dominant female

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  1. too_thick

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    that is one of my Fantasies I love it


    it's such a turn on, makes me pre-cum a lot just thinking about it :O



    outside the bed room it would not work for me since I have a dominant type of personality once you in my comfort zone you see my true side of me.. when you least expect it.
     
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    I like dominant women too, I have one. But when we walk somewhere, before we realize it, it always develops into a foot race because neither of us will walk a half step behind the other. We find it funny though.
     
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    LOL--I'm glad you said that. The boyfriend and I do that too.
     
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    I think a lot of men want a woman that is at least aggressive in bed. I'm not so sure I'd be into being dominated all the time in the bedroom, but being dominated once in a while sure would be nice!
     
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    My SO and I love swapping around roles when the mood strikes us.
    She can be extremely aggressive and sexually dominating but then we will finish the session with her in doggy to even things up some ;)
     
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    LOL lbushwalker. Sounds like you two have it figured out.
     
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    I have known some prostitutes and escorts as both client and in a social sense, and the one aspect of the service that they provide that reels men in, and in Australia married men are the biggest users of the sex industry, is that the women are sexually confident and dominant. As a client, you feel it and sense it straight away. As a friend, they confide that this is what 'most men want', when they ring to make an appointment.
     
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    I am the dominant one in my marital bed, although I'm not too keen on it, really. From the second we hit the sack I'm the one initiating the sex, coreographing the positions, and basically running the show.

    I love my husband for being a willing partner when I want to try new things but, I'd love him just a tad more if he took charge and dominated me with confidence once in a while.
     
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    Ok so I have a question for the guys about the turn-on of a dominant woman.

    What exactly is it about her that turns you on so much? I get why aggressive is a turn-on, I'm more focusing on actual domination. Let's say I would order my husband to put on MY underwear while he does the laundry and he gets immediately turned on - is it the WAY I say it? Is it his perception of being dominated?

    What it does for me is not exactly sexual (not sure how to describe it), it's more that I have so much mental/sexual power over him that it overpowers HIM (him who could physically overpower me if he would choose at any time... but I know he won't). Does that make sense? Is this part of the turn-on for you too? Or has nothing to do with it?
     
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    For me Vanja, I think I feel it would be a turn on to be dominated (not humiliated ;)) because I could then feel HER confidence. My girl is very much submissive in bed. While that's good and all, it would be sooooo awesome to have her "take me" once in a blue moon. Ya know, for her to say "alright you *&@!%* get your ass to bed. I'm gonna do some really dirty things to you." Then continue that vibe throughout our sex that night.

    That's what I mean when I use the word "dominated". I really don't care so much for the idea that she shoves a whole apple in my mouth and makes me wear her undies while dancing like a ballerina simply for amusement....lol. Just strong, rough, sex with HER pushing the pace.

    Does that explain anything?

    As for dominatrix, I'd do it if she wanted me too, but it's not something that I would be turned on by, so "I" wouldn't be the one to bring that up. Just not my game......
     
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    Like MS it is the physical reinforced by the verbal that provides me that pleasure.
    Picture the contrast of a diminutive gentle girl switching to forcefully calling the shots...hot!
    Humiliation might be desirable for some but for me it's a total turn off in either direction.
     
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    When I made my posting I was thinking dominant as the converse of passive, rather than dominance / submission. Cowboy Lover's posting outlines my grief: initiating sex, organising the positions, running the show. Any extras, such as outdoors sex or roleplay, is down to me as well.

    Some other women I have had relationships with were more dominant, and what I have found is as they became more enthusiastic I became more enthusiastic, and we eventually wound each other onto a higher plane of sexual pleasure. I ended up doing things I never dreamed of, totally unplanned, and then laying there in bliss and totally blown away by what we'd done together. But you never, ever get that with one dominant and one passive.

    In a broader sense, it's still a man's world run to men's rules, regardless of whether you're a career woman or not. We men are expected to succeed, to achieve, to be in charge. It gets very draining, life gets draining, and then suddenly you have this sex partner who takes away the pressure to perform in bed, in addition to everything else you have to do. And it's so wonderful to have sex as a respite from the rest of the world.

    That's why men get turned on by sexy dominant women.
     
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    :toast Good Post!......^
     
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    Yep me too!! It's a great assessment. I am a very aggressive and competitive male, but when with a partner with whom I am comfortable I relax and follow her around where ever she likes doing what I can to please her (No underwaer though). When she calls my number I switch roles and take over.
     
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    that seems about right
     
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    ive never had a dominant partner..im a dominant male in my opinion and that follows into the bedroom...im into pulling her hair or clenching her neck(not chocking but grasping tightly around her wind pipe) and slapping her ass...all of which she loves me to do to her...ive tried to let my current girl take control and it really just put us both out of the mood..even though she is the one to initiate sexwith a bj or whatever i am always the one to take control after that point....i suppose though what cbrmale said it would be a getaway from the real world to maybe let her take action...its something i would be willing to try if she had the right attitude for it
     
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    just don't put her on the spot.. that's a mood killer for me when we get naked & he's like "you have me naked, now what are you going to do?" it delays all play and sometimes kills it for me entirely.. there's more subtle ways to let me know he wants me to be in control that don't kill the mood for me
     
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    yeah im bettin thats the reason we had a buzzkill the one time we tried it...maybe its something we could talk about before hand just ask her to try it sometime when she is confortable...i wouldnt mind it it always something to try
     
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    if he just sits back and doesn't take over then I know he wants me to be in control.. it's just when he says something or asks me what I'm going to do that kills it (though the last time.. when he said something as we started getting busy I ignored it and things were still good :D)
     
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    I guess its all about mutual agreement between both parties .. not only for dominant sex but for all fantasies .. to move things on.

    for me i am curious about the idea and would never mind it ,, as it breaks the normal mood.