Delayed ejaculation

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  1. Eros

    Eros New Member

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    I am 33 yr guy who has been married for 1.5 yrs. Over the last couple of months I have been having problems ejaculating. Obtaining an erection is no problem, foreplay is great, sex occurs but I just can't finish. I am athletic and am in very good shape, my wife is very attractive and pretty good in bed. It is geting to where I am embarressed about this and my wife is less interested in sex because she worries too much about me finishing. Dunno what to do... One last thing, i really like my anus stimulated (not a requirement) but she not into it - she likes hers played with and she enjoys anal sex but is a homophobic. Between not finishing and liking my anus stimulated - i think she may be a bit unhappy. Need some help!
     
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    Dear Eros,

    Maybe take vitamins?

    My ejaculation varies more on a feeling of Love, acceptance and enthusiasm.

    There may be a cat chasing its tail. Your ejaculation is delayed, W and you are feeling inadequate, and ejaculation is further delayed by relaizing the ejaculation is delayed, and feeling more uptight and inadequate.

    Does W climax?

    Are there alternate methods for your ejaculation?

    My ejaculation is sometimes delayed beyond when W has already clmiaxed, and I don't feel like I have to keep it in, so I just pull out and find some other way.

    I get vaginal sex maybe once in three weeks. I ejaculate maybe once in 3 days. So usually, I am ejaculating some way other than vaginal sex, so I am not realy used to ejaculating in a vagina. Sometimes I just masturbate or dry fuck, to finish, which is more familiar for me.

    I have been intending to get a device to manipulate my own ass in sex, but have not gotten a good vison for such a device, nor sufficient intensity of interst. Maybe stop by the porn shop to see what they have. Maybe put on a strap-on for women, backwards. Mabe give W the end of a belt to tug on, which is connected to your reversed strap-on. You can just scream, "More, Harder, Faster, Slower, Softer, Stop, Go,"

    Blessings
     
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    Thanks.

    She does climax most of the time and says she likes the sex. She masturbates as we have sex. She says she loves to masturbate and seems to do it well. I have tried many times to get her to cum when i am licking her but usually she needs to use her hands. I have never had problems with my former girlfriends in this manner - always made them cum. Also never had the lack of cumming problem myself. I didn't know this would ever happen till i was 70 - it is very very depressing
     
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    Dear Eros,

    You might do a search on ejaculation, coming, control, words like that. Searches are super fast, and there is a wealth of info on this site already.

    Sleep is another factor. Are you getting as much sleep as you used to? There are relaxation courses to help get restful sleep. silvamethod. com
    Also helps with self-control and visualization. It is a one weekend course, for $320.00 can be repeated for free.

    I like to visualize other women I have recently seen, or thought about, when making love to my partner. I usually don't tel my partner who I am thinking about while I am pumping them. What visualizations helped you in the past? What all has changed since you used to squirt sooner?

    Stress at work is another factor.

    My wife likes to argue by threatening to fuck my friends. That strategy really undermines the trust in the sexual exchange. How are W's complaints running?

    Blessings