Dealing without sex

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  1. afunk13

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    It's not possible for my husband and I to have sex. He's not even interested in getting off together through snap chat. He's expressed an interest in me sending him sexy stories to get him horny. We have made plans to get off together through text/snap chat but something always comes up or he's not in the mood anymore which sometimes leads to an argument on my end of the lack of anything sexual but that's my problem not his. He's really depressed about being apart and hasn't jerked off in two weeks.

    My question is if you are not with your partner how do you deal with the lack of sex? I really need to figure this out and not take it out on him.
     
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    To be honest I couldn't cope with my OH being away full stop, but then I've got anxiety issues that complicate things.

    Why is he away, if that's something that can be worked on maybe you should raise the issue?
     
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    I plan on moving but it takes time and money to do so.
     
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    I think your problem stems from the long distance relationship rather than the sex.

    Avoiding sexual stimuli may be a short term solution. Discuss your problem with your husband. If he is military seek support from there. Therapy may help with these issues and they are experienced in dealing with it.
     
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    I haven't had sex with my wife going on 3 months I'm getting to the point where I'm thinking of leaving
     
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    I hope that you try to work things out first. Good luck.
     
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    I just saw that you are a past member so I realize now that you have been through a lot slready. I have been through sexless phases in my marriage and masturbation does help to a certain extent.

    Is your husband working? Do you have health benefits? If yes, I highly recommend therapy. It helps.
     
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    @GreyGoose I agree with whybother, you have to try talking the issue through first. Having said that, if there aren't any health or lifestyle issues causing a problem and you feel you're hitting your head against a brick wall, then you need to consider your options.
     
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    I realize not everything is straightforward, but if you two are completely serious about each other where there is a will there is a way.

    I was forced to move out of where I was as an act of self preservation, the intended date for which was pulled forward twice. Fortunately my now OH who helped me do so is the practical type and helped things run far smoother than they would've done otherwise.
     
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    If you cant be with the one you love, honey, Love the one you're with
     
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    I know that you guys have had problems. I'm glad that you are at least trying to work things out
     
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    That has always been my mantra as also;
    'Tis better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.
    That old scribe knew a think or two!
     
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    When you are with someone you can't stand you can't love them.
     
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    So basically love myself, which I have been doing. I just hate getting off by myself constantly. I know this is only temporary and I'm trying to think positive. I'm hoping he gets his libido back when I get out there but I'm not going to be pushy. I'm trying to be the loving, understanding wife.
     
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    afunk13 = AGFUNK?
    Many similarities; same issues, similar coloured print etc, but maybe coincidence after all.
     
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    same... :)
     
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    Gotcha, same penny different side.
     
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    No, it's still me. I got locked out of my other account. Forgot the password and can't get it since I no longer have access to the email I used.
     
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