Does size matter ?

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  1. Scruples

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    A question for the forum - does size matter?

    As advertised in a spam mail: In a recent survey by Durex Condoms, 67% of all women admitted that they are unhappy with their partner's penis size. This proves that size really does matter. Women view men with a larger penis size as being more sexually attractive and sexually capable. An overall larger penis size also means a larger surface area, which stimulates more nerve endings, resulting in a more pleasurable experience for both you and your partner. A larger and more muscular penis is also more of a natural, visual turn on for women.

    A penny for your thoughts ......
     
  2. cook74

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    Now that you have payed me a Penny, here is my thought... BULLSHIT!!

    Durex is a company hell bent on selling their product so you can't believe their surveys. Look for the independent surveys for your information.

    I'm only about 20/21cm and all I get is complaints from my partner about how I'm too big for her :( I sometimes wish I was a little smaller. (But not too much :eek:)
     
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    We've discussed this topic hundreds of times it seems. It just gets old after a while saying the same thing over and over and over again. Yeah, big dicks have a WOW factor as far as looking at them goes, but as far as actual fucking, any dick will do, just as long as the man behind it knows his stuff.
     
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    nonsense.

    Longer just means your gonna hurt the curvix unless your careful...

    Just cos your cock is big doesn't make you partners G-Spot of Clit any larger. So where does that surface area stuff come from ?

    Work what you've got and ignore crap statements like that.

    Having said this, I am well endowlled and get a similar responce from my wife as cook...Certain positions are either out, or a portion of me is simply waisted due to depth control. :ugh
     
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    I'm probably a little bigger than average as regular condoms are tight on me.. but the X-large ones are like a hefty bag on me.

    My g/f won't let me put her legs on my shoulder and penetrate her that way because I hurt her too much.

    This is one of my favorite positions and we can't do it because it is too painful for her. So ya that blows big time for me, believe it.

    And as I said I am not even that big.. so you can imagine some of the problems well endowed guys have at times.

    So while having a big dick I'm sure can have alot of pros, there are still cons that go along with it.
     
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    I would have to disagree with Durex, I would also question how the question was worded, how the question was presented, and I would also question their research sampling. Furthermore I would have to disagree with you on your conclusion. For me I know several women who prefer average size penises versus large due to the discomfort a large penis provides for them. Penis size is one thing, relationship, and communication is more important. So if you have a good relationship penis size becomes a secondary issue.
     
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    Ya know, for as often as this topic has come up and been discussed to death, I can't seem to ever recall a woman starting a thread to complain that her partner's penis was too small. Not once. Interesting, huh?
     
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    I don't trust this statistic. Any kind of statistical information can be twisted so that it promotes a particular agenda. What most likely happened is that the women were asked if they would like if partner's penis was a little larger. 67% of them responded with a yes, and then Durex twisted it so that by answering yes to that question, they were "admitting that they were unhappy" with their partner's size.

    This kind of spinning of statistics happens all the time.
     
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    As a spokesperson for Durex Pty. Ltd. I'd like to say that the Durex brand has the highest standard of excellence thrust upon it by our good, well endowed customers. I thank all the women that we paid for their fine contribution in our non biased add campaign, and I would also like to thank all those that were gullible enough to think our shit was even worth reading.

    BTW. Because of the success of this poll/campaign I just got promoted and added another zero to my take home salary. Again, I thank you all...;)
     
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    It's bullshit. I'm sure that those statistics are pretty damned slanted. Penis size is not an issue, as long as the man who has the penis knows what to do with it, and how to work his other parts well. I cringe every time I see a huge one in porn, because I always think that it has to be hurting the woman he's penetrating.
     
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    I think size doesn't matter to MOST women. There are women out there who are "size queens" and want the biggest ones out there. Durex's claim that most women are unhappy with their partners size, i think, is taken out of context. I think most women are happy with what their partners have but wouldn't mind their man being bigger.
     
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    Size matters to me but I really don't like telling most guys that because they either think that they dont have to try in bed because they are big or that no matter what theyre not good enough because they think their small which is dumb.
     
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    Durex = Lies and twisted stories...
     
