Cum-ing question....

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  1. spiceoflife2k1

    spiceoflife2k1 New Member

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    Hello all..

    I am new on these boards...

    I was just wondering if there is anything wrong with me...

    I am a 23 year old straight male. I have had 3 girlfriends (before the one I am with now)
    I have been having sex since I was 18. The first time I has sex, I was so nervous, I never came.
    All the time after that, I never came either.... Even with my other girlfriends I could never cum during sex.
    If I masturbated myself, I could cum no problem... But during sex I could not.

    Finally, at 23 years old, with the girl I am with now, I FINALLY CAME.
    At first I didn't cum when having sex with her... Then after a couple times doing it.. I felt the urge, I felt ot before with my other partners, but nothing ever happened... When I was having sex with my current girlfriend, I felt the urge, and kept going and I came..

    I was just wondering... Was something wrong with me before?

    Was I thinking about it too much?

    Any input would be greatly appricheated.

    thanks,

    Adam ;)
     
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    I'd say you were blessed, lol.
     
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    Probably thinking about it to much. There have been times when I have had problems cumming in the past. Usually caused be stress in the first place but in the end I think the biggest problem was me worrying about not cumming. That may be your problem and it may not but the main thing is that it's working now so keep up the good work and have fun. ;)
     
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    blessed??

    why is that blessed tho?

    because then the girls feel bad because they think it's them
     
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    ya maybe i was thinking about it too much..

    my current girlfriend now, It's no problem cuming with her.... i usually take about 20-40 minutes....
    Ya.. stress can do it.. but i was just putting useless stress on myself for no reason and was thinking about it too much :(

    Ya sex is SSSSOOOOOOOO much better now that I actually cum...
    It's like a whole life altering experience.. hehe

    Thanks all for the help!
    I thought something was wrong with me
     
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    I agree. I have a similar problem. I am recently married and for the first time in my life have had problems cumming. There is a lot of emotional stuff, and work is insane. I start worrying about not finishing then I can't finish. I have been working on just a positive attitude and it helps - not easy though because I am a doctor - part of my job is to see the bad side and always see consequences and potenital complications with any situation. Now it is part of my life. I dissect my marriage and its components and forsee potential consequence - yep makes it hard to cum! Working on easing up.
     
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    I am 23..... it took a while.. but when i finally came.. it was so great!!!
    I felt so at easy with myself.. no more stress of having to cum... I was so content with myself for the first time in my life..

    Just relax... get the wife to talk dirty to you.. that's what works for me :)

    different strokes for different folks :)
     
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    Good idea:)
     
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    Good luck bro!
     
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