Dildo and Me

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  1. elprime

    elprime New Member

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    Hi i just got a dildo for my wife, she has only used once and i think she liked it but she says she is afraid.

    The dildo is bigger than me i am about average, i think she is afraid that she wont feel me after the dildo or she would like it so much that she won't like me any more, can this be true?

    Or would i be able to please her?

    Thanks
     
  2. Meee

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    Hi. I usually start answering a question by asking a question. Why did you get her a dildo?
     
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    I've heard our in-house dildo experts say no dildo is better than any dick regardless of the size of either. That's assuming the dick is connected to a man who knows how to properly use it.
     
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    Sex is great but some times she can't reach an orgasm before i do. So i get a little out of rhythm trying to delay things, and that create anxiety that leads to more time to get her orgasm.

    Or simply i can not stop before i come and she still needs a little stimulation.

    I get exited about a dildo in her.

    I think this answer both questions
     
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    My husband got me a dildo. I don't know why but for some reason I just can't get myself to actually stick it IN there, that's what I'm nervous about. Not because of size but because it just feels sort of "un-natural" - maybe it's the texture or lack of warmth, adding how prone I am to get yeast infection, say if something got stuck to it without me noticing (like dust or something).... I just don't want to take the chance because it takes very little for me to get this infection.

    The size of the thing compared to your size shouldn't be a concern because the vagina is very elastic and adjusts very well and also quickly. Just think about getting a whole baby head out of there (which usually isn't a problem in the long run) and compare to the issue you're worried about.

    I seriously doubt she's afraid of the difference in size between you and the dildo.
     
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    What I'm hearing is that you might want to communicate with her more about this. You think she liked it. You think she's afraid of it because of its size. Ask her. When we speculate about what somebody else is thinking, we almost always get it wrong--it's just human nature.

    I have a theory that men get their wives and girlfriends humorously big dildos because they're projecting their concerns about size onto it, and their assumptions about how size matters, and so on. A dildo that's a reasonable size looks little compared to the dildos we see so often in porn, in marketing for adult toy stores, etc.
     
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    She kind of told me between lines that she was afraid of not feeling me after she used the dilo.

    That's what i really want to know if her concern is real or does she will feel me ok after using it so she can cum. i just want to hear experiences, to hear if this has happen to some one here, specially the lady's.

    The dildo is not that big is 8" long and 6" inch girth and i am 6" and 4 5/8"

    And as i said i just want it for a little foreplay or masturbate in front of each other and for when i can not hold me cumming and she's not there yet. To use it as if it was me. I am really thinking of her pleasure cu's this has happen and i still give her an orgasm with my hand and she cums but it is not as intense as it is with me inside (she has told me that) and i have not by any means early ejaculation problems. (i don't know if that is the right term i don not speak English as my maternal language)

    Thanks
     
  8. Ready2Please

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    I would love for my future husband to get me sexy toys and use them on me. When I use a dildo and then have sex with a guy. I usually get tight around the guy. So the didlo doesn't really affect me all that much.
     
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    No, it does not make a difference,unless maybe she uses everyday then still I dont really think so, now many if she used it other than vaginally daily, I would think that would do some stretching
     
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    If she used the dildo shortly before intercourse with you then her problem is quite valid, with a dildo that thickness she would not feel you. As a game in it's own right or after intercourse, then such a dildo would possibly be okay, but I'm not a woman so I can't say. But I am as thick as your dildo and I do know that my thickness stretches and fills most women to such an extent that satisfying intercourse with an average-sized man is not possible until, maybe, much later in the day or perhaps the next day.
     
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    I have no problems with my man's penis size. It's perfect. My favorite vibe was one that I got a few months ago. I went to about 4 local sex stores looking for one that was the exact same size as he is and finally found one. It's some off-brand purple job with a twist speed adjuster that's really hard to put on anything but 'OFF and 'Full Blast. But it serves the purpose and is my stand in for when he's not around and I'm feeling anxious.

    My girlfriend bought me one that is a good deal larger for my birthday this year, but I've hardly used it at all. She loves hers, but I honestly believe that, at least for me, I've found my glass slipper size and I'm loyal to it. I wasn't ever worried about "stretching myself out", it would probably actually increase the vaginal muscles to have a larger toy, I've just found my perfect size. Do you think this may be her attitude?
     
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    Aww. I'm kind of flattered to know that.

    Elprime:
    Have you ever asked her how she masturbates? She may actually derive much more pleasure from being clitorally stimulated with any-sized vibe; really, so this whole "size thing" might be a moot point. Also, you may consider giving her a good deal of oral sex or vibrator attention before you begin vaginal intercourse to help sync up your orgasm rhythms.

    Hope this helps,
    ~Steve
     
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    Hi i have asked how she masturbates, but she immediately changes the subject i think she is shy about it and i don't like to press on her. Most of the time we are in sync and yes she likes me to stimulate her clit, but when she is cumming she likes something in her. And the few times we are not in sync and most of the times i finish after her so its al right but the few i can not control myself, that's when i want the dildo to come to the rescue, so she can get pleased as if it was me. But some times (very little) she likes to put it in in the fore play but not much for the reason i have told and it is my main concern.

    Thanks

    I will still appreciate more coments about dildo vs penis size specially from women.
     
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    I have to disagree, at least in my experience I have almost fisted my girlfriend(got 5 fingers in, but couldn't get the widest part of the hand in) and then went straight to PIV(penis in vagina) sex and she was still tight and she came no problem. As long as a girl is turned on and there is no pain the vagina can stretch and go back to its original size.