Okay, so I have this question that's been bugging me for a WHILE. I don't mind if it's a guy or a girl answering, because I'd like to hear both opinions. I've been with two guys sexually in my entire life, and when I gave my virginity to my first boyfriend, I gave him a blowjob, and all that jazz, and we just got right to it. He didn't really touch me at all, just kissed me. At the time I didn't really know anything about sex or orgasms, or even foreplay, so we just got right into it. It hurt like hell because I was barely wet. It really upset me because I thought that sex was supposed to be really enjoyable with the way that everyone talked about it. Needless to say, I was incredibly disappointed. I researched online and I finally brought up the nerve to ask him if he could please start touching me, and I asked him if he would go down on me. He seriously freaked out on me and told me that going down on a girl is like completely disgusting, and that it is not "normal" in relationships for guys to go down on their girlfriends. That vaginas are weird and gross. He basically said that after we had sex and I told him that it hurts me that he doesn't consider my feelings and needs. I asked him if he'd actually stick his dick in something weird and gross, but he wouldn't lick it, and he told me that I'm jealous of him because he can orgasm and I can't and I'm just not sexually mature enough to orgasm from intercourse alone. It's safe to say that relationship did not last long, lol. But my next boyfriend(current boyfriend) opened a whole new world for me. He gave me my first(and many more) orgasms and taught me that sex was actually pleasurable. He LOVES going down on me. I can hardly keep him away from my cooch. He broke me away from my "all guys hate vaginas" thought process, and just generally pleases me in any way he can. I'll admit I'm fairly young, and I haven't had alot of sexual experience with guys, but I'm just confused. I want to know what guys think in regard to pleasing their wives/girlfriends/fuck buddies, ect.? because as you can see so far I am getting alot of mixed signs from two different guys. I am trying not to make a judgement on how guys please their significant others based on the two I've encounterd, but I just would like a general opinion. So what my honest question is, do guys willingly go down? are the two guys I've been with on opposite sides of the spectrum in the extremes? Does going down on a chick gross you out? what do you like/hate about it? And for girls, have you ever been with a guy who was like my first boyfriend? what did you do about it? I am SOOOOOOOOO curious. Details, please!