Do most guys feel guilty when they get a blowjob?

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  1. bt1257

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    Do most guys feel guilty when they get a blowjob? Do they usually feel like the woman is just doing it because she feels like she has to and doesn't enjoy it? I've never had a blowjob but I know I would feel really guilty and awkward about it if it ever happened to me.
     
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    Not at all.

    There are many women that love to please their partner, some of them actually enjoy the act itself.

    Men do the same thing. Not all men enjoy performing oral sex on women, but they'll do it to please her.
     
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    I have never felt guilt when it was a 'duty' blow job - I've just back-off because if she didn't want to do it (and it is always obvious) I didn't want her to do it .
    What's the point?
    If she obviously wanted to (and it is) and she's enjoying it then go ahead.

    One thing though and I've never known why - I've never been able to cum from a blow job, or a hand job.

    This has lead to bafflement and even annoyance with new/recent partners, as if it is some kind of insult to their abilities.
     
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    i would not want my husband to feel guilty if i'm blowing him, it would take all of the fun out of it for me. i don't give them as often as i used to, but when i do, i truly enjoy it and i love seeing his eyes roll back in his head and hearing his moans of pleasure.
     
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    Guilty? Hell no, women give blow jobs because they like to. That's the same reason I eat pussy. I like it.
     
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    nope, not in the least. i know mrsbiker:rose likes going down on me (at least she says she does and she gets very, very wet whilke doing it) and i know i'm going to m,ake sure she gets what she likes too.
     
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    I'm concerned that OP has a view of blowjobs distorted by porn. If the blow job is limited to stuffing your cock in a girls mouth and grabbing the back of her head till you cum, then damn right you should feel guilty.

    Sex should always be a consensual act. If it is, no reason to feel guilty. But if there is the slightest bit of coersion involved then sex is being misused. Corercion can take many forms, some as subtle as one person has feelings of inadaquacy and is using sex to gain approval while the other person is in it only for personal pleasure.

    Be open and honest with and repect your partnner's desires and feelings and you have noting to feel guilty about.
     
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    While there are some women that only suck cock in order to get reciprocated, many do it because they enjoy doing it. To many, including myself, the tastes, smells and sounds are just as much part of the experience as the sights and touches are. I once had a partner who neither wanted to give nor receive oral. Sex with her got boring pretty fast. Though we parted as friends for other reasons, I didn't try to work it out because of this.

    Either I have been extremely lucky, or most women enjoy giving head, at least to some degree. Just because they like doing it, doesn't mean they like to swallow, from cross sectioning some of the opinions of the ladies here. But again, I have been fortunate with that in my life.

    I don't have any use for people who are either sexually selfish, or make me feel like I am. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and shared.

    xx
     
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    No I don't feel guilty in the slightest. I lay back and enjoy the sensations she is giving me.
    She does it because a. either she loves me and wants to show it or b. she likes doing it.
    If this makes me a chauvinist then hey....
    I go down on her because I want to drive her wild, I also love the taste of her...
     
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    I don't feel guilty about it either. But, if the woman isn't into it, I can tell, and i may switch up the activities if I sense her not enjoying it. Unfortunatley for me, I had a 7 year relationship in my 20's with a woman who had TMJ, and she also didnt really like giving BJ's.
    Also for me, very very seldom is a woman able to make me come solely from bj's. I have no idea why, as I love them, but only one woman has been capable of finishing me off solely from bj consistently. I must say, it was AMAZING, and different than other orgasms. And to top it off, she swallowed EVERY TIME. :phat This wasnt too long ago. I dont know if this woman was much more talented than the others from my past, but since she occasionally did a phenomenal job, she was way better than previous partners in that regard. But, even still, she couldnt finish me off every time, and I know it bothered HER ego. She was probably batting 50% on me, and over time she did it less and less.

    I know a few guys IRL that have admitted to having a difficult time cumming from bj's. No one really knows why.
    I think some guys just have a difficult time for some reason.
    But I have to say, there is something AWESOME about havin a woman enthusiastically giving me a bj. :D
     
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    Wife does it regularly, she gets off on it, never felt guilty.
     
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    I have always thoroughly enjoyed having my penis sucked and licked that I don't have time to feel guilty. I just love oral sex.
     
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    Are you, perhaps, in the position where a female wouldn't want to perform oral sex on you?
     
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    My boyfriend says a girl once tried to suck his cock without actually touching it!

    Not how I do it. :)
     
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    I feel guilty when I don't get one. ;)
     
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    I do not feel guilty at all, as it is an act my my wife thoroughly enjoys and cannot get enough of. However, when one is fortunate enough to find someone with that attitude, it is important not to take it for granted in the overall scheme of the relationship, and treat her so that she keeps that eager attitude.
     
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    Nope. Wife loves to blow me because she loves what I do to her when eating her out.
     
  18. AtkCCC

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    Guilt...uh no. Oral is wonderful and Wifey has always loved it.
     
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    I will give a blow job all day, but don't eat me. I'm not into that, it's not a turn on for me.

    It excites me to give a blow job, as long as I can cum once you're done, I'm happy.
     
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    I love giving blow jobs. I love to watch his face and hear the moans and the OMGs, and just love how his cock feels in my mouth....and I LOVE to watch him come......