  14. Lefty'sLefty

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    I suppose

    size matters a little bit. If you have a cock that could be hidden behind a thumb tack, you might have issues, but as long as you're even in the realm of average I don't think its the size of the bait, its how you wiggle it. I am in the boat with a few other here whos wives think they border on too big- I can tell you I'd neeever make it in the porn biz. The only thing a large penis is good for is feeding the ego of macho-male idiots. Just MHO of course.
     
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    The durex sex survey is quite extensive, it is an on-line questionnaire filled out by tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands across the world. Being on-line it is anonymous; a person can reveal their deepest desire. I am not sure if the original posting came from the sex survey or something else that durex ran. However if you think about it, durex don't have anything to gain from large, small or in-between. They sell all sizes of condoms.

    My experience: size matters to quite a number of women, everything else being equal. In terms of casual sex where you're unlikely to meet each other again, size can be a major turn-on. In terms of relationships, I've had girlfriends who've enjoyed the prospect of friendship, love, good sex and a good sized penis.

    As far as size goes, I am not a woman so I can't say for certain, but I've had this nagging feeling that it's visual as much as sensate. That is a big penis looks good and is a turn-on well before you get to penetration. Indeed, the major aspect may be the visual.

    As far as having size goes, it is a two-edged sword. Your partner needs to be very well aroused or else it can hurt. Bashing her cervix won't ever happen if she's 100% ready, so you as man have to work at sex every single time. Another issue is that negotiating anal sex can be a problem for the well-endowed male. Oral sex is a problem, I literally don't fit because of thickness (although a couple of partners have been able to deep-throat me). From ordinary ladies oral sex is unsatisfying, and never in a million million years could I come from oral sex because I just don't get the stimulation that most of you guys would be used to.

    My size is 16.5cm girth and 19cm length. And despite the limitations above, I have no wish to be smaller.
     
  16. Bluesy

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    This is true. A well-endowed package says "virility" in the same way that all the right curves on a female body says "fertility". I think this sort of question is rather pointless, because it's more than likely the case that everyone has physical preferences when it comes to the opposite sex (or same sex, if you're homosexual). I mean, if we could design the perfect mate, I'm sure that fantasy mate's physique would differ somewhat from your partner's, or future partner's, physique. Odds are you aren't going to wind up with someone who has what you consider to be the "perfect body". And most of us acknowledge that this isn't important, that personality, compatibility and sexual chemistry are the foremost determining factors in selecting a mate. So maybe your dick is a little smaller than what your partner would prefer, so what? So maybe her boobs or ass are smaller than what you would prefer, or you have a thing for blondes and she's brunette...maybe her vagina isn't as tight as you'd like... So what. The person who is "right" for you is going to be far more than the sum of their body parts.
     
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    I personally prefer having them bigger and girth matters more than length.

    That said, it's not a huge issue for me unless it's teeny tiny. I have only twice come across men with such a small penis... so small that I didn't even feel it. I think this is very rare though... most men shouldn't feel so self-conscious about it because it's really not that big of a deal.
     
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    I have about a six inch penis. I have been hold its perfect and I have been told from 3 women that it small. I have been told size matters and other women have told me size doesn't matter. I guess it depends on what each individual woman likes.
     
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    You've pretty much summed up this whole issue, latincop. Individual tastes vary.

    By the way, there's something awfully sexy about your username. I'm dying to know as well if you really are a Latin cop...:brow
     
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    I hope I'm not going to appear shallow here when I say size does matter to me. Despite the fact that downstairs I do get sore quite easily.The one boyfriend I've had whose penis was small didn't really satisfy me sexually despite all his energy. He had trouble keeping his cock inside me during sex and had to constantly stop and adjust himself which I found very off putting.

    Maybe he was just naturally clumsy though. I think he realised this himself because he went down on my constantly, but then that wasn't really what I wanted. His penis size became an issue though when I tried to take charge to make sex a little bit more pleasurable for me. I think he was used to women being a bit more accomodating which I didn't really feel the need to me.

    So maybe it was his attitude and lack of skill that ruined it rather than the size of his cock.