Current relationships?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by LivingDeadGirl, Jul 20, 2011.

  1. LivingDeadGirl

    LivingDeadGirl New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2011
    Messages:
    86
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Santa Cruz, CA
    Time for sharing!

    Are you single? Are you looking for marriage, or are you happy to be single? Are you married? How long?

    Are you happy in your relationship? Sexually satisfied? Sexually frustrated? Married but looking on the side?

    What would you change about your current sex situation? If you could have any type of relationship, what would it be?


    As for me, I'm 18, single, and have no desire for a relationship. I'm definitely happy and (most of the time) sexually satisfied in my current situation, even though a hasty decision once made a wife pretty pissed at me (why don't they get mad at the cheater instead of the innocent person the cheater hooked up with? lol). Anyways... if I could change anything I guess it would be to have a partner or partners that would be more open to exploring new things sexually. It seems like the ones I've met just want things pretty standard and sometimes it gets a little boring. Hope all that isn't t.m.i.
     
  2. sinner

    sinner New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 1, 2010
    Messages:
    940
    Likes Received:
    9
    Gender:
    Female
    Married. Happy in marriage although somewhat sexually frustrated. Came here looking for answers but mostly found it to be a great outlet for that frustration and I can get a little satisfaction without actually cheating. I've accepted that there is no short term fix for wifey's low libido. I like to share some of our escapades over the years and share some info.

    I think sex should be fun. Not serious at all. Love is fun too but with a serious side. Sex is all fun. If I could change one thing sexually it would be to reawaken my wife's desire. Time and kids and anxieties seem to have taken it away.
     
  3. Mittimer

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 3, 2010
    Messages:
    7,517
    Likes Received:
    4,447
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Fl
    Married happily for a little over 7 months now. We got married on new years day (1.1.11) :) We got together in late 2007 and decided to get married in 2009. We stayed engaged for a little over a year and had a small but beautiful wedding on the gulf coast here in Florida.

    We're both very sexually adventurous and always trying new things, normally at a steady pace.
     
    #3 Mittimer, Jul 20, 2011
    Last edited: Jul 20, 2011
  4. backcheck64

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 23, 2010
    Messages:
    3,433
    Likes Received:
    1,040
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Missouri
    Married 24 yrs, together 29. Very happy. Can you ever really have enough sex? but it's not either of ours fault. With two kids on travel sports teams, work schedules, PTA/PTO, board meetings for the kids sports clubs, late night practices, taking care of the house and yard.....yea we are down to 2 to 3...usually 3 times a week. But on that week we go to Fl and leave the kids with my parents....every night. With all of the diseases...and psychos..running around out there, love being in a relationship. Plus she's had her tubes tied so no BC needed. We can fuck ourselves silly and not worry about having any more kids...now we love the two we have, but two is plenty.
     
  5. SneakyME

    SneakyME New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 18, 2011
    Messages:
    15
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    26 and in a happy relationship although my sex life is somewhat boring. I'm super adventorous and want it every which way possible. With me?
     
  6. htoad

    htoad Active Member

    Joined:
    Apr 23, 2010
    Messages:
    456
    Likes Received:
    49
    Gender:
    Male
    Bunnie and I met in college and dated for 4 years before we married. We've been married 27 years now. Words can't express how happy we are in our relationship. We both have high sex drives and even though we were both virgins when we met that hasn't hindered us in growing (and continuing to grow) sexually.

    The biggest relationship and sex issues came after 9 or so years of marriage. We started taking each other for granted and stopped communicating, and that almost tore us apart and almost down some paths we are now glad we did not venture. Once we got things back on track things took off and it has never been better.

    We keep our sex lives creative and love pleasing each other, so sex never gets boring. Bunnie loves my ideas and just thinking of them gets her wet. She also surrounds herself with female friends who have high sex drives in their marriages so they are always trying to outdo each other, which benefits us husbands.:)

    With our nest almost empty and being fortunate in our finances, Bunnie's fantasy is for me to retire and spent my days having creative sex with her all over the house, in hotels, and on vacation trips. It is a very tempting scenario, we'll see how things turn out. :D
     
  7. ply

    ply
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2011
    Messages:
    1,032
    Likes Received:
    430
    Location:
    Alsaks
    Married. Happy in marriage although somewhat sexually frustrated. Married 30 years.

    Anymore it seems she wants me to have sex on demand. As in right now or I've missed my window of opportunity. Even if I've waited for several hours for her to wake up.
     
  8. Mobius

    Mobius New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 19, 2007
    Messages:
    160
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    netherlands
    2.5 years relationship and living together somewhat over a year. Happy with the sex life. Could do with some more experimentation some times but we have done experimentation. For the rest i have a loving giving partner^^:)
     
  9. backcheck64

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 23, 2010
    Messages:
    3,433
    Likes Received:
    1,040
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Missouri
    Give her a little time, she'll be more likely to want to spice things up.
     
  10. CosmicEye

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 22, 2011
    Messages:
    1,775
    Likes Received:
    49
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    VA
    Meh, sexlife is a little low now. I dont know what it is, maybe Im not aggresive enough or what to close the deal. But sometimes I think its the women I chose. I have no desire for a serious relationship but would like a fwb ar a short term relationship at this point. NOT looking for love, its a rough road that I have to avoid right now.

    I want to explore stuff I never would have thought of or too scared to do. Casual partners that want to do the same. Need to uhh, get my numbers up to be a little more satisfied with myself.
     
