[Ask a Guy] Dating Question

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  1. FlirtyChick

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    Ok gentlemen, I am putting this out here.

    I met an awesome guy and dated him several months last fall through Christmas. To make a long story short, we really enjoyed each other's company, and saw each other several times a week. He was into his interest, and I mine, and I found I could really talk to him, and he to me. He was the greatest kisser I have ever kissed, and over three months we only slept together 4 times. It was good, but not great. He has ED, but I enjoyed him so much as a person that it did not matter. The only condition I put on the dating relationship is that I would only sleep with him if we were exclusively sexual; i.e. not fucking anyone else. He bestowed myself and my child with very thoughtful gifts for Christmas, but while he was out of state with family for the holidays, I found out that he was still date searching on the site we met on, and I confronted him. He admitted to meeting one lady in person that he had talked to before me, but says that he told her we were dating and felt bad about meeting her. We broke up before New Years Day. He is 47, and someone broke his heart at 21, and he has never has but one 2 year relationship since then. He admitted that he might just up and vamoose one day to date someone else, and does not want to hurt me.

    We have been texting lately, and I finally had the nerve to ask him to have a platonic dinner with me. It took him two seconds to say yes. Should I? I like him lots, and I know he likes me. I don't want to marry him, but I sure would like to date him again....

    Help.
    Thanks.

    P.S. I don't really care to see any snide replies, so refrain if possible. I just want to hear what a man thinks. I know you guys say exactly what you think, and no more than that should be read in to anything.
     
  2. HardRocker

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    The guy has a bad track record and admits his weakness. What you see is what you get, take it or leave it. That would be my interpretation, not meant to sound snide, just realistic.
     
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    HR love you for it..... Thanks......
     
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    It's funny how we can be attracted to some one even after breaking up. I dated a girl back in the 80's. She was really attractive but had an attitude I couldn't stand. We met twenty years later, about 5 years ago. She still looked great. After talking for 30 minutes I remembered why I had dumped her, she hadn't changed. Ironically, we bumped into each other again a couple of months ago. She is living about 250 miles from me now. We exchanged phone numbers and she is calling and e-mailing me saying let's hook up and telling me how she wants to move back here again. Logically, I know this is a dead end deal, but I still would like to see her again. Sometimes we have to follow our heart and not our head. Life isn't fun if we always do what we're supposed to do.
     
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    Northside is so right. Sometimes certain people just get under your skin and they're rarely the kind of people who are "good for you". As you said, you're not intending to marry this guy, so just do your best not to overanalyse and try to enjoy it to the fullest while it lasts.

    (I know I'm not a guy but I know what you're going through, so hugs to ya)
     
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    Thanks guys, and girls ;)
     
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    Damn, Northside, you're so romantic.:p
     
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    If you like him, why not date him? It might not work out in the end, but why not meet up again if you like his company? Hugs, ladybug
     
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  10. FlirtyChick

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    Dreama....Hugs back, and kisses.

    HW...Thanks! BTW he takes the pills, but I think it is mostly in his head! (the big one)

    I love you guys.....
     
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    Well hell, y'all have exposed my impulsive nature.
    That must be why I didn't get more nookie back when I was in the hunt.:shrug
     
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    I would have given you nookie baby! :tup
     
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    Chick, you answered your own question, nes pas?

    You know the score and there it is. Either date him knowing he is going to see other women or...not.

    If you don't see a long term thing then, enjoy and there you have it. It will run it's course from there. Either he moves towards committing to you, and just you, or you get bored and move on.

    If he's still a broken puppy from 25 some odd years ago he's either FOS and playing you (did I say that our loud? :lol: )or is...a broken puppy. Oh, the humanity.

    :phat
     
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    OK, had I read your post first you would saved me all that time! :lol
     
  15. Barbwire

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    So, FC, whatever happened with the guy you were asking about?
     
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    What guy?
     
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    Oh duh.. We broke up.
     
  18. Barbwire

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    Gotcha. I didn't offer advice when you first started the thread but I was kinda thinking he wasn't a good match for you.
     
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    No prob on the advice. I dont think I have a match, B. I have given up. He did make me smile more than the others, though......
     
  20. Barbwire

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    Aww, it's too early to give up. You aren't dead yet, right? ;)

    Just keep using your Hitachi until things get better. :)