For years, my wife and I have argued about who "initiates". I know it sounds stupid. Our sex life is good, but we haven't been able to get past this divide. We have differing opinions on what "initiating" is and should be. It's tough. I would love it if she were aggressive in her "initiation". I know that might be asking a lot And I have asked/explained that to her several times. I tend to be flirty and grabby, but not the kind to just take her, which is my fault. It's something we are working on. So I ask you, what is your definition of "initiating"?