Dirty Talk Suggestions

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  1. ToPleaseHim

    ToPleaseHim New Member

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    Can someone please share some of the things you say to your partner during sex? My husband wants me to talk dirty to him, but I don't really know what to say :eyes It always feel so great everytime we make love, but I want to do more to take him over the top!

    Chime in!
     
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    just start out easy- tell him how good he feels inside you, describe what it feels like
     
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    going to depend on your comfort levels. There are quite a few things the wife tells me, sometimes sweet and gentle, sometimes not so much, sometimes blatantly vulgar/graphic, sometimes dark and sinister.

    One of them that's not so graphic yet very pleasing to me, is to hear her when she's feeling quite submissive. How she is mine to do with as I please, to use, to have as I wish, to own her body, etc.
     
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    Let me say this as well. It's not always what you say during sex that can send a man (or at least me) over the top. It's often what's in between, the suspense of knowing what's coming or better yet that something is coming, even if it's just a simple roll in the hay. A text, a whisper in the ear at a party, a slight comment in a restaurant, a "take me home and use me" in the car. Flirting can go a long way and keep a fire burning.

    What can be even more thrilling is openly telling about fantasy you have, not hinting around to things you want to try/do. Just talking about them. Getting and keeping the ball rolling between the both of you and truly communicating desires without judgment or reserve. A lot of couples can and do spend years knowing every intimate detail about each other except each others true sexual wants/desires. The wife and I certainly did and I regret the wasted time, but relish our awakening.

    It's quite liberating to understand/accept yourselves, that the two of you can explore whatever consensual dirty deed you wish together and it is absolutely no ones, no ones business but yours and there's nothing-absolutely nothing to feel dirty about.

    Shit, I rambled off topic again. But it's still good advice from where I'm sitting.
     
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    Before I answer your question I would like to know if he has said anything specific about what he had in mind, because if he doesn't want his dirty talk raw and explicit, I am the last person you would want ideas from.

    Also, does he watch porn, and do you know what type? That may give you a clue as well.

    When you are referring to sex when you talk to him, do you always say making love? Has he said anything dirty to you?

    The general hint I can give you is that if it doesn't come naturally, it will take some getting used to just like anything else where you are on display. My one female friend who will discuss sex with me wants to do it for her man but she is really uncomfortable because even the idea of it makes her feel self conscious. I gave her a couple ideas, and she looked terrified, so I suggested she practice saying things out loud when she is alone. Think of it as public speaking or acting. These things never go well without practice.

    There's also examples all over this forum...try the today's sex thread or the erotic lit section. I haven't read too much of the erotic lit here, so I don't know how explicit the stories get, but it may be worth checking out.

    Edit....I forgot to mention that certain people have trigger words that get them going (I have several). For instance, my favorite is the word, "taste". It might help to find out if he has any.
     
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    let it come naturally, as others have said. tell him what feels good, or what you want next. or tell him waht you'll do to him. all sounds easy? if you both like it it may develope a life of it's own.
    mrsbiker:rose knows she can get me to pop if she tells me she needs me to go down on her after i cum in her! (for example)
     
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    I do think he wants both gentle & sweet, as well as graphic/vulgar. I do tell him that I am his to do with as he pleases, and I tell him that it all belongs to him. From there, I don't know where to go with it.

    Can you share some suggestions on what your wife says to you that are graphic & vulgar?

     
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    I must pat my ownself on the back for his one :D. I do a GREAT job of building up anticipation. I text him; shoot small comments that let him know what he can expect later in the day, but I feel like fall short on execution. I flirt w/ my husband a lot. He loves it!

    When I give him head, I swallow, and I PURPOSELY don't brush my teeth until the next morning, then tell him that I want to go to sleep with the taste of him in my mouth. He almost fainted the first time I said that! :dgrin

    Today was a prime example. He works swing shift, and so when we get an opportunity to have sex, it is usually very passionate. I let him know by text that when he got home I wanted it. I'd just finished working out & took a shower. I came out wet, and he approached me & was like 'What's going through your head? You're wet.' and started caressing me. I couldn't think of one kinky thing to say:uhh: That's why i'm looking for suggestions. I need something more than just 'lick me dry' something that is just exciting beyond belief!

