Dominate first try (mild) - any other suggestions

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Imthatguy, Mar 22, 2011.

  1. Imthatguy

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    This will be tough but im attempting to spice up things more. But she knows im trying new things to increase our sexual comfortability with each other and is liking it so far.

    I will approach her from behind like in the kitchen. Ill kiss her and put my hand into her pants feeling her pussy. I then ask her if this will make her wet. This is just to break the ice....

    Ill then pull down her pants only exposing her bum and spank her lightly but also rub her bum in comfort too. Ill then pull her by the wrist into the bedroom and tell her to get on her knees. Ill pull out my cock and make her suck on it. After a few mins i will pull on her hAir from behind and pull her head back so that i can give her a wet kiss then i will lightly flick my cock on her tongue and cheeks and then let her keep sucking on it. Then ill ask her to take her clothes off and lie on the bed face down with her legs on the floor (like doggy) and spank her a bit then do some doggy. Ill then pull her arms back like im dominating her then a bit later on pull on her hair a bit.

    Im thinking of throwing in some dirty tAlking but i dont know if i have the guts to do it yet lol. Any advice there? Id also like to put my fingers in her mouth and i think i could find the guts to do that while she is sucking me off.

    I probably wont get her climaxed but this will give her an idea of how dirty i can get and i think this will turn her on as she will see her husbAnd as powerful and confident when she needs it ya know!


    We have been married ten yrs now.
     
  2. Meee

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    In my humble opinion...

    Let me start that again. In my opinion, sex is about communication, so it's better to talk about it than just try things out on her. My first reaction would be "Excuse me, what are you trying to do?" In other words, I would want to talk about it.

    I think this is true especially for domination and SM. Especially when you are just starting. It's fun to discover this type of thing together. The mysterious and suspensful part can come later when you've already worked out the limits and practiced some techniques together.

    One of the things I'm hearing in your little script is some issues about taking the initiative. Something tells me that taking the initiative is one of the things your wife wants you to do more. Well, I'm not sure what to tell you about that, but the ways you want to take the initiative in that story sound a little timid.
     
  3. If you're tryin to really be dominant, replace all those "then ill ask her to" with "then i tell her to", or just do it yourself! If you want her to see you as dominant, then just be dominant and quit trying to appear dominant...if you know she likes it then just do it. Its like morpheus said in the matrix' "Stop trying to hit me and hit me!"
     
  4. HardRocker

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    Sounds like a scene from a porn movie. Good luck, let us know how it works out.