Does anyone make love anymore?

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  1. Barbwire

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    After being on this forum for a few years I've come to the conclusion that the younger a member is, the more violent/carnal/kinky sex their life is. Descriptions of hitting, scratching, choking, face fucking, and even rougher sex are commonplace.

    So, my question is, does anyone actually make love to their partners anymore or is it all about taking everything to the extremes? Is there no room for gentle, easy and tender lovemaking? Is it just an old-fashioned fantasy, something that only old folks engage in?

    Don't get me wrong, I'm all for some animalistic fucking now and then but I also crave the act of lovemaking. Am I just out of touch with the times?
     
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    All my current partner and me do is make love. He hasn't branched out yet lol. I like to alternate, if I'm really horny, I'll have sex, which is rough and such and most of the other time it's making love. =]
     
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    Totally OT but, what is your avy?
     
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    Nope. We just fuck eachothers brains out til we are both in pain and dripping with sweat.:p
     
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    We ABSOLUTELY do..

    Nothing better than slow.... passionate.... purposeful.... in your face love making... just getting completely lost in each other for an hour or so... After that we're both completely exhausted satisfied and spent...

    Since i've developed a closer connection with my GF sex has been mind blowing and so much more rewarding and satisfying..
    I believe it takes time to get to where we are though..

    Just mindlessly and roughly pumping away like i did when i was younger does nothing for me now, ive taken far more time to understand my GF's body, needs and what she loves.

    don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with an animalistic "quicky", but i can honestly say there's been times when we've both felt like it but held off till he had time to do it properly rather than just rush...

    I think some porno's have allot to answer for with how young people, especially men view what "sex" is..
     
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    You're right, Stormin. It's a whole new level of pleasure and satisfaction. An even we guys get afterglow.:p We've been learning each other's bodies for decades now.
     
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    Couldnt agree more Hardrocker, after 7 years we're still learning new things and adapting to how we're both changing, things that worked 5 years ago dont necessarily do now, you have to keep evolving and adapting sexually.

    Seriously, i know when you're young you think wow this is the best thing ever but "making love" as opposed to just banging each other takes it to a whole new level of satisfaction... just lying there afterwards cuddled up together basking in the "afterglow" still feeling numb and in a trace...

    Of coarse this means casual sex and one night stands will never be very satisfying or appealing once you've tasted REAL lovemaking...

    You'll know the difference.. trust me.
     
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    I wont lie, my fiancee and I (age 21 and 22) have some crazy sex SOMETIMES.

    But the majority of the time, it's love making. It's looking into each others eyes, enjoying the sounds, whispering I love you and just being sensual.

    I can't express enough how much it outrages me that my generation feels that sex is just that..sex.

    When did it become just a means to get your rocks off and not an act of passion and love?
     
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    Making love is nice .. mostly we save that for when we have the time.. we do alot of the ruff stuff.. it just feels to good not to lol
     
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    I just wanted to clarify that the above post was completely in jest, since I know how hard it is to relay a smartass tone of voice and whatnot. The lovemaking is actually better in my eyes than the getting down and dirty. Getting down and dirty is fun quite often, but getting face to face is when my fiancee and I have the best, most satisfying sex.
     
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    even when ruff and carnal me and the gf stare into each others eyes when possible ..i mean its obvious that if im biting on her neck i cant look into her eyes
     
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    Iam 20 years old and i can say that people of my age range does still make love. i have been seeing this older guy we never put a label on our relationship but after having sex a couple times and him getting to know my likes visa versa one day he actually said to me that he did not whant to have rough sex but he actually wanted to make love. It was a first time experiece for me because i was use to the rough sex but actually taking it slow looking into his eyes it feels like you are expressing yourself to each other without words. Some of us still do it time to time but i love rough sex but when looking to connect to someone on a deeper level making love can help you get there.
     
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    FM, I knew what you meant.:D
     
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    As long as someone was on the same page as I was, I think we're good. I think the thing is that the only thing people around here are sharing is the wild fun stuff, so that may be where CL has come up with the question. That and the younger crowd may not be looking for love like they used to, and trying to get the wild fun stuff out of their systems before they settle down.
     
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    Who says the wild and fun stuff has to end once you've "settled down"? In my experience, that is where it all starts. :phat
     
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    I'm 25 and she's 22. Its almost always slow love making for us. People who don't do that don't understand how amazing it is to just enjoy that closeness without worrying about the big finish.

    Of course it inevitably gets faster and a little rougher once we both start gettin into it haha. But even then there's no choking or hair pulling
     
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    Agreed!! ^^ :penisdance:penisdance:penisdance
     
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    Everyone's different, some girls I've been with do not like any sort of cuddling or long kissing or love making of the sort, all they want is straight sex. Other girls are just the opposite, they love to cuddle and make love. I like to do both, kinky sex is good but I can only do that for so long. I can hold a girl in my lap and cuddle with her and kiss all day if I wanted to.
     
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    We like it rough a lot of times, but often we have very passionate love making... We whisper and moan into each other's ears about how much we love each other and how we never want to be apart... One time I went up in her and she sat on my lap with her legs wrapped around me and we just talked about how much we love each other while I was deep inside her... It was one of the best times I've ever had, and it wasn't sex at all
     
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    While I like the wild ride at times, I like to lay in my partners arms and snuggle and make nice slow tender love to her. So no, it has not gone away. But i do find an older partner seems to enjoy this more, experience and nothing to prove goes a long way! Making love is totally about being into your parnter and wanting to do more than get your rocks off.