Do you still speak to ex partners?

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  1. xeniadraven

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    I was wondering how many of you still socialise or chat with ex's?

    Until recently I hadn't spoken to any and then the joys of facebook brought one particular ex back into my life.

    Its purely platonic and we have become great friends. In fact I'd go as far as to say we get on better now than when we were together!

    Have any of you had similar experiences?
     
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    It seems you have quite a few admirer's knocking at your door :ugh

    Me jealous nah :brow
     
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    Platonic G ;-) no need to worry lol xx
     
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    facebook friends with one... but it was a high school relationship, and he was younger than me, so we didn't date unsupervised. i did talk to one more.... but it really made redic uncomfortable, so i havent spoken to him in years.
     
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    I know that in some people's minds this doesn't count, but no, I am not in touch with my pseudoex. She cut off all contact with me, which was kind of the point of my heartbreak, and after seven years, I have finally purged all desire to reconnect with her. It took a LONG time and a lot of pain to get to where I am now, finally over her.
     
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    I have one ex girlfriend that I'm very friendly with. When we first broke up, the reason we stayed in touch was so I could still see her two kids. We lived together for over two years, and they already had a dead beat dad, so I figured it would be cool to stick around in their lives. It's several years later now, and I still take her kids out for dinners, movies, ball games, and all kinds of cool stuff. She used to come along with us, but it's been quite a while now that it's just her kids and I. We do consider each other close friends, and we've both been there for one another any time either of us needed anything.
    Other than her, I have no contact at all with any ex's.
     
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    Wow, cygnus. I don't know if that's healthy for the kids. I know you think it's good to have someone in their life, but do you ever wonder if it could be creating false hope in their minds that you and their mother will get back together?

    I just know that kids get really attached and hope for things. I hope they don't. Then again, I have no idea how old they are, which would be a factor.
     
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    Hello Fire,
    I honestly don't ever wonder if I'm creating false hope for them. They are allowed to hope for anything that they want. Their mother and I don't give them any reason to believe we will be getting back together. That's one of the main reasons she doesn't come along anymore when I take the kids places. They're 10 and 14 now, and they understand that their mom and I are just friends. I recognize that it's not a common situation, but everyone involved seems to enjoy it. Please don't get me wrong, I see the point you were making and I understand the logic behind it. That being said, try to look at the positive things that have been accomplished before you think about what is or could go wrong. It seems to me if you put some energy into looking for the upside of things and situations, maybe it would help you to stop dwelling on the downsides.
     
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    Some of my ex-boyfriends are like family, honestly. Its like sure, shit didn't work out romantically; too many fireworks turned friendly fire, and then becoming more detached we can appreciate each other just as people. There are some of them that I will never lose contact with.

    Other exs, sure, we just hurt each other too deeply to even speak again, in a civil manner - but those are more rare than the ones I'm cool with.
     
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    I am still good friends with a large number of my ex's. I'm really close friends with the ex who took my virginity. That's not to say that we're close friends because of that, but because we go way back to childhood. We grew up as pint-sized friends and continued on through adulthood.

    There is only one ex with whom I am not still friends with and that is because our relationship ended with him cheating on me. I do not accept cheating, ever, especially when all it takes is for you to walk away in the first place.
     
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    Still on talking terms with all my ex's bar one......and thats only because she turned into a stalker and caused me no end of grief.....
    Other than her......all good with anybody else I've ever been involved with actually...:)
     
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    I feel really stupid about my reply here. Obviously I don't really have an ex, but I do have horrible ex feelings about my former friend, who I was in love with, who went away.

    There should be some rule that you can only have horrible ex type feelings if you actually consummated the love...
     
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    I am still on good terms with them all; loved then not going to forget them :)
     
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    I am in contact with one. None of the rest. The one is still somewhat tenuous.
     
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    I am on "speaking" terms with mine (1), only because we have a son together and I got jipped him knowing the judge he got custody.
     
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    I still love everyone I have said I loved. Unfortunately many people do not know what love is! But I would do anything for any of them, even the ones who were disrespectful to me in the end.

    I am still in contact with 1 of 4 true loves and wish it was all 4 but that is not to be.
     
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    My wife is still friends with one of my ex-GFs. At first I was uncomfortable with it...Maybe I imagined they were comparing notes or something! LOL
     
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    Thanks to FB I've been able to connect with many of my ex and it's nice that I'm friendly terms with most of them. I never had a bad break up and treated everyone that's been with me very good.
     
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    I still speak to all my ex partners that I am still able to.
    I live in a relatively small village where quite a few of them live and converse with some on an almost daily basis when we 'bump' into each other. Nothing sexual or ever referring to 'old times' just general conversation - why not.
     
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