Do you think its a natural instinct to be with other peopl if your in a relationship?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by deeperlover1978, Jul 28, 2006.

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Would you have sex with someone else if you're in a relationship if its just sex?

Poll closed Aug 27, 2006.
  1. Yes

    38.5%
  2. No

    23.1%
  3. Had alot of thoughts on it

    15.4%
  4. Sure if my other is there (swinger) lol

    23.1%
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  1. deeperlover1978

    deeperlover1978 New Member

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    I dont think i worded the question right. I'm just curious if you have had a strong desire to be with other people or are you so in love with the person your with that you dont want to be with someone else or can you be with someone else and differant the sex from the intimate connection that you have with your significant other. Hope this kinda makes sense. lol

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    I'm just curious if you have had a strong desire to be with other people. Or are you so in love with your current partner that you don't want to be with someone else? Or can you be with someone else and differinciate the sex from the intimate connection you have with your significant other?
     
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  2. Emt

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    I personally feel that males and females are different with respect to this question. I think females are relatively loyal and do not have as much of a desire to be with others on a consistent basis while in a relationship. However, God/Mother Nature has created Males that have the main goal of "spreading their seed" as much as possible to further the species. There is a huge impact that emotions and intelligence has on PREVENTING multiple partners. Things like love, common sense, etc. help to keep loyal to one female/male.

    So in short, females don't seem to have as much of a desire, while males do by nature, but being intelligent and emotional, males have some restraint on the issue.

    Just my .02.

    -Emt
     
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    So to sum it up, women who cheat are heartless bastards while men are just living out a great desire? I like that ^_^
     
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    PUSS'N BOOTS, CAN YOU HAVE HIM CORRECT THIS ANGLISH, ER I MEAN ENGLISH
     
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    Was that how it came across? That's not really what I meant.

    When I said..."So in short, females don't seem to have as much of a desire, while males do by nature, but being intelligent and emotional, males have some restraint on the issue."...I didn't mean women were heartless and men are living out a great desire....more like...men are giving in to mother nature moreso than using their God given restraints and emotions.

    Ha...restraint!...now where did I put those hand-cuffs and leg-irons???;)

    -Emt
     
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    EMT, would you do me a favor? Would you give YOUR definition of cheating?
     
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    My definition?? What do you mean?

    -Emt
     
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    melicious The Old Maid
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    Just a discussion I had with someone earlier. I wasn't trying to put you on the spot....just that I know you're an official professional...... so the professional definition from someone who does marriage and family therapy, of what cheating is.
     
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    Ohhh ok gotcha...I thought you were trying to pick a fight or something but didn't understand why...;)

    Well even in the field, things differ from therapist to therapist. However, traditionally, cheating is when one partner in a relationship has another relationship of some sort with someone else.

    Suprisingly, most affairs don't have anything to do with sex, even though the sex does take place. More often than not it's due to a lack of basic affection and communication that the person isn't getting.

    Also, cheating does not always mean sex...it can be cheating that consists of going places together behind the other partner's back, it could be having intimate conversations together while intentionally trying to hide them from the spouse, etc.

    So overall I would say that cheating takes place when one partner does something with someone else that involves doing something they don't want the other partner to know about...if that makes any sense at all.

    I could go further and get into swinging, "open marriages", etc. but that's a whole other thread ;)

    -Emt
     
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    I'd love to discuss that thread with ya then. Perhaps I'll PM ya. Overall in your opinion is it about the other partner NOT knowing and approving?
     
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    Hell, I'd like her to join in!
     
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    Please do!:)

    Yes, overall it's about hiding but not necessarily not approving...

    I'll give you an example from my personal life. My gf is bi. Her first bi experience was cheating on me with her best girlfriend. They had sex and although the other person was female, it was still cheating because she tried to hide it from me. However, other than her trying to hide it, I didn't dis-approve of her actions. Had she told me about it, I wouldn't have been anything but turned on. It actually paved the way for some very erotic experiences...:)

    Also, one can "cheat" with things other than people. Not sexually of course...well except porn addition..but you can cheat on your sig. other. with alcohol or drugs, or even an obsessive hobby.

    -Emt
     
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    Join? Who? Where?
     
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    Thank you sir. Though I have no doubt about the morality of some of the things I do.... I do wonder the opinions (that's OPINIONS, NOT judgements) of others sometimes.
     
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    It was in answer to the original question and I was saying that If I was with a woman and developed the possibilty of a second sexually based relationship, I'd like girl 1 and girl 2 and me to have a go at it. Forgive me, I've been drinking a bit if I seem a bit... ungentlemanly...
     
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    A.... I just couldn't follow your line of thinking..... sometimes I'm a little slow. Sigh.
     
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    Hun I've had a few, sometimes I don't even understand my so-called "logic".
     
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    Original questions edited. See above. :)
     
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    Or can you be with someone else and differinciate the sex from the intimate connection you have with your significant other? [/I][/QUOTE]


    I do believe that one can separate the intimate connection they feel with their partner/s.o. and have sexual encounters with others that do not involve love. I believe the intimate couple must have a very trusting and strong relationship, and wonderful communication. With those things I think an open relationship is absolutely possible and very rewarding/fulfilling.
     
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    LOL forgive me, I was tired when i wrote this and I cant type. lol. I did just purchase "hooked on phonix" just to make you happy . lol
     
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