[Ask a Guy] Does the silent treatment work?

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  1. Naughtypinkbits

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    I've had a bit of a tiff... My partner is a little bit passive aggressive and very stubborn.. All you guys out there wanna let me know if I'm poking a dragon by completely ignoring him..?

    Does it have the desired affect!?
     
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    Communication is the best way to sort life's interesting debates. Why intensify the unknown effect of silence. Talk it through then make up.

    Life, as they say, is too short.
     
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    Agreed but I always give in! I just wanna "win" just this once! ...

    I know it sounds childish!! We've been together so long it's just a matter of principal not whether he ever speaks to me again
     
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    There is no single winner or loser in a combined relationship. I'm married to a German, and have been for a number of years. And she is of few words, just direct with the words and to the point. We nail things, most of the time - head on.

    Me DSG.
     
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  5. pb_j

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    The silent treatment always makes me even more pissed.
     
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    I was banking on the cute factor quelling any anger! I get away with the little princess act sometimes! But that was an assertive answer .. Thank u for your honesty xx
     
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    Can I ask specifically why? Pbj
     
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    When you have two people who are mighty stubborn then you have a real problem. lol
    But if one person almost always gives in it might not be fair, but it makes for a better relationship. And i'm sure there will be other thing's you win him at. lol
     
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    Well.... Because the sex is so good and we've kind of met out match in the bedroom.. He's dominant but dotes on me.. I'm submissive but strong

    Our personalities are so different in "real life" it's complete role reversal... I just wanna confirm that whilst I'm putting a million percent effort in NOT to speak to him.. He won't be calling my bluff and can wait forever... In fact probably enjoying the peace and quiet
     
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    Talk a lot to friends, talk a lot on the phone in front of him.
    That may just get him talking to you first again, even if it's an oh yeah you can talk to them then... lol
     
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    As far as why I guess it's because I would rather just talk about it, resolve it and move on. If she is ignoring me out of spite that can't happen which will anger me no matter how cute she may be. That's just me personally though
     
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    Lol... I like!
     
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    Silent treatment may work in newer relationships in an "absence makes the heart grow fonder" kind of way. Once married or in a long term relationship, it's just childish and resolves nothing.
     
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    I packed mine off back home to Germany and refuse to go full time still for now :)
     
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    I agree wit pb and xtacy. It may work "ok" in a new relationship but anything long term it isn't anygood. You both will find that you each will just get more pissed and the issue will be harder to resolve. Communication is key. Just my two cents.
     
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    You're right. But the flip side to this is, in long term relationships/marriages, if one party decides to be childish and do the silent treatment. It's much less lightly anyone would split up over it.
    New relationships, silly silent treatment could well end them before they've hardly got started.
     
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    The OP just wanted to hear some options that she could try, to get him talking first I think. Whatever anyone might think on this one, that's all she wants by the sounds of it.
    She's already in a long term relationship.
     
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    Did the lady not say it was her giving the no communication stance? And was asking if this was the right tactic to deploy?
     
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    Lol.. I should have reiterated that this isn't a life or death situation ... I am being a big kid .. I'm happy to admit it.. Like I said before it take soooooo much effort for me to actually ignore him (because I love him really) .. I just wanted to know if he's sulking upstairs in his boys room or if he's most probably over it and couldn't give a frigg
     
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    True, but saying her partner is very stubborn, sounded as if he wasn't talking. But I could be wrong. Either way the general consensus here is correct, silent treatment no matter who started it doesn't get anyone anywhere.