Do I have a man's mind?

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by Black_Magic83, Nov 12, 2011.

  1. Black_Magic83

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    When I watch porn for some reason, I get really turned on when the woman is really wet or when her nipples are being sucked or they are erect and teased.

    I get nothing out of seeing a woman give a guy a blow job- it looks boring to me, but when I see a woman getting licked out, that really turns me on. If I can see or hear her juices as she is getting bang, it makes me really wet. If I can see her pussy being stretched as a man is entering her, or if her labia minora ( inner lips ) are prominent that is a turn on for me too.

    Are there other women out there that get really turned on by seeing other women?

    I AM NOT A LESBIAN, NEITHER AM I BI-CURIOUS.

    I think my mind may be like this because I am more of a visual person, I get turned on by what I see, not by what I hear.
     
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    or perhaps you imagine deep down it's you and you feel her pleasure in a way
     
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    +1 for Kermit's reply. You're just experiencing the feelings as you watch them happen. Isn't that what porn is all about anyway?
     
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    It is for me, when I see a woman getting fucked, I put myself in the mans place....that's what gets me off.
     
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    I don't think you have any problem...I never get turned on on blowjob scenes....I get really wet on cunnilingus (pussy licking) scenes....I fantasize myself on the licked girl's position...that's what make me wet :)
     
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    Firstly, there is no such thing as 100% straight or gay. So you are bisexual to a degree. Every one is. It is how we are wired psychologically.

    Secondly, I don't like watching guys getting phalatiated or girls being "eaten out". It seems to me that you may be getting turned on via proxy. I don;t pretend I am the one who is doing whatever is being done to the female on the screen, but watching a black male having sex does provide more of a link for me than watching another race or two females with one another.

    Thirdly, I'm confused with your post. You claim that you may be one who gets turned on by what she sees and not hears, yet hearing a girls "juices" slop about as she is in intercourse turns you on.
     
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    When I saw I dont get turned on by what I hear I mean, if there is talk of sex.
     
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    This pretty much covers it. There are two ways to react to porn, really, either get off on the simpla appearance partner of your sexual preference, or get off on the partner of your own gender by imagining yourself in their place to one degree or another.

    This has no bearing on the manliness of your mind, however, and for all we know your mind may be the manliest of all of us. Who knows?
     
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    My wife once told me two girls making love is a beautiful thing. So I started thinking she could be curious. So I asked her if she sees a pretty girl does she look sexy to her and she said yes. So I asked her if she wanted or ever slept with another girl. She said she did have a friend that was bi and one night she slept over Just as friends. This girl was beautiful and got into bed with my wife and my wife said you have nothing on and she said its just the way she sleeps. Well after talking to her she started telling her why she likes girls. She was seducing her. So I asked her what happened and she said she had no interest in it and she told her I could see why you would do that and she agreed women are pretty and beautiful but she just did not have interest in having sex with them. So they are still friends. Every once in a while she says I'm still gonna get you one night. She says it in front of me and I say you cant do that because shes my wife. However if I was there it would not be cheating. My wife got mad at me. I was kidding but I don't know if my wife said lets go for it I would have to think about it. Anyway I think its normal. I think most girls find other girls attractive but it stops there. Its more common these days for girls to act on it and usually happens more when girls are drunk. Its almost acceptable these days for girls to kiss girls and still its written off as just a curiosity. Men really don't do this and is not as acceptable. You see girls in regular bars kissing more then you would see guys... Thank good. Just my opinion however there is nothing wrong with it. Just not my thing and it makes me very uncomfortable.
     
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    I cannot stand drunken attention seeking chix who make out and shit in bars because its trendy to be "bi" these days. Truth be told, women can be so deathly insecure that all kinds of catty drama plays out behind the scenes after the drunken threesome with Suzies boyfriend. Ive seen it, lived it and have been the third wheel, and have been stabbed in the back by insecure jealous so called friends who got their panties in a twist after seeing me put it on their man.
     
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    Female bisexuality has always been more common than male bisexuality, and the theory is that, in our primitive past, men went away alone to hunt for long periods of time, leaving women to communally subsistence farm, raise children and tend to each others needs.

    This separation of the sexes with women close and intimate to one-another is also considered the reason why women are often (but not always) better with words and vocabulary and writing than men (they were communally communicative while men were alone). As a writer of fiction, I can tell you that publishing is almost all female, and I'm not quite unique but rather rare (and my agent, editor and publisher are all women).
     
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    I'm inclined to go along with this in that I feel you are identifying with the woman in the film.
     
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    As most of the comments said ...it's "I want to be in her position" issue ...
     
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    Bisexuality in women goes far beyond the keener ability to share their emotions or being alone. The drive to dominate may be there, but quite often it's latent or less than a male's. Attributed to testosterone, males have high drives to engage in sport ("sport" as in competition, not solely games of sport).

    Societal dogmas also contribute a great deal toward the quantity of males who engage in homosexual acts and who are open to them. Society affects us in multiple ways. We often inhibit our "truer" nature or even mold our nature to fit that of society. Males, as the stereotypically primary source of he social dogma, drive these societal norms. That being mostly so, a female acting sexual with a female is more acepted, and thus (if not practiced only clandestinely) more practiced, than a male acting sexual with another male.

    The idea quite a few people have is that two females dancing ludely on one another or even normally are merely friends. Bisexual acts expressed by females tend to go unnoticed or applauded.

    Finally, while maturing through puberty, females seem less afraid to explore another female's body. They compare he size of this or that and a sense of communion arises. The closeness of their bond psychologically can lead to sexual wonderment as well. A female sexually expressing herself with another female for the reason of finding out what they like done with their body is more of a repeated action than males doing the same with males. Homosexual activities between females can also be seen as a safe haven. Males are usually agresors in the field of sex, while females seem to be more docile. A docile being will find more "safety" associating with and exploring with someone who is equally docile since the grounds are fairly equal.
     
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    I will share something we both have in common: Seeing a guy receive oral, handjob, boobfuck, see the guy orgasm, these really turn me on by "association" because I relate to the guy, things I enjoy lots.I have curiosity but xero intention or desire to be with a guy, just relate to myself having the same pleasures as another guy.
    I find you are quite normal, very sexual, liberated for what you say.

    I am not a woman but putting it in the same context ........
     
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    no, you have a womans mind.
     
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    I get it. It's a vicarious thing. I really find myself turned on when I see a woman being pleasured in some way. I may be bi, but it isn't that. I love giving a guy a blowjob, but seeing it onscreen does nothing for me. I like seeing the effects of my mouth personally.

    Don't worry about having a man's mind. You have a woman's mind.

    As to the people considering why it is more acceptable for women to be bi, as I see it, it all boils down to penetration. Women can love and please each other without implied entry. Regardless of actual entry of any kind. Men, however, only bring up images of entry. Even if all it amounts to is rubbing. If that makes sense.
     
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    I do not know if my wife gets "turned on", but when we watch porn together she definitely notices the womans breasts and clothes much more than anything else. I think she notices the breasts because she is buxom and has very sensitive breasts, and likes to "compare". She notices the clothes because she likes wearing sexy things for me and often asks if an outfit is something I would like to see her wear, or would like to have sex while she wears it.