely be a hassle to get him back in. Very easy for either man to lose some of his erection. Performance anxiety, plus a certain 'hurry up and wait' that we're usually not used to with sex. It can take time for everyone to get situated properly and even those few extra seconds can throw a man off his focus. Please don't dread the idea of losing some of your erection. I'm just bringing up things that can happen. Its good to be mindful of possibilities. Furthermore, accessories can mitigate this potential. Cock rings can keep a man firmer longer, plus pills like Viagra or Cialis can be a huge help. Herbal enhancers at your local sex shops are wonderful. Go in and ask. And look, male porn stars don't just use pills, but sometimes even get injections(!) in their dicks to keep them up for hours. There's nothing wrong with getting a little aid once in a while. Especially when attempting sexual heroics.

    The flip side of focus is not cumming too fast when everything is going right. Some of the benefits of DP are a triad of body chemistries feeding off each other and working together. The hormone and pheromone quotients go off the charts. Things get palpably excited when firing on all cylinders. Plus, the added physical sensation can be immensely intense. The pussy and ass get tighter. Feeling another man's cock rubbing on your own while inside of a woman can feel explosive.

    The last DP I performed was a double vaginal just last week. The squeeze was almost too intense. She was tight to begin with and his cock was nearly as big as mine so it was a tight fit to say the least. I almost popped off in two minutes. And its a good thing we had plenty of....

    5) Lube. Get plenty of it. Spring for the best quality too. Don't get that gummy store brand crap. Of course, her own natural lubricant shouldn't be neglected. She needs to be hot and wet and eager. Preferably she's already had an orgasm or several before you attempt the DP.

    6) Homework. Study technique. Watch porn not just for the gratuitous hot sex, but study what they're actually doing. I learned that most of the time she's on the edge of a bed or couch and the top guy is standing. Watch what the pros do and emulate it. Read sex blogs on technique. You can learn a lot. Maybe standard cowgirl DP isn't best for you. Maybe doggy style DP would work best. Studying techniques will give you many more options. In fact, here's a great Tumblr I found on DP technique http://fuckyeahfriendlyfire.tumblr.com/dp-guide Its great to go into this with a solid plan, and nothing prepares you like homework.

    7) Hygiene. This is common sense. I don't need to go into it too much. Cleanliness and hygiene. If you have certain anal cleansing rituals then make sure you follow them. Additionally, condoms might be a good idea even if you all are clean. If the guy in the ass wears a condom it gives you all a lot more flexibility in switching holes.

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    Sometime ago I decided that I wanted to make the majority of my sexual fantasies into a reality at some point. That level of determination has given me the courage and boldness of action to pursue and achieve my sexual desires. It takes work. It takes determination. But anything is possible if you put your mind to it.

    And look, double penetration is is one of the most supremely erotic experiences I've ever enjoyed. It just took more work. But the benefits....... ahhhhhhhh...... cannot be overstated.
     
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    I agree on your points. I've done it a couple of times and it does take a lot of work and coordination. You can't be afraid to touch another guys' cock. You will rub one another and use your hand to steady yourself. Once you get set situated and get into a rhythm, the woman will go crazy. It is a highly erotic experience and one that I'm looking forward to doing again. Hopefully, real soon!
     
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  3. gg33

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    Actually, the cock rubbing is one aspect that is a huge turn on for me. I love that homoerotic proximity plus giving maximum pleasure to the female.

    But even if a guy isn't into the homoerotic aspects of it I think he can still find it very pleasurable.
     
  4. Mrivers

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    What's the best method of even starting a DP? One on one contact first, then adding the third person after she's open, wet and ready? Or should you start off with all 3 people?
     
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    Great post, btw
     
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    The last time I did it was with a married couple. She was really turned on and we had already been going at it with her for over an hour, so she was really wet and loose.

    I laid down on the bed and she sat on me. Then she leaned forward and her husband worked himself in. It took a few tries, because he would get himself worked in and I would fall out. Once we were finally both inside, we just kind of stayed there until she started swaying her hips. He then started thrusting and came pretty quick. He fell out and then I did my thing.
     
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  7. Mrivers

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    Gotcha - that kinda seems how it would have to go in my mind. DP would definitely not be the first penetration of the session. There'd have to be lots of other penetrating sex first I would think.
     
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  8. gg33

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    Yeah, Davidiscurious is pretty much nailed it. That's nearly exactly how mine have gone, up to and including the falling out bit. In fact, I had one where the bottom guy fell out, and struggled to get back in, so it ended up being me pretty much banging her ass for fifteen minutes.

    Plenty of penetration and oral sex to begin with, and work your way into the DP.

    It takes practice and persistence - but man! - is it worth it when it all comes together!
     
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    Just to be clear, I'm talking about double vaginal penetration. It also works with anal, but she can face up as well with the guy on the bottom in her ass.
     
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  10. Mrivers

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    I'm looking forward to giving this a shot one day soon. I guess I better start working out now :)
     
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    The biggest thing is go slow and let her take the lead. Once she gets adjusted and comfortable, hold on! If you are freaked out by MM touching, don't even try this.
     
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  12. Mrivers

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    Definitely not freaked out by that. Actually, I'm more so turned on at the prospect of interacting with the guy as well.
     
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    ever tried both men cum inside when double penetrating?
     
  14. CaramelLady

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    This has been a fantasy of mine and your post is very informative. Thank you!
     
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  15. CaramelLady

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    This is fascinating. I have talked to men that absolutely love this aspect. Some were ambivalent. Others were totally put off by that.

    The best reaction recounted to me was a man, completely heterosexual, described this incidental contact as a bit shocking at first, then...he found it quite stimulating.

    I have yet to build up my courage, not sure that I can, but this has always held a certain fascination for me.

    This is a great thread gg!
     
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    I agree with all the above however there one thing that puts me right off.......

    And that's being that close to another Dick :eek:
     
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    Conventional double penetration vaginal and anal, as a man you do feel the other man's erection. I'm looking forward to my first DPP which I hope works out.

    If you're worried about the proximity to another man's penis then it may be best not to try it. The first time I was in two minds but I thought nothing ventured and it was great. So when a man proposed DPP with him in his wife I thought nothing ventured.
     
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    Could not agree more Ginger.

    I've done MFM, both anal/vaginal (me vaginal) & almost double vaginal.
    I cannot in all honest say that I enjoyed either, in fact I 'chickened out' of the double vaginal.
    Anal/vaginal because of the very close proximity of another man and his cock, plus the fact he was beneath, came fast and wanted to withdraw completely.
    Double vaginal, as soon as he tried to join in and his cock touched mine that was it, it was over for me.
    It might not be pc to be homophobic but I make no secret, nor have any hesitation in saying that in a direct sexual contact situation I am 100% homophobic.
    What happens between two consenting adults is their business agreed but I also have the right to disagree where it directly affects me.
     
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  19. gg33

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    Thank you, CaramelLady. I'm glad you got something useful out of it.

    Incidentally, I just adore your thoughtful salutations, replies, comments, and posts. You have a natural ease with your manners and language. It's very comforting and very sexy.
     
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  20. CaramelLady

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    That is a very kind thing to say. Thank you very much.
     
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