Cumming during sex

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  1. sexynzgirl

    sexynzgirl New Member

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    Hi there I was wondering if there are any other women in the forums who don't orgasm during sex? The only way I can cum during sex is if I'm playing with my clitoris. I have heard of women having multiple orgasms and things like that during sex and I feel like I might not be doing it properly or something or is it just me?
     
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    actually alot of women are like that, from what i been told its easier for a woman to get off rubing her clit during sex than just from intercourse. Not all women but a good majority. Depends on the postion and such.
     
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    HI!
    It's not just you! I have only orgasmed with clitoral stimulation, although I have come (pun intended) reeeeaaaally close to orgasming thru g-spot only, when doing it doggy style and once while fisting. I can have multiple O's, but only with the clit stimulous ;)
    I think it's totally normal, and its a very rare (and LUCKY) lady who can cum without rubbing her clit!
     
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    I must be a lucky guy because pretty much whatever i do to my GF she can orgasm. She tells me i hit a certain spot (G-spot?) when i'm inside her and she can orgasm just from that alone. She also has what she calls whole body orgasms and it brings tears to her eyes. She also has several in a row. Just so you'll know she has had sex for 18 years and just now has been finding out what her body can do. I think alot more women would be able to do some things they thought they couldn't do if they find the right man that takes the time to learn about their womans body. I thought about the line you used about possibly you not doing it right? I think maybe your lover should take a little more time and learn alot more about pleasing you.
     
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    Hi Sexynzgirl

    I definitely wouldn't worry too much about not doing it properly. I believe many many women need clitoral stimulation to cum regardless. And I don't see that as any problem. The key is to ensure that you get that stimulation during intercourse, and that can be a combination of you or your partner taking care of that or by using a vibrator which can help both partners.

    To me one of the greatest gifts a woman can give her man is to cum during intercourse. How that's actually achieved is less important to me.
     
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    Well stated Brad! Rose got off by us doing "69" about a year and a half ago. It was the first time in her life that she had an orgasm from oral and it was the longest and most intense orgasm she had had to that point. Since then she only wants to get off orally. And when we try to get her off by intercourse it won't work so we switch to oral. She has gotten off several times since then from anal intercourse and clitoral stimulation from a vibe. But just yesterday I had her laying stomach down while I was penetrating her (vagina) while she used a smile vibe on her clit. She got off just as long and as intense as any O she has ever had. So yeah, as Brad said, "To me one of the greatest gifts a woman can give her man is to cum during intercourse. How that's actually achieved is less important to me."
     
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    As others have said, this is not uncommon. Everyone is different. Some women don't have a problem cumming and others are like yourself. My best advice is to just try and relax. The more uptight about things you are the harder it will be to have an orgasm. Are you comfortable with your partner? Maybe you could get your partner to help you out. Show him what would help you get over the "hump." Maybe the two of you could have fun exploring.
     
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    The clit is one of the most sensitive arousal points of a woman. As nature would have it,it is placed in just the right position to be stimulated and rubbed during intercourse (missionary style). Now that we have evolved into new positions, we need to be more creative with clitoral stimulation. Touching it yourself, or your partner massaging it, is one answer. Small vibrators are good as well.
    And btw, you CAN have multiple orgasms through clitoral stimulated sex. I have found that if I keep the sensitivity level up after having one, and gradually work back into a frenzy (LOL) - I can have several. I believe the most I have had in one setting was 5.
    Good luck, hun.
     
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    Da clit

    I'll take exception to one thing that Rose said - the clit being in the proper place to get stimulated during missionary sex.

    From what I have seen, and read, that's one of the problems. OK - so SOME women are "shaped" a little differently and some have larger clits (easier to get at during PIV sex) but on many women their clit is so "hidden" (like my wife's) that there is no way the penis will rub it during sex.

    Watch some porn and you will see that sometimes the clit is a good inch away from her vaginal opening, making it pretty hard to rub with one's c*ck.

    Stats say that 60% of women need clit stimulation to have an orgasm. So guys, if your c*ck doesn't do it alone, put the fingers or a vibe to work at the same time.
     
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    Google "coital alignment technique" (CAT) and you'll find a slight variation to the missionary position that usually works. I drive my wife bonkers with it. It would be especially good for guys who suffer from PE, as it doesn't provide as much stimulation for the male while grinding away at the female's clitoris. Mounting high helps too, so the "bridge" of the penis base is more apt to rub the clit.
     
