Dammit, what happened?

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  1. Whathappened

    Whathappened New Member

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    Last night my gf and I started to have sex, but we stopped after a few minutes (just stopped, I wasnt finished or anything..)

    Then we popped in a movie, and we started watching it and before you know it we were having sex again. It was going fine, taking a little longer than I expected, but when we moved around (I went back to being on top), I got a cramp, I got tired for some reason and my legs tightened up. We weren't using any sort of lubrication yesterday and she was getting a bit dry. So I kinda took a break while in her, and caught a couple minutes of the movie (I know, I'm stupid) when all of a sudden, while in her, I start going soft!!! My d*** went numb too! I couldn't even feel it! Of course, you know what happened, my gf got kinda pissed.

    This has never happened before, but I'm thinking the combination of me being cramped and tired, plus no lube and being dry inside, plus we stopped before..might have caused this? It took me a good 10-15 minutes to get it back up again! I was hella pissed, I've never had this happen to me before. Can anyone tell me what happened?
     
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    I think maybe you just need to rest. Stress, or any number of things can cause things like that. Maybe you're just working Mr. Johnson too much....But, if it becomes a major problem, I would see someone about it. Don't worry about it. And, your g/f should understand that it isn't your doing, and not be mad.
     
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    Whathappened.....Every guy gets this at one point or another...Its not anything to be concerned about, unless it keeps happening , then like dreama says take yourslef to see someone (a spelcialist)

    Ive had this problem before ( but for me sadly it went on for years )
     
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    What about the numbness, did the feeling return? If you had a cramp, it could have put pressure on a nerve trunk, causing both numbness and your limpy.
     
  5. Fliteskates

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    This stuff happens bro.

    I wouldn't even sweat it.

    Recently I was emailing my girl all day while she was at work.. telling her how I was gonna do her this way and that way when she got home.

    Then she came home all wet and threw her clothes off and tackled me on the floor.

    Then I couldn't get it up.. she gave me a handjob.. blowob.. etc..

    She looked at me and said "big talker" then lol. I started to lol and we just went for a walk.

    She knows I'm human and sometimes it happens. Just like when she goes dry I don't get upset about it.

    Your g/f needs to relax and be understanding, or you will get a complex about it. Which only makes the problem worse.
     
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    That has happened to me too. When I'm horny all day, I can wear it out and have a weak one when it's time to put forth. I think it's the availability of enzymes that must be present to achieve a boner. When you have one all day, maybe you use them all up.
    Also, your testosterone may take a dive after a day of the blueballs.
     
  7. Fliteskates

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    I think sometimes women don't understand that it isn't as easy as it would seem to get a hard on, and then sustain it.

    It takes practice and discipline.

    Any guy who can go for awhile, can cum within the first few minutes if he really wants.

    We just discipline ourselves not to. Sometimes I don't think women understand the discipline it take to hold off - it isn't easy.

    There are times you just can't get it up, even if you are excited and really want to have sex. It just happens.
     
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    When things get so bad that you have to put a movie in.
    Its time to hang it up for the day.
    But the next time be rested and ready to focus
    on making love to her not just sticking it in her
    and getting it off.
    And don't worry about the numb feeling
    as thats the effect you get after you cum
    also but didn't notice because you were done
    and didn't care.
    It happens to everyone sooner or later.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    I think last night she was just tired, when I talked to her today she said she wasnt mad at all, she was understanding.

    Thing was, that day, she wore something I loved. Jeans that I loved on her, this bra that looks awesome, and a shirt cut just low enough (not slutty, but just showin a bit of cleavage..) to tease me all freaking day. Plus she teased me all day with what she wanted to do, and what she wanted me to do, just to be mean. :(

    So my poor guy has been up and down all day yesterday.. I'm thinking this is part of the reason why it went dead inside her lol.

    Anyway, I'm gonna hold off on sex for a little while, and I'll see what happens next time. No movie next time either :p
     
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    GOOD

    Hiker:sf
     
  11. heelfetish

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    Things are sounding like they're turning around for the better. I think all the things you mentioned played a part in the mishap. You've both learned from it and are moving on.

    It's important to realize that sometimes shit happens. You just gotta deal and get on with it. :) Congrats to you both!
     
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    Cramping can be due to a lack of calcium and can be corrected by talking one TUMs a day.

    Penis going numb there are several explanations for that and if it continues probably left to your family doctor to sort out.

    The rest sounds as though it was due to stress and being tired. Tired never helps the moods. Don't let the experience get you upset as it happens to everyone.
     
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