[Ask a Girl] Do girls have "womans intuition" about sex?

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  1. da old dude

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    I was reading the replys to a post under general sex discussion called "just a firsts-sexual survey for girls". I have to admit the replys were hot and I had to take a trip to the restroom to have my way with myself so I could go back to work and concentrate ( on work)

    What struck me was how many women were very young when they gave thier first HJ's or BJ's.

    This got me to thinking that when I was around the same age group as some of these ladies were in the survey, there were a number of girls that I had a Friend With Benefit relationships with that often included anything and everthing sexually togther like fingering, mutual masterbation, breast play, naked cuddling, etc. With some of my FWB partners there was often-times no actual intercourse, yet she'd be great about jacking me off or blowing me when needed.

    Girls seem to have this uncanny ability to get a guy all worked up to the point that he's all hot-n-bothered and in a sexual frenzy, and they seem to know almost instinctively that a blow job or hand job is a great cure for the situation.

    It's almost like girls have some type of sexual instinct I swear, since jacking or blowing a guy seems like it should be a learned or taught experience. Having said that, it must be a girls sexual intuition or instinct to jack-off or blow a guy in certain situations.

    The question for the girls is, did you just kind of intuitively know what to do on your first HJ or BJ, or did you learn it from porn, a friend or whatever?
     
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    My first HJ and BJs were when i was 17 [I'm 19 now]. I can honestly say I had NO CLUE about what I was doing. I was half going off what i've seen in porn and half based off of his reactions. After that I read up more about it, learned more about the penis itself and certain details that give certain reactions to a guy and now I can say that my boyfriend is never disappointed with me and my 'skills'. :p
     
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    Hmmmm. My first BJ, I was definitely encouraged by the BF but he didn't give me any "instructions." The HJ was spontaneous. A penis is a fascinating thing and I couldn't help but want to touch it. Both BJ and HJ were "learned" over time, but definitely done enthusiastically. I love to see that organ respond.
     
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    Trixi and WB,

    See that's what I mean, there is some type of intuition going on sexually with girls.

    As a male, I knew about a clit at around 16 or 17, however I didn't figure out it was a womans sexual universe until my late 20's. Go figure.
     
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    Trixi,

    See that's what I mean, girls just seem to have a natural sense about what to do, or what needs to be done. Now, I'm not suggesting that we don't learn and get better at our techniques as we get older.

    When you said the "HJ was spontaneous" .. that's another example of what I mean, of my opinion that woman are just more sexually (and otherwise) intuitive than men are.

    I would guess that if men were polled here about there first 5+ years of sexual contact with a girls pussy's they would probably admit they were fingering inside them rather than concentrating on her clit, were it feels "great" as opposed to to "good" from inside stimulation.

    When you gave your BF your first HJ, were you surprised when he shot his cum, or did you expect it? I remember several of my early GF's didn't seem to know that would be thier reward for a job well done, they seemed surprised. All but one kind of liked it though and seemed to come back for more.
     
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    I think the difference between the two genders may be less about intuition and more about men not being afraid to show their sexual desire and their sexual response. Women in Western culture have been sexually repressed for thousands of years due to the influence of a patriarchal religion, and as a result they tend to leave it to us men to guess what we should do and when we should do it. As a man who has had sex with a number of women from non-Western cultures, the difference is startling. There was no guess work required on my part; I knew exactly what they wanted and I knew exactly how to give it to them.
     
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    Cbrmale,
    I'm not sure what your saying here. Are you claiming that woman from foreign countries are more sexually intuitive?
     
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    I think he's saying that he thinks that foreign women are more sexually open and expressive.
     
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    I'm saying that women from non-Western cultures are generally more sexually open, expressive and adventurous, and from a younger age. As a man, it's easy to work out what your partner wants from the desire she shows or the non-verbal cues she displays. I believe the desire that men show when they want sex, and the expressiveness of how they want it, is what Western women use.
     
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    The first thing I would say is that girls have the advantage in knowing instinctively what to do. The inexperienced guy is at a definite disadvantage. He has probably never seen a clitoris and doesn't know it is there or what it is. How could he be expected to know what to do with it? A girl has it all hanging out in front of her. A penis is quite visible and when she reaches out to touch it, she can see and feel it respond. That's all a gal needs to see what she should do with it - touch it, feel it, stroke it - it responds. Maybe they should teach guys about the clitoris in high school health class.

    Yes, indeed, the first time, I WAS surprised by the reaction. Seeing this dramatic reaction makes you want to do it again. It is a shame, but girls are definitely unfortunate in usally not having such a dramatic reaction. If they did, I'm sure the guys would get "it" a lot sooner.
     
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    The first time I gave a bj he was very pleased. Eventhought it was my first time I ask him to tell me what he likes so when the time came I was able to please him. And other thing is that I think men are more simple in tha thing we need more to have a orgasm.