Does this make sence?

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  1. runnerx32

    runnerx32 New Member

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    Hmm, me and this girl have known eachother for a few years now, and we tell eachother everything. So a few weeks ago I ask her out, after getting many signals from her, and she says no. Her reasoning is that she is embarrassed that she trusts me so much and i am the only person she opens up to with her emotions. Also, her best friend and I are ok with eachother but not friends, apparently another one of her reasons. It makes no sense to me...

    Raaaagh! I still love her anyways.
     
  2. Dreama

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    Perhaps she is not romantically interested in you. If she is, she doesn't want to destroy your friendship.
     
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    Don't ever try to figure out what a woman wants, you will go insane and die before your time. ;)
     
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    Maybe, but she has told me about fantacies about my in a cetrain costume doing her, and other things that make me think she is romantically into me. I'm just not sure anymore.

    She confuses me so much, wheres a bridge when I need one..
     
  5. AnonymousOne

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    What makes even less sense is the lack of correct spelling .... MULTIPLE TIMES!
     
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    Sounds like you've become such close friends that even though you tell each other everything you're not what she looks for romantically. As CL says don't even try to figure it out.

    Just maintain the friendship if you want but you'll have to live with the fact that you may never get involved with her. You're viewed as a close friend she can call and talk to when things go wrong.
     
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    Sounds like she's playing with your head....not maliciously. Some folks (especially women) are more into the fantasy of someone than actually being with them. I've had similar experiences with someone who was sending "mixed signals". That's just their way - she likes you, but she doesn't LIKE you.....didn't make sense to me either.
     
  8. Kronnie

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    fantasies dont always mean she wants them to be realities.

    your a close friend of hers, why ruin it potentialy by wanting more.

    Im sure she just sees that there is far to much to risk.
     
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    Absolutely True

    Hiker
     
  10. SexyScorp

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    Unfathomable creatures?

    and normally streets ahead
    of the opposite gender....

    hence the difficulty in gaining
    an understanding...

    :)
     
  11. Kronnie

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    I think women also have major troubles understanding exactly how a guy works..in the same way males have the same problems figuring out females in all ways to.

    Thats why i think sometimes females enjoy the company of homosexual guys ( a closer connexton mentaly :) )
    and why some guys enjoy the comapny of tomboy for the same exact reasons
     
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    Tell her this. "Look, a little sex between friends is no big deal!" But to preserve your friendship you'll both need to keep your emotions is check.
     
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    I think that is easier said than done!
     
  14. SexyScorp

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    'a little sex between friends"

    can, if one isnt careful turn into a big deal...

    :)