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    I agree with Rose.You have to keep the sensitivity level up and you can have several.But I do guess everyone's body is different.I think a lot of it(not all) is mental.However,I do have orgasms with or without my clit being stimulated...lots of them.I can have them all throughout sex if he turns me on just right,with or without clit stimulation.Depends on the mood---it's usually a good mood though :) lol
     
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    Wow, I'm totaly backwards I think. I have a very easy time getting off by g-spot, especially during intercourse, but it takes me a lot longer to get off by clitoral. My man always makes sure that everything is positioned just so that it hits that spot, it works wonders, lol. But I do have to say that's only after a lot of foreplay.
     
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    The only way I can get off is by rubbing my clit, my bf doesn't get into oral sex, so I have to do it when he's not home, someday I'll get him to change his mind :brow He just dead set on getting me off while making love to me missionary or doggy style, I get really wet but that's about it, and I get close to getting off, but he can't last that long...lol
     
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    Someone educate that man ... please!
     
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    I can get off easily in a few different positions.

    For Missionary, I have found that if I arch my back a certain way my clit will rub against some part of his body while having sex.

    My fave position is me on top ;) If I lean forward my clit rubs against that beautiful hard bone just above his penis and if I lean almost all the way back my fiancee will rub my clit for me.

    Also a big fan of doggy, I usually bring in a vibe to rub on my clit, or he will rub it or I'll do it myself. Have also have a few Gspot orgasms this way. Also, it pays to have a crappy matress, I like to do a laying down doggy with my legs closed, that just gets me wild. And also my clit sometimes rubs against a spring that sticks out farther on the matress depending on where I'm laying. Now that is quite great Hahaha.
     
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    Ah so thats what multiple orgasms are! I thought they must be when a woman has like 3 or four orgasms with a few seconds in between....doh, yes I can orgasm a few times in one sitting :) and I've also discovered that if my partner and I are doing missionary and I'm revved up enough, just the feeling of the area above his cock rubbing against it when hes on top of me can do the job quite nicely :)

    Oh and another thing too rose, the most I've had in one sitting was 5 also, and I was on my own with a few videos tee hee :p

    Thank you to everyone who posted with advice it was most helpful
     
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    Mystic is that picture you? If it is you are soooo pretty... thanks for the advice hun
     
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    Very common sexynzgirl, in most positions the parts just don't line up right to involve the clit. Generally I solve this by eating first and the having intercourse.
     
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    I kindof have my own problem if someone would like to let me know there thoughts...

    My girlfriend is in the majority group that can only cum with clitoral stimulation, but according to her all of her really close friends 4-5 of them total all have orgasms with just intercourse (no clit stimulation) and untill recently when we talked about this she thought she was broken. Well I have explained to her that they are either lieing or its just a wierd thing that all of her close friends can cum with just intercourse. I have also shown her facts researched on the internet and in the book we have that in fact most females cannot climax with just intercourse alone. I have come to the conclusion that she really doesn't like the fact that she is the only one out of a few friends that cannot do this, and it is causing her to not enjoy sex as much as before she knew this. I only say this because around the time we had this talk, her sex drive has dropped alot and i feel like it bother's her subconciously (because i have talked since about it and she says nothing is wrong). We still have great sex and orgasms very regularly, weather it be by oral sex, vibrator, or just masterbating together, so i guess my question to anyone is...

    Have you ever known someone in the same situation? How did it work out?
    Should i have her ask more of her friends? (to show she's not alone)
    Any advice in general??

    Thanks
     
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    My wife only cums with clitoral stimulation. In the past, from time to time and just out of curiosity, I had tried other methods, but it only happens when I rub or lick her clitoris. It's never bothered us. We realize that some people are wired differently in various ways. For example, if my wife licks and kisses my neck, I am in rapture and get very sexually "hot". If I lick and kiss my wife's neck, whether she is sexually turned on or not, it just tickles but doesn't do anything for her sexually like it does for me. All I can say is that we enjoy what gives us pleasure and if something doesn't give us pleasure but gives someone else pleasure, well, hey, we wish them well, hope that they enjoy it but if it doesn't work for us we don't worry about it. We've been married 28 years so it's working out for us. I have wished that we would have sex more often, however, when it does happen, it is wonderful so I can't complain too much, ha, ha!
     
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