Do you check up on your S/O

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by bighiker2003, Aug 29, 2007.

  1. bighiker2003

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    Just thought I would ask.

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    You mean spy on them? No.
     
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    Not at all. Without trust, there is no relationship
     
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    No, I have no reason.
     
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    I used to with my ex. I couldn't trust him at all. He was a piece of shit. I don't have to now though :)
     
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    nope never
     
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    I don't have one right now, my most recent ex was a flirt so I would check up on her and stuff. So I broke up with her. We're still good friends though.
     
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    No.....
     
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    Nope. If he has done something he probably shouldn't have he eventually tells me, and vice versa.

    I used to live with a man who would check my emails, cell phone messages, IM history, etc. Then when I started to delete the histories, he's say, "Why did you delete your IM history? You got something to hide?" It was a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. The ironic thing was he was the one using IM to seek out other women to screw. I wasn't..but cheaters are notoriously untrusting of their SOs. They assume that since they are cheating and lying, that their SOs must be doing the same thing to them. They almost want them to in a way. It's a kind of cheater's guilt.
     
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    I can't say that the thought never crossed my mind, but I never have.
    on the other hand she will pick up my work phone and go through the caller I.D., and if there is a message she will listen to it. which is all fine I have nothing to hide.
    although she did listen to a message the ended with thankyou babedear, your a sweety.
    it was a trucking co. secertery looking for loads. it ended up a fight that we now joke about, she will call me babedear and grin.
     
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    Nope. I trust her wholly and completely.
     
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    No way,without trust you have nothing.Besides,we have an agreement that if he does mess with someone else,as long as he's honest and tells me,so nobody else tells me first,then I don't care because I know there's no way he'd leave me.He says nobody ever made him happy till now.
     
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    Nope, not at all.
     
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    Less and less, and perhaps not in the way that someone reading this might think. Its not so much that I am looking for something, as it is something might catch my eye and then it all goes down hill from there. I do have a history of mental illness, and I have taken medications for it. However, I believe this is no excuse, and am slowly making my way toward trust. As of right now, however, I trust my SO more than anyone else, a lot more.

    I am not a trusting person in the first place, however. If the heavens opened up and God told me he wanted me to do something, even if it got me struck by lightning I'd probably ask him to prove to me that he was really "God" and not some knock off.

    Call me crazy, lol, other people have.
     
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    My bloke started to after we got engaged. He wanted to know why I was on the internet behind closed doors.

    He was convinced I was straying, but really I was trying to plan a surprise honeymoon and look up wedding stuff. The reason I had the door closed all the time was to keep the cats out (they demand attention)

    after I found out he was checking up on me, I broke off the engagement on a no-trust issue. and everything has changed.

    we're still together, but it's more of a convenience relationship. we just can't be arsed to break up and find someone new.
     
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    There is a lot of evidence that up around 75% of men and 55% of women cheat at one time or another. For most it is not a thing done often and does not end the relationship. I don't want to know, do you? If you do do you really want to be with this person or are you looking for an excuse to get out?
     
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    Every now and again I have to say that I see eye to eye with you Buffalo:tup
     
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    Nope......we have an absolutely strong, loving, caring and trusting relationship. And we are each others best friend to boot!
     
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    No, I don't.
    ~Bella