     
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    He hasn't said he wants anything specific, but I know he would enjoy something raw & explicit. He is not a regular porn watcher. It doesn't float his boat unless i'm out-of-town, & he needs to get himself off. When he needs it, he turns to me, and I supply w/o hesitation --- my husband makes my body feel that good:)

    Very rarely do either he or I use the words 'make love.' He will tell me he wants to fuck me, and that's when I tell him simply 'take it!' But, I feel like I need to tell him something more raw.

    I will feel comfortable saying it....if I know what to say :lol But, I will say I think he's going to joke with me about it afterwards! LOL!!

    I need something to say when I want him to suck my tits, or eat me out. Something that lets him know I want him inside of me - that I want his cum in side of me. Something except my moaning. He's really into my body, & loves my moaning, but I know he wants more. He's told me that he wants me to tell him how I like it, & how it makes me feel. I'm just as a loss for words other than the standard 'give it to me' or 'it feels so good'.


     
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    I need something to say when I want him to suck my tits, or eat me out. Something that lets him know I want him inside of me - that I want his cum in side of me. Something except my moaning. He's really into my body, & loves my moaning, but I know he wants more. He's told me that he wants me to tell him how I like it, & how it makes me feel. I'm just as a loss for words other than the standard 'give it to me' or 'it feels so good'.


    Well, you said it right there.

    Tell him:
    "Suck my tits or bite my nipples"
    "I want your cum inside of me"
    "Eat my pussy"

    You said it right there in your reply, go ahead and say it out loud to him.

    You asked what were some of the things my wife says that are explicit, well those are some of them. Of course there's more, but it's really just letting loose of those nasty little thoughts that are inside of you, the dirtier the better, without reserve.

    It's not only something that will turn him on, but most likely you will find a very liberating feeling doing it. Get it off your chest, tell him how you want to be HIS slut, how you want to feel or taste his cum, how you want your pussy filled, how you want to just be used, how you want his cock in your mouth, etc. etc. whatever you want to share.
     
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    I think the words you used in this quote would work fine. As other have said, you need to have it come across naturally. Maybe practice saying things like that out loud, alone, to get used to what it sounds like.

    Also, one thing my wife does that you might consider, is that she will inject "dirty talk" in the middle of a conversation as a way to bluntly convey to me her desires. For example, we might be driving somewhere just chatting, and she'll suddenly say something like "by the way, you really fucked me nice last night. I'm looking forward to more of that". Or I'll be discussing my plans for the day, and she'll ask "will you have time somewhere in there to eat my pussy"? Those are nice "shock" methods to try. :D
     
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    Agree with Biker061.
    Natural is best especially if you want to be in the game.

    If words don’t work use your hands/your body. He may after all be asking for a more interactive experience. He may just need to hear were you are at. Start with just telling him you like/love certain things even if it’s just while he is doing them. Then later start giving small directions.
     
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    you live in the antarctic you have to stay warm somehow!:)

    tell him a fantasy of yours, a secret fantasy then act it out dress up and play with it role play be naughty...

    Shes good i like that!

     
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    It drives me wild when she says "Put your big dick in me and fuck me deep and hard,"
     
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    You know all that wild and crazy things that you think about but don't tell any one. Well, say that! :)

    Swear, mean the things you say, also be critical. Men need to be spurred on always!
     
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    You have to let it flow out natural,.Not like a cheap porn movie or anything like that. Tell him what you want in a graphic way.
     
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    For me dirty talk just sorta cums naturally, I just start by telling how great his big, thick, cock (lol its actually just average) feels inside me. Men love to be flattered and that usually gets the dirty talk going the other way.