Do you or your partner bring you to orgasm?

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  1. martin9p2

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    Here's an odd question, but I always wondered ...
    I usually bring my GF to climax with my cock alone, or with my tongue, but 100% of the time I'm the one who does it for her. But she doesn't have the knack for making me come by her movements alone. She rides me and it's pretty nice, but she doesn't keep a "tempo" long enough for me. So then we get in a position where I can thrust away and I get off about as fast or as slowly as I like.

    My QUESTION is, for men, can your woman get you off all by herself? Women, can you get your man off by pussy-motion alone?:)
     
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    most girls ive been with ive figured out how to get them off with just penetration or oral. usually i finish myself off, partly because most girls cant get me off unless with a really good hand job, partly becausei like to jerk off in front of the girl and cum on her.
     
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    Martin9p2,
    In my experience your problem is surprisingly common, but I'm glad you are able to come by your own thrusting when you take over. My wife rarely gets me off when she's on top, and we mostly have to swap postions. Quite a few other of my many (perhaps 100) partners were similar. However, there are women out there who know what to do, generally older and experienced. But it is surprising, even when you grip a woman's hips and guide her, often it doesn't sink in! Not surprising, frustrating.

    DVD, you've been watching too many porn films and probably masturbating too hard. Train your penis to the light caress of a vagina by practising masturbation with a much lighter touch. Go light, go very light, go lighter still, and you'll probably master coming inside. For me as a married guy, I love to come in my wife, it makes sex more complete and more satisfying to both of us. As a bonus a man's come contains some feel-good chemicals including testosterone, and a woman absorbs some of this. Come alone makes her feel better, stronger and sexier for the rest of the day. Even with a condom, the mental aspect of coming inside remains.
     
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    i actually prefer not cumming inside the girl. my ex that i talked about preferred me to cum on her and i with her i could get off from anything, but we were together years and had great chemistry. she knew everything about me. other girls who ijust sleep with i dont usually cum from fucking them. If I want to cum inside a girl fucking them doggy stlye usually does the trick, but I think letting her see me cum is much hotter.
     
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    It is generally easier for most men to orgasm whenever they control the intensity/speed of the thrust. Not every guy can cum in every position, not every woman can come in every position...there's certainly nothing wrong with changing things up during intercourse. I've never been able to climax when on top or in doggy-style unless my clitoris is also being stimulated. You may want to add some new positions to your sexual repertoire, since there's certainly far more to intercourse than missionary/doggy/WOT :) She may need to try some new movements, as well. Rocking to and fro and gyrating the hips can create intense and unique sensations... I've never had a partner not come when I'm on top, and whether that's because I'm good at controlling my hip movements or what, I have no idea.
     
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    My wife can make me cum in many different ways....she knows how to get me off orally,and also by using her hands and she has no problem getting me to cum when shes on top....either style, facing me or reverse cowgirl.
     
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    Well, my wife can make me cum in just about any position it seems. She knows how to move her hips in a way that rubs us both just right, even if she's on top and doing most of the work. :brow We both kind of make each other cum I suppose...I know what she likes and what feels good to her, and she knows the same thing about me. For instance, I know I can give her a G-spot orgasm by sitting up while she's lying down and lifting her hips up and down while pushing my body into hers, and I know I can give her a clitoral orgasm by lying on her and rubbing my pubic bone, etc, against her clitoris, particularly if I vary the types of motion somewhat (straight thrusting, some side-to-side and circular motions, etc.), plus there's plenty other positions that work well. Even when she's on the bottom though, she's twisting and grinding around...she's definitely not a "just lie there" kind of woman. I can't seem to just lie there either if she's on top...I'm usually pushing back against her on up to lifting her up off the bed/whatever surface when I come in her.

    We've been practicing for about 12-13 years now, and ya know they say practice makes perfect, eh? :p I love giving this woman orgasms...she orgasms so easily and can have multiple O's...she's just a friggin awesome lava...:bow

    BD
     
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    All orgasms (hers and mine) fall to me in our house. Normally have to be in a male dominate position to control the thrusting to make myself cum. Her orgasm comes from my tongue and fingers or sometimes just my penis. She is generally submissive and wants me to lead her in bed.
     
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    I find this little factoid absolutely fascinating. I have never heard of such a thing.

    Back to the topic...as far as orgasms go, my husband and I both do it for ourselves and for each other, depending on the mood of the evening. He cannot make me come from vaginal intercourse alone, but I can get him to come during it by my movements.
     
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    Thank you my dear wonderful awesome handsome sexy wild lover! Wanna practice again? You still haven't watched me with the new "stroker" yet. And what the hell is in the box we haven't opened yet????? MMMMMM

    Oh, oops. Original post. Yeah...that. I always make hubby come one way or another, and ditto from him for me. It's just a matter or practice, technique, and being an active, conscious partner.....
     
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    My wife don't seem to have any problem getting me off. Orally, hand, sex. She can do it lol...
     
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    My g/f has no problem getting me to orgasm when she's in control.
     
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    I can pretty much get off no matter what. I probably cum way too easily no matter what she is doing to me.
     
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    My wife can get me to orgasm no problem when she's on top riding me. She can also get me to cum by handjobbing me with plenty of lube (blowjobs and dry handjobs don't make me cum for some reason).
    In turn, I can get my wife to orgasm multiple times when I'm on top, doing her doggie, or eating her out.
    However, some of my most intense orgasms involved both of us bumping, pumping, thrusting, and melting into each other.
     
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    my partner and i have no problem gettin to orgasm ..
     
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    We both give each other one pretty easily.
     
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    The beauty and femininity of the woman brings me to orgasm! Also her sweetness, tenderness and love! I also just realized, the sweet, soft voice of a woman really turns me on too!
     
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    My wife can get me off during intercourse with her movements alone, but it's fairly rare. It's normally both of us thrusting, sometimes just me as she holds relatively still. On the other hand, she gives me non-ejaculatory, full-body orgasms on a regular basis from hand-jobs. I don't get those from intercourse, nor from masturbation.
     
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    My wife can get me off with a blowjob.
    but I generally pull it out and stroke it a few times right at the last
    When fucking I can cum with no extra help from me unless
    it has gone on to long. In that case I will up the tempo.

    Hiker
     
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    I always cum, regardless the situation, some a re way better than others but I always do