Divorce Update/Double Standards

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  1. Kermit

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    Well i was down at my parents for a month and it's only 2 hours instead of 4 from my wife. I was all set to see her so we could take care of the papers together and just scheduling. She went from "probably this thursday" to "not this thursday nor next week nor the week after that or the week after that" jeez i would love to have a job like that where i know my schedule that ahead of time! She went into how perplexed she was why i was so hot since "theres no deadline"

    Here's the thing: I'm going by her game plan she had for me if she was gonna file (at hte time she said her parents were gonna fund it, which they renegged on). She was going to come see me and make me sign them in front of her and refused to mail them cause "you might do something stupid and not sign them." I finally get hte funds and the papers and figured she could make sometime for me. Instead she's perplexed why I wanted to come see her so badly (when i'm following her model for me!) and why i don't just mail them (the same thing she absolutely refused to do for me yet insisted i allow her to do). She did give me an explanation: "you're crazy I'm not" says the lady with the second personality named "Lucy"

    So I'm between a rock and a hard place. So i'm hoping she mails them off. I think though to her World Of Warcraft and chatting with her Boytoy is more important...but still gotta be optimistic. I'm hoping she'll do it in the next few days, but I am more eager than she is to get this done. I wanna file as early as possible....she doesn't understand or care why. She's got plenty of guys who wanted to fuck her while I was still with her, and surely just as many if not more while we're separated. But hopefully she'll keep her word and I can make her a memory.
     
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    Go down to the police station, let them know that you need an escort to your wifes place so she will sigh the divorce papers. She's effectively refusing to and that's bullshit.

    Problem solved.
     
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    How can i force her to sign uncontested papers? it's understood to be voluntary by the courts. Plus i don't think the cops will go cross statelines over something as stupid as this. There truely is a scheduling issue, i go there, and she's not gonna be there.

    Talked to her today, she says she hasn't even cashed her check yet (for some reason she wants to do it all together) the stuff i left behind can wait, a stamp and the time to go to the notary in the neighborhood isn't some herculean effort...but i will call her again Monday to see the progress and if she's putting any effort.
     
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    I'm not so sure that I would've trusted her with those papers???

    You could call the law enforcement in her town and ask them to go with you to get them signed, explaining to them the reasons...

    Good luck!
     
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    I had no choice she refused to see me. Plus she can't file them in her state, and why should she...the filing fee could pay for a lot of Mountain Dews...
     
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    Legal aid?

    I am holding back my choiuce of word about her.
     
  7. Kermit

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    legal aid? i'm trying to avoid a lawyer lol and don't hold back, fuck that bitch, say what you will about that psychotic whore/thief.
     
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    Now nobody hates lawyers and the whole legal system more than me. But... this is one time that you have to protect yourself and use one. If she won't keep her word now it will only get worse as time goes on. You will be too emotional to make good decisions. If she would honor her word it would be different. You need a lawyer to cover your ass. Believe it or not someday you'll be laughing and joking over this stuff but for now it really serious. Get a lawyer, a nasty one.
     
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    Well no money for a lawyer, i might have to and sink in a thousand dollars but i wanna exhaust the 200 dollar option first....no job so no way to get a lawyer yet
     
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    pro bono publico, darling.

    I'm sure they have some in your state.
     
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    Dude you gotta cut the excuses. I had no money and no job and still got cheap legal aide soooo...not really an excuse. Sry. As for getting the papers signed, you need to be somewhat of a dick right now. If she walks all over you, you'll never get it done. No she doesn't have to sign but that doesn't mean you cant go over unanounced and ask her to. If that doesn't work, you will -need- a lawyer. not to be a bummer, that's just how it is.
     
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    Methinks the money has been blown dude and there lies the lying :eyes
     
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    Took forever with my ex, she drug her feet because she was still on my insurance while we were still married. I couldn't legally take her off till I got final papers from the court. Took a couple months to scrape up the $2000 for the papers to be drawn up (my state they have to be done by a lawyer) Took me over a month to get her to sign them, then the court took a MONTH AND HALF to approve them, the whole time she is hitting every doctor in 3 counties for pain pills. With me on the hook for the office visit bills because we were married.

    Kermit I feel your pain. You will eventually have to make the trek to her, corner her, and make her sign the papers.

    From the sounds of it she is a gamer, bribe her with a copy Diablo III. It comes out Tuesday.
     
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    The money isn't my concern, i've got the filing fee, all she has to do is schedule the time with a notary, spend 10 minutes getting it done (she knows one in the neighborhood) and get a stamp and mail it. I am gonna call her monday. She claims she hasn't had time to (she works 50 hours a week she says...but still). But if she hasn't sent it off by the time my six months is up (around the 22nd) i am really gonna get onto her ass about it.
     
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    Yeah problem is a dick is she may get frustrated and say she'll never sign them and i'll have to wait even longer to get funds saved up to hire a lawyer. And God knows whose dick she's sucking that might help her hire a lawyer to fight it. She's got the attitude that i have no reason to be worried she won't sign cause I'm the crazy one she's not, but i've been screwed over by her to the tune of 300 dollars in one incident alone which was more the behind my back and lack of respect than the money thing. She said she was gonna do one thing with it (a mess she forced me into) and did another with it (and threaten about not doing it if i didn't shut the fuck up about another mess she got me into) and didn't bother to tell me til i had the loan place call me about it. But even "cheap" legal aid costs money i don't have right now...so no amount of expense cutting will do it.
     
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    Lol i think she's getting a free copy anyways (she signed up to be a Beta tester for something) i think was meant for me and would love to have, but ain't worried about it lol.
     
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    Where do you live again? I can't remember where you moved. But I've found a place in GA that requires you to make below 13k a year and be under the poverty line for them to serve you no cost/low cost.

    There are ALWAYS pro bono case workers, especially since your wife was mentally (and possibly) physically abusive to you and she cheated on you. That's grounds for a qualified divorce.
     
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    link me mittens, I'm in Georgia, she's in Alabama
     
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    Okie dokie.
     
  20. Texas_Red

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    Nah, only people with WoW accounts and such get a free copy. I am/was in the beta and I get no freebie.

    I can't be much help in this as Mittimer has already pointed out what I would say. Only thing I can do is add to the people voicing that you need to be resolute, force the issue, and get this shit done. Don't be the victim, give away all your power, and do nothing.