I am going to explain my very difficult situation. I will give a little background information first. My gf and I have been dating for about 2 years. She was my first serious gf ever and we also lost our virginity together in several activities. Ok so I am in a culinary profession and it requires a lot if not most of my time. I am in a culinary school at the moment and I am about to be done with it. The fact of the matter is that I absolutely love culinary and I have had several people tell me I could really carry it to something great and I really want too. So this creates a problem. I love my gf but if I stay with her then she would not be happy following me around my whole life while I work 75 hours a week. This is not what she wants out of life so she would be unhappy. Same goes with me if I spending the amount of time she deserves then I wouldn’t have the amount of time needed to reach the appropriate stage in my career to feel self satisfied. I would eventually be resentful of what I didn’t experience later in my life and psychologically blame it on her. So I was trying to explain this to her and needless to say she was very unhappy. I was trying to explain to her that this relationship is doomed and there is no way that we both would be happy later in our life if we stuck together. So I felt like I was giving her the proper respect by telling her this and not just writing her a message saying I don’t think we should see each other anymore. I still love her and I could stay with her until I leave to go to New York or wherever I am going to go to enhance my culinary career but I don’t feel that this is respectful of her feelings or honest. I want her to be happy and I think the faster she moves on the less time she will be wasting with a relationship that will never work. What do you guys think?