  11. nyxx

    nyxx New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2010
    Messages:
    791
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Toronto, ON
    in a relationship. its a great time. sexually satisfied so far. we said we'd try anything that either of us wanted at least once... been quite a ride. we've been together since january. as for your why does she get mad at the innocent and not the cheater... its probably because she thinks your seduced him and made their innocent man do somthing terrible :p
     
  12. lbushwalker

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    6,964
    Likes Received:
    5,077
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    'Stralia Mate!
    Married 32 years & separated 3 yo ago as nothing left between us.
    Had a period of roaring catch up sex with half a dozen also sex starved women, sometimes two different ones on same day....exhilirating but emotionally & physically exhausting. One a neglected married woman became the favourite FB was the hottest; she also knew of the others so tried even harder!
    Finally was hooked in (she pursued me) by 26 yo virgin and albeit reluctantly traded her for all my other sex partners.
    Now 2 years live-in relationship with this pettite, big boobed, sexiest, hottest, horniest woman I ever dreamed of ever meeting. She 30 years my junior but keeping me "young", having sex whenever the urge arises.....she is always wet & ready in less than 5 minutes and willing to try anything.
    I sometimes have to pinch myself to check if it is reality.
    Gonna die one day but hope it is from a massive MI whilst fucking.
    Satisfied..........you becha!
     
  13. wht1zzfe

    wht1zzfe New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 1, 2008
    Messages:
    111
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    together 6 years, but not married. relationship is good, sex is lacking. think its her bc messing with her, shes been on it all 6 years. went out a few weeks ago and she was telling me how she had been off it for a while and how horny she had been and how much she had been masturbating. im fairly adventurous in the sack, her not so much. cant even remember the last time we slept together and i wont be able to have sex for at least another month. if shes not ready to throw me down and rip my clothes off next time i see her it may be time for a serious talk :(
     
  14. Texas_Red

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 24, 2010
    Messages:
    2,313
    Likes Received:
    14
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    Single, making somewhat of an attempt at becoming a more social person, dating etc. I wouldn't say I am sexually satisfied, but I am not a sexual wasteland either.

    What would I change? Well, that involves getting myself an SO first. :p And for certain, I am looking for a keeper. Never been keen on sport fucking or anything super casual, though I did experience it once just to see.
     
  15. zombieguy13

    zombieguy13 Member

    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2011
    Messages:
    72
    Likes Received:
    7
    Gender:
    Male
    Single here, not exactly happy about it. Although after my last g/f I'm not sure I want another one any time soon. It would be nice to have a sex buddy or something of the sort though, random porn searches is really starting to get kind of dull. If I could change something, I would obviously get the sex buddy I desire. They would have to be open though, I've only been with 3 girls, all with radically different tastes, so I myself am left wanting to learn/try some new things. I started out as a shy, gentle, afraid to hurt the girl kind of guy. Now-a-days however, I've transformed into a dominant, choking, slapping, make you hurt with pleasure kind of guy. So I'd like to try some different things and find out what's fun and what's not.
     
  16. cbrmale

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 26, 2006
    Messages:
    3,493
    Likes Received:
    291
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Canberra
    Married 25 years and sex now is better than it's ever been between us. We have an open relationship but it's just me who goes beyond, but what I do very infrequent and very irregular, as my marital sex is very satisfying. We usually have sex about three times a week and almost always set aside a few hours on a Sunday afternoon and take our time.

    We have two grown-up children, 19 and 21, but they were raised African-style, which means they never really intruded much.
     
  17. Untamed

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 2, 2010
    Messages:
    2,168
    Likes Received:
    331
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    New Zealand
    I have been separated from my kids Dad for nearly 3 years. Still need to make it official by getting a divorce.

    I am in a long-distance relationship which has it's ups and downs. Mainly the distance and getting time to talk to one another that's hard.


    I am sexually satisfied thanks to being good at pleasuring myself.

    Sexually Frustrated? My vagina is missing my Man's cock and my lips and tongue are missing the taste of his cum!

    Am I looking? Not at all


    I would have my partner here in New Zealand where we would be able to actually spend time together and actually touch/kiss/hug and have sex

    I miss him :(
     
  18. MILF_Rider

    MILF_Rider Member

    Joined:
    Apr 27, 2011
    Messages:
    396
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Michigan
    Married nearly 10 years, we're going to Disney for our anniversary in Sept., We met around Thanksgiving 1999.

    Happy with our relationship and the sex, we have our issues but have learned alot about working through them together - it's just inevitable to have challenges getting time with 2 kids close in age, I say their being ages 4 and 5 is part of the challenge but I'm sure they'll be challenging until they move out in varying manners.

    More time alone together while she is still awake and energized, otherwise 2 notes: I wouldn't have any different type of relationship and the kids matter more than the sex, so whatever complaint I might have, the kids are a choice we made and one we wouldn't change.

    You're 18. Presumably your boyfriends have been around 18. That pretty much explains the above.

    As for you hooking up with a married guy. I assume it wasn't your intention, and he kept it hidden from you. Hopefully you are better at recognizing it. Rings are an obvious thing to look for, but rings come off. Signs he wears a ring are less easy to hide - tan lines or whatnot.
     
  19. LivingDeadGirl

    LivingDeadGirl New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2011
    Messages:
    86
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Santa Cruz, CA
    actually most of my boyfriends have been a lot older. i dated a much older guy when i was 16, even though i told him i was 18. lol.
     
  20. inchaosandriots

    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2011
    Messages:
    58
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    in a relationship.... and it's complicated.

    ( and practically devoid of sex )