I am reaching out as a last resort. I need advice about my marriage. I have been with my husband for six years and married for almost three now, and I feel absolutely no connection with him. This all started about four years ago. I can actually pinpoint the time that I realized things weren't as great anymore. I don't know how or why, but I just grew apart from him. The connection was gone, and I found myself not wanting sex. I didn't tell him for a very long time, becuse at first I was in denial. I thought that if I ignored it, it would go away. Then came fear of change and the unknown. When you've been with someone SO long, it's hard to imagine a life without him. We also have two children, which makes the change even more difficult. I guess I had fears of breaking us all apart. I had fears of hurting him as well. I told him just last summer, after three years of faking it. I tried and tried to develop some sort of a connection again. It has been a constant emotional battle. He has been trying EVERYTHING to help. He has been very open from the start to getting us back...He is fighting so hard to save us. He is a good man; any woman would be lucky to have him. Sometimes I feel quite stupid for not wanting him. I DO have love for him...it has just gotten to the point that it's not romantic. He's not repulsive or anything, I just can't even think of sex with him without feeling gross. I can remember the first few years when we were so passionate-both physically and emotionally-and I can't understand how I ever felt that way. I have a raging sex drive on the inside, I just have no desire to actually do those things. Has anyone ever been through this? Thanks if you've read this far! I know it might be a mooshy, redundant post lol I just had to